A good investment in a man's life: treat your wife well.
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The first course: the first two years after marriage, this period is called the bonding period
This period of bonding is the contrast between pre and post marriage. A lot of newlyweds, say their conflicts are actually very small, what the husband does not like to wash his feet, so that the quilt is stinky.
Wife tube heaven and earth, and a tigress, these small things their feeling is that he is on purpose, he just do not love, he is not on, he can not change
So many people in this period of time easy to anxiety, afraid and such a person to live the rest of his life, but what to do?
Then there is a regret for choosing the wrong person, another person may be better
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Or, if I had been with my ex or with that person, it may be good, these ideas can not help you to grind only further damage your relationship.
If you want to get through this, you have to have a correct perception of the wedding cigarettes, that is, the wedding cigarettes are everywhere shortcomings
If you can't accept a person's bad, you can't enjoy his good, and without this perception, no one will be able to get through it.
The second hurdle: before and after pregnancy, we call it the period of acceptance
This period is the test of the integration of the two families
This time the family in addition to the child, there are grandparents, grandparents are likely to be involved in your life.
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This period of family relations will become much more complex
Previously, you just need to care about each other
The two of you will be able to quarrel with each other, or hug each other, and then it will be fine
But now there are several more people at once, and when they quarrel, they will be able to aggravate the conflict.
Not to mention the children, you want to take this and he wants to take that, then this kind of time you will be particularly easy to feel that I can not get into it.
This home is not mine, and I have to carry the burden of everything alone. Many new moms even say, "How could I give birth to a child to such a person?
Then this time want to get through this hurdle, you have to establish the correct family sort.
No matter who is in the family, couples must put each other first, only then you can **** together to get through this hurdle.
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The third hurdle: before the children's college, which is called the stabilization period.
In this period the test is your business wisdom
After the child goes to school, the family's life will revolve around the child's school vacation special class began to turn, the child's time is fixed, can do things can be fixed.
Then your life will start to be routine, and it will be difficult to have new ideas.
Plus two people, also began to be familiar with each other, acceptance, not much hope, he is such a person, change can not be changed, it will be difficult to have waves in the relationship.
During this period, couples are especially prone to enter the state of hitchhiking.
Three hundred and sixty-five days are repeated, as if life can be seen at a glance to the end of the same, not willing to do nothing.
There are also a lot of couples who are counting the days until their kids are done with their college exams, and then they're going to get a divorce.
There are also many couples who feel that this life is too boring, I have to go out and find something interesting to do.
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Then the way to get through this hurdle is to rebuild your intimacy.
Many couples are just familiar with each other, but don't really know, let alone understand, and understanding is what really makes your days go by.
The fourth hurdle: when the kids leave home is called the empty nest period
The test is the couple's ability to be alone.
This period, the child may have a job, and more time for themselves, finally can not be busy all day for others, and no longer have to endure for the sake of the child.
Before there was work to be done, which allowed you to get away from it all.
Now you won't get along if you look at each other every day. So some couples at this stage choose to divorce even though they are old.
Some couples the man every day and other people play chess, the woman can only go to the square dance, anyway, find something to do, do not stare at home will be better than this.
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But all of these methods can only make their hearts or the feeling of deficit.
So this time two people must start to rebuild the mode of getting along, find something two people can play together to do, happiness will be much stronger.
But if you've established intimacy, established family ordering, and established family rules in the previous three stages.
The problem of the fourth hurdle won't exist
If you do have these four hurdles, it's really the hardest look of a lifetime for a couple . The hardest look of a lifetime.
Because each period requires a different solution, but the scary thing is that many people never go to how to solve it, but not to solve it.