According to folk tradition, dressing up the bride is not a personal behavior, but an integral part of the wedding ceremony. The ancient etiquette customs of bathing and changing clothes, "going up to the head" and "opening the face" are popular among people in northern and southern China.
Open face, also known as open face. The so-called face opening means shaving with a knife or twisting two threads together to remove the hair on the face or neck and trim the temples. The opening of the face must be done one day before the marriage, and it must be done by a blessed woman with both children. There are still such customs in some areas in recent and modern times. Mr. Ba Jin's novel "Spring" once wrote such a detail: Hui was getting married, and Mrs. Zhou came to show off to Hui. She used silk thread to carefully twist and pull out the hair on Hui's face and neck, and told Hui in a whisper. Some etiquette for going to someone else's house to be a daughter-in-law. After opening the face, you put on the "hijab" and go to your husband's house in a sedan or on horseback.
The bride in Shaoxing, Zhejiang Province holds a bathing ceremony at her parents’ home. The ceremony was presided over by two middle-aged couples who were both married and had many children. One person holds a sieve in hand, puts some red-dyed hi fruits and duck eggs on the sieve, and uses a large foot basin to connect it below. The other person pours hot water from the sieve into the foot basin, and then dips a towel in the water for the newlyweds to wipe it three times in a row. The bride performs the "face-opening ceremony" after taking a bath. According to local custom, an unmarried woman is called "hairy face". When she opens her face for the first time before marriage, she asks an old woman to use a thread to remove the hair on her face, trim her eyebrows, trim her temples, and pluck out 7 strands of the bride's hair, mix them with the groom's hair, and twist them into threads. , for the bride to tie her hair into a bun, which means "hair-tied couple".
In the Huzhou area, the man's family sends "the first dish" to the girl's family, that is, along with the sedan clothes, they also give the "face dish" to the girl's family. The "Open Face Plate" has six plates, each containing meat, fish, chicken, happy fruits, firecrackers and red candles, and rouge pollen. After the bride's family receives the face-opening plate, the aunt and other female elders will open the bride's face. What’s funny is that after opening the face in some places, Xiniang applied a thick layer of gouache on the bride until her eyebrows were no longer visible.
It is an old custom in Dongguan, Guangdong that on the eve of the wedding, the bride will choose a good time to hold a "pavilion ceremony" at her parents' home. Ask a lucky woman to pick some pomelo leaves and boil water for the bride to bathe. After the bath, she changes into new clothes. Then she uses red and green silk threads to remove her facial hair and comb her original braids into a "sedan bun". After bathing, shaving, and combing hair, mother serves a cooked chicken with all white feathers. It is customary to eat the head and butt of the chicken, which means "good head and good tail."
Some places pay special attention to the bride's "top" and "open face". In Gaoyou, Jiangsu, girls go through a "head ceremony" on the eve of their wedding. On that day, the girl takes a shower and changes clothes. She sits facing the dressing table, lights a red candle, and drinks two sips of tea. It is commonly known as "closed-mouth tea", which means that she has become a bride from now on and cannot talk too much. According to the custom, she has to eat at her husband's house. You can only speak after drinking tea. Then ask two blessed women to "go up" for her. They first unraveled the girl's braid, combed it together with her bangs and put it into a bun on the back of her head. They painted her face with rouge and pollen, and then used two red gauze ribbons folded into a double layer to tie them tightly from the forehead to the back of the head. There are 12 lines on the hoop, which means "Twelve months of peace", which means teaching the bride to be patient. According to the custom, even if your head hurts, you cannot shout, you must endure it. Legend has it that only in this way, you will not lose your temper if something goes wrong when you go to your husband's house. The facial opening takes place on the first day after arriving at the husband's house. On that day, the mother-in-law's family specially invites the "new mother" to perform the facial opening for the daughter-in-law. The new daughter-in-law got up early and sat upright after washing herself. The new mother picked up two eggs that had been cooked and dyed red in advance, rolled them on the new daughter-in-law's face a few times, used a red gauze band to wipe the hair on her forehead, and then used Pick up a hairpin to pull the short hair down, apply perfume, brush the short hair away, use double strands of cotton wool to twist the hair on the face, and trim the eyebrows into thin and curved shapes.
Before the wedding in Lishui, Zhejiang, the woman has to ask a hairdresser to comb the bride’s hair. The hairdresser should choose an aunt with both parents and many children. Since dressing up the bride usually takes place at night, the woman also invites a pair of unmarried girls with good luck to hold lamps for the bride. In addition to combing her hair, the hairdresser also has to dress the bride. The well-dressed bride wears a phoenix crown on her head, palace clothes, a Xiapei, a jade belt across her waist, a bright red skirt, and accessories all over her body, just like a queen.
