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I always see this sentence: You can never wake up someone who pretends to be asleep, and you can never touch someone who doesn't love you.
I used to agree with this kind of helpless and hurt tone, which contained anger and resentment, so I followed the others and reprimanded this kind of person who pretends to be asleep, is heartless, and always loves but abandons people. For example, Hu Lancheng, who Zhang Ailing couldn't wake up... all because she no longer loves him.
Only after understanding and thinking about it can I truly understand the profound meaning, a kind of ultimate helplessness. From now on, I no longer simply complain about those who pretend to be asleep and those who no longer love.
Since a person pretends to be asleep and should not shout, he must have his own reasons. It is the same as pretending to be crazy and acting stupid. Maybe he does not want to be too sober, or maybe he is afraid of being condemned by his conscience. Pretending to sleep can at least keep him quiet. For a while, I can get through it temporarily and avoid everything that wakes up: conflicts, embarrassment, guilt, quarrels, soft-heartedness... But I don't want to violate my inner needs or compromise, so I can only pretend to be asleep.
No matter how much you scream, cry in pain, beg, and try every means to influence him, he will not be moved by you and continue to remain silent and pretend to sleep. Don't argue, don't argue, don't admit, don't face. After a long time, when you are tired, you will give up on everything.
If a person really doesn’t love anymore and can’t love anymore, from the bottom of his heart, is this considered wrong?
You no longer love him, but you insist on moving him, insisting that he be in sync with you, trying to "change my heart for yours", it will not work in the end, and the result will be more miserable, embarrassing and tortured You can only be yourself.
The reason is very simple, just three words: I don’t love it anymore. What can you do except accept it without tears?
Understanding is understanding, but there are some people who are willing to fly into flames and fall into the cliff, like gamblers, but still enjoy it.
That’s how life is, you choose the path you choose and walk it yourself, no matter what others think. As long as you are willing and like it, no one can stop it. Why bother to stop it.
Only you know whether your shoes fit well or not.
This can be regarded as an understanding.
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As long as you really want to understand and have the ability to understand, there is nothing that cannot be understood, including murder and arson.
Existence is reasonable. Everything in the world is. Everything that makes you happy, angry, sad, and joyful has its own reason.
There are no evil people. From another perspective, bad people are all human beings, just different people.
A good person in your eyes may be a bad person in the eyes of others, and vice versa.
There are always some people who talk about others with disdain, ridicule, and find it incredible. Talking about the boredom of dancing and the emptiness of taking drugs...
I often say, if I were you, I would not be like you, but what would happen.
But whoever is who, there is no if, and it cannot be changed. When God created man, there was no mold, every man was exactly the same.
I am not a fish, I know the joy of fish.
Change the position, maybe it will be the same. There are some things that you don’t have to agree with or do, but you can try to understand them.
Once you understand, there will be less complaints, no entanglements, suddenly enlightenment, and everything will disappear.
Once you understand, you can control your heart, become calm and at ease. Everything you want is available, and everything you don’t want is gone. Sadness can turn into joy, and joy can turn into sadness.
Everything is in the heart. It’s not what the world is like, it’s how you see the world.
If you still can't accept it, can't calm down, and can't get out, then you haven't fully understood it, you haven't really understood it, or you're unwilling to face it.
Enlightenment, that’s probably it.