Mastering the nine points of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will solve the problem.

1, learn to appreciate each other, relax, get along with your mother-in-law, and learn to amplify each other's advantages. When your mother-in-law does something that she is very happy about, she should immediately show her previous shortcomings and learn more from her mother-in-law in the future. When you are unhappy and really feel entangled, imagine your mother-in-law raising her husband hard and telling herself how tolerant I am. 2, empathy, although the mother-in-law did not raise you, but she raised your husband, so since you love your husband, you must understand your son's feelings for his mother, respect his mother with him, and you also have parents. Will you be happy if your husband talks back to your parents? So give your mother-in-law a smile and chat with her more. 3. Play your own role and don't be too close to your husband in front of your mother-in-law. Although you think you are used to this kind of communication, the old man is an old man after all. They have traditional ideas, just like in front of outsiders. Being too close to your husband is also disrespectful to others. When making suggestions, you should take care of your husband's emotions. When it comes to matters involving her husband's family, especially money, always give advice to her husband, but be sure to take care of his emotions and speak skillfully. You must gently reason with your husband and let her know that you are willing to help but you can't for some reason. It will be more comforting to make suggestions. But you have to pay some money, such as treating your father-in-law. In this case, you can take out the money and give it to your mother-in-law, which will please your mother-in-law and satisfy your husband, and you will be considered more in the future. 5. It's easy to understand that you respect your husband in front of your mother-in-law. On the other hand, if your parents come to live at home and your husband keeps ordering you to do this and that, how do your parents feel? They will think that it is not easy for their daughter to live at home. She is tired. Especially in China, a patriarchal society, my mother-in-law will be unhappy when she sees that you have nothing to do with your husband. Her son can't make decisions at home, but he is actually bossed around by a woman. Who won't have resistance? After leaving your mother-in-law's sight, you can do whatever you want, just don't let her see it. 6. Pay more attention to the daily life of considerate mother-in-law. The so-called old children, the mother-in-law is old and needs more care from the younger generation, but the care for the mother-in-law must be skillful and must be loved to the blade. I want to buy one for my mother-in-law when I buy something for my mother. How to observe her daily life carefully, hot and cold? What do you want to eat? what do you want to do? Take the time to satisfy her wishes. 7. Be a good listener. Listen to your mother-in-law when you have time. She likes to nag, so let her nag. It's nothing more than her son's business Talk about the difficulty of raising a son and the process of his growth. Listen and echo. You should make her feel that you and she are family, and that she has more daughters with you than the woman who robbed her son. 8. Respect each other's habits and choices. You'd better get to know her husband before your mother-in-law comes to your house. Before living with her mother-in-law, many daughters-in-law thought her mother-in-law was still good, but living together was full of contradictions. First of all, we must know that there can be no contradiction in living together. Even if I live with my mother, sometimes I will be unhappy, let alone my mother-in-law. But there are some principled things, such as: you can't get up early, you can't do housework every day, and you and your husband don't have the concept that men are superior to women. Please communicate with your husband before your mother-in-law comes and ask him to tell her in advance. And if you really can't stand some things in the process of living together, please don't bear it, let your husband talk to your mother-in-law. Let your mother-in-law realize that you all have different lifestyles, but you should respect each other. In short, don't forcibly change each other's habits, so that we can get along more harmoniously. 9. Choose to forget some things and live together. There will always be little friction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Let bygones be bygones, and don't always hold it in your heart. If your mother talks about you, you will forget it in two days. To some extent, the mother-in-law is a bit of a parent. She may sometimes love to educate you and listen to a few words if she wants to. If she didn't want to listen, she ignored her and argued with her. After the debate, it's just that we are still a family. Putting on a cold face is never a good idea. Your husband is embarrassed, and your mother-in-law thinks you are not sensible. You are still angry in your heart. This is not a matter of principle. Don't haggle too much. Mastering the mother-in-law problem at nine o'clock will solve it. When a sweet-mouthed daughter-in-law is with her mother-in-law, she should be sweet-mouthed and try to say good things, such as "dancing square dance is very powerful and her mother-in-law looks good". It can not only make her mother-in-law keep up with the trend, but also make her mother-in-law happy. Why not kill two birds with one stone? After all, the mother-in-law is both a woman and a daughter-in-law. Why do women embarrass women? For the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, she actually knows the mood and situation best. For people who have had similar experiences, they can turn their enemies into friends as long as they are emotional and rational. However, besides being sweet-mouthed, you should also know how to give gifts to influence your mother-in-law, so it is very important to give the right gifts. Smile and "laugh it off" and live in harmony with your mother-in-law. Whatever she says, don't refute it. Although what my mother-in-law said is sometimes too straightforward, it is all true. A clever daughter-in-law should give her proper understanding. This kind of "laugh it off" attitude is quite irritating to my mother-in-law. Coquetry should be a woman's strong point, such as coquetry behind her parents and husband. Of course, you can also coquetry behind your mother-in-law's back. Of course, this kind of coquetry can't be the same as cheating on your mother. Because she is not your mother after all, let her think that you are her daughter, not to mention coquetry is weakness. Cooking The biggest gain for everyone who cooks is that people who eat are happy and praised. So when your mother-in-law tastes her cooking, don't be stingy with your praise. Children should take their children to see their parents-in-law on holiday, and remember to tell the elderly after entering the house; The children are always thinking about you two and clamoring for you all day. In this way, the elderly will feel gratified, the grandchildren will be sensible, and the daughter-in-law will be taught well. On the other hand, raising children from an early age requires filial piety. It's a good thing anyway. Occasionally, I agree with my mother-in-law's opinions, or have a heart-to-heart talk with my mother-in-law. Occasionally, I say "Yes" and "Isn't it" to express the same view, which also brings us closer to each other's feelings and shows our support for my mother-in-law.