In Henan, the sister-in-law combs the hair of the younger sister who is about to get married. There are two situations. One is to comb the hair into a bun, which is the daughter-in-law's hair, which means that the younger sister will become someone else's daughter-in-law. First, the hair is combed according to the daughter's style, that is, long braids, which means that the younger sister is the daughter who is about to leave the palace, and will be tied into a bun by the sister-in-law or aunt after her husband's family. There is a song while combing the girl's hair.
In Changtan County in northern Henan, the lyrics are: "Seven in the front, eight in the back, my husband's family got two and a half hectares, my mother's family got two and eight hectares, and I got half way Marriage."
The bride is very particular about her dress, which can be said to be the most glorious moment in a woman's life. After modern times, when urban men and women get married, the bride wears a veil and a long white skirt that stretches more than a foot on the floor, and her two children hold it behind her as she walks. This is the result of the influence of wedding customs in European and American countries. In terms of decoration, now, with the improvement of people's consumption level, brides generally use gold, silver, jewelry and other accessories to decorate themselves.
Bridal clothing is most exquisite in Wuxian County, Jiangsu Province. According to local customs, newlyweds must have three sets of clothing to wear during and after the wedding. The first set: cotton trousers, commonly known as "flesh-covered cotton-padded jacket and trousers", which are given to the bride by the man when she gets married. In addition to being worn on the wedding day, this set of clothes can be worn when you return home the next day, when you return to your parents' home for New Year greetings during the first Spring Festival after marriage, when attending the "Buddha Chanting Hall" ceremony after your mother turns 50, and when attending weddings of close relatives and friends of the same generation. Can be worn from time to time. The second set: a beaded crown on the head, a pink embroidered phoenix, a floral dress with peonies and other patterns, and a floral skirt, which was rented together with the sedan chair. This set is only worn on the sedan chair and during wedding ceremonies. The third set: homespun clothes, indigo homespun turban, indigo homespun shirt, blue ground and white flower printed homespun trousers, indigo homespun long skirt, pink printed homespun rolls to wrap the calf, blue printed homespun socks, embroidered board Toe shoes, this set is worn during labor after marriage. The bride is also very particular about the shoes she wears during her wedding, and she also needs to prepare three pairs. Wear shoes with the pattern of "Jade Hall Wealth and Honor" during the wedding ceremony; shoes placed on the cake on the "front plate" when getting into the sedan chair, commonly known as "cake stepping shoes", are embroidered with the pattern of blessing, longevity and matching eyebrows, and are carried to the bride's sedan chair. The husband's family; the third pair is replacement shoes after marriage, embroidered with patterns of plum, orchid, bamboo and chrysanthemum.
The costumes of traditional brides in northern Shaanxi are very funny. The bride, who was about to get into the sedan chair, put on a red dress, green trousers, floral shoes, and flowers on her head, looking very charming and charming. However, the custom required that the bride's beautiful face be painted dark with pot black to match the flowers. The clothes are in great contrast. According to superstitious legend, if this is not done, the bride will be amputated by ghosts on the way to the wedding.
In areas such as Huzhou and Anji, Zhejiang, the bride prepares a bath at her parents’ home and prepares a bath for her. After washing, they put on the clothes sent by the man's family from inside to outside. For this reason, there is a local saying that "the man's family fishes people out of the bathtub". According to the old custom, the bride would also wear a long-sleeved red robe, a belt around her waist, and a bunch of evergreens wrapped around her back. It is believed that this will prevent monsters from stealing the bride.
There is also a folk custom of "make-up clothes". The so-called "makeup-inducing clothes" are red cotton-padded jackets. The formation of this custom is of course related to the fact that many weddings are held in winter, so it is not surprising that wearing a red cotton-padded jacket to get married in winter is warm and cozy. What's strange is that brides in some places in Jiangxi, even if they get married in the scorching summer, must wear "make-up clothes" when getting into the sedan chair. Due to local customs, after the bride enters the ceremony, her uncles and uncles carry her into the hall. At this time, relatives, friends and neighbors, young and old, can hit the bride on the back with wooden sticks. It would be difficult to bear it without wearing cotton clothes. There is also an incomprehensible strange local custom, that is, adding a filthy rag temporarily borrowed from a coolie to the bride's new bright red cotton-padded jacket. I don't know why? There are also brides in Zhejiang who must wear it when getting into the sedan chair. There is a slight modification to the custom of cotton-padded jackets. If you get married on a hot day in June or July, the bride can put a ball of cotton in her coat pocket instead of wearing a cotton-padded jacket. As the saying goes: "If the bride has no cotton on her body, her husband will be worthless." (not love)”.
