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I saw a divorced woman on the Internet. She said that she was 35 years old, had no house, no car, no deposit, no job and took a daughter. Now she wants to find a divorced man with children, because she doesn't want any more children.
Netizens are enthusiastic, and they have made suggestions to let her find a job to earn money first, and don't think about continuing to jump into the fire pit.
The 35-year-old divorced woman said that she had not entered the workplace for seven years and felt that she was not competitive, but she was suitable for being a housewife at home.
Netizens continue to ask questions, what is the reason for the end of the last marriage? She said it was because having a husband was similar to not having a husband. She stays at home alone every day and no one cares about her.
The netizen hit the nail on the head and pointed out that if your ex-husband didn't work day and night, didn't go on a business trip and didn't work overtime, how could you not go out to work for seven consecutive years? You are too idle, and people begin to be melodramatic when they are idle.
Now that the first marriage is over, I still feel that a man will continue to support you and still have a lot of time and thought to treat you. Come on, this is life, not TV series and novels.
Can a 35-year-old woman be more rational and logical? !
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In my opinion, this woman has fallen into the artificial decoration aura of middle-aged girls.
What is a decorative halo? That is, people are still young and happy in middle age. Who doesn't like a handsome, gentle and considerate husband, a lively, lovely and well-behaved child, and a lot of time and money to squander? It doesn't matter if you lose the last paragraph at the age of 35, you can have the next paragraph.
But I want to say, wake up, families should run well and people should start their own businesses.
When I was a child, I was curious to see my mother ask my father for living expenses. Why, why do they blow their beards and stare when it comes to money? Later, when I grew up, I gradually understood the difficulty, but I was not as poor as those who knew it.
When my mother was 35, I 10, and my family was very poor. Although I don't have to spend money to buy a house and live in a dormitory, I still have to pay management fees and utilities, including family living expenses, my tuition and school expenses, and filial piety to my grandparents.
No woman loves beauty, and her mother is also a middle-aged girl who loves beauty. So these 7788, all kinds of expenses became a mountain of pressure on my father, so wars often broke out at home.
When I grow up, I earn money for my parents every month except for a little living expenses. I hope they don't have to fly into a rage for a little money. But every time I get a call from my mother asking me for extra pocket money, it's not without collapse. I really want to fly into a rage.
Once, I saw my mother chatting with some aunts about her clothes, shoes and jewelry.
My mother proudly said that this was bought by her husband and that was bought by her daughter, asking them to buy something for her in the future. An aunt also said what her husband and children bought for her.
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Later, I deeply analyzed my mother's mentality, that is, a typical person sets up a decorative aura, and everything is given by others, even though this other person is the husband and child of a close relative. She thought that she would be happy only if someone gave it to her, so she never thought about making money to buy it for herself.
The same is true of the 35-year-old divorced woman mentioned above, who is obsessed with artificial aura all day. It doesn't matter if one is broken, she keeps looking for the next one.
But you haven't thought about it carefully. A divorced man of the same age with children, plus you and your daughter, has to support four people and pay off the mortgage. You can't work overtime day and night, because you won't have much time to accompany you, which will lead to a marriage change and you can't have children. Because you are old, production is risky.
Is there such a man?
The eyes of netizens are discerning, so I advise the 35-year-old divorced woman with a baby to find a job first. Only when she is strong, capable and powerful will she be more confident.
When you can take responsibility for your willfulness and unreasonable troubles in your life without affecting others, it shows that you have the strength to make trouble.
But in reality, many divorced women still have to arrange their own lives first, instead of rushing to find other men to pay for their waywardness.
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35 years old, is a very beautiful age, understand the world, understand some truth, but also suffered some losses, been fooled, but still strong.
Women of this age should be open-minded, wise and chic. It doesn't matter if they suffer losses. Timely stop loss is the most important. You can fantasize, but resolutely refuse to be silly and sweet, and refuse to be trapped by brainless girls and women under 35.
At the age of 35, besides her husband and marriage, there are many things that can be achieved, such as her career and achievements, such as talent and accomplishment, such as the irreplaceability of professional skills, such as having core competence that others do not have. There are many more, instead of pursuing emotional and economic comfort and husband's concern all day.
A 35-year-old woman needs self-reliance and more self-confidence to break the decorative aura of those who are ineffective.