There are also customs and customs for the bride to wear a new wedding dress. In Fuyang, Zhejiang, when the sedan chair is carried to the bride's house and placed on the dustpan, the bride begins to put on makeup and change clothes. After changing into a small shirt and pants, she has to stand on the steamer to put on a red cotton jacket and red cotton trousers. What's interesting is that when you wear a phoenix crown on your head and prepare to wear a red dress, you should take 12 eggs, put them down from the waistband of your trousers, and roll them out from the hems of your trousers. According to popular legend, this will make the bride lay eggs like a hen no matter which month she gives birth. Generally, quickly and smoothly.
The traditional dress of brides in Quanzhou, Fujian before getting married is called "hairpin ceremony". When the sedan chair arrives, the bride, accompanied by her bride-to-be, goes to the hall to dress up, which is commonly known as "dressing up on the sedan chair." A blessed woman called "Bin" will crown her with hairpins, and then the bride-to-be will dress the bride's back. "Bin" will wear a belly skirt for the bride. The belly skirt is made of red cloth. There is a bag inside the skirt. Put 18 things such as honey locust, iron tail, mud baby, pork slices and so on.
The brides in Yangzhou, Jiangsu, dress very modernly and wear a pair of colored glasses when getting into the sedan chair.
People who don't know the origin find it strange. In fact, this custom originates from a superstitious custom. Local customs believe that the bride's eyes are filled with poverty. When the bride puts on her wedding dress, she will be poor wherever she sees. She will be poor as far as she can see. She will see the matchmaker is poor, and her husband's family will be poor. So a custom was established: after the bride puts on her new wedding dress and gets on the sedan, she must close her eyes and is not allowed to open her eyes until she enters the bridal chamber and sits on the bed. But in the complicated wedding process, it is really difficult for the bride to persist. Later, a smart man came up with a way to wear glasses instead of closing his eyes, which was really convenient.
The bride at the wedding is the most beautiful and dazzling. Not only will she be appreciated and praised by the people around her, but she may also attract the envy and jealousy of ghosts and gods. Therefore, in order to avoid extreme happiness leading to sadness, the bride's dressing up often has some "flaws in the ointment". This makes the bride's decoration customs like a kaleidoscope, full of strange things.
Brides in Cangwu area of ??Guangxi must wear black clothes, black pants, black socks and black shoes when they get married, which is so strange that it is shocking. In the mountainous area of ??Shengxian County, Zhejiang Province, the bride must wear plain clothes to get on the sedan chair, and only change into auspicious clothes to hold the wedding when she arrives at the groom's house. Brides in Jingjiang, Jiangsu Province also wear simple clothes when they get married: earthy blue cloth clothes and earthy blue cloth skirts, commonly known as "brush grass clothes and brush skirts." Even now, no matter how fashionable and sophisticated a girl is, she has to wear it when she gets married. Try to make a suit of earthy blue cloth dress to wear.
What are the special wedding customs in various places?
There has always been a saying among the Korean people in China that marriages take place in the south and funerals take place in the north. South, guide Taoist. That is, people who moved from the south of Korea; North, refers to people from the North, that is, people who moved from the north of Korea. Most people from South Dao live in Liaoning Province and Heilongjiang, China, while most people from North Dao live in Yanbian, Jilin Province. Southern wedding is a guide for giving people to pay attention to the wedding, and the ceremony is complicated and grand. Nowadays, in Korean weddings, women marry men at the same time. But that was not the case in the past, wedding companies in Beijing. In a man-to-man marriage, the groom must marry to the bride's home first, and then after a period of time, he takes the bride home. It is a romantic and personalized wedding. Korean calls this kind of marriage Hankonadli. According to the Chronicle of the Three Kingdoms, among Goguryeo people, the custom is marriage, and the language has been decided. The girl’s family builds a small house behind the big house, which is called the wedding room. At dusk, he would go outside the woman's house, kneel down and worship her, and beg for the woman to stay with her. If so, three. The girl's parents obeyed and stayed in the hut. A meal of money and silk. When the son is old, he brings his wife back home. This means that Hankonadri is a double marriage custom. That is to say, first live with your wife, and then live with your husband. But it is different from the second marriage of the Blang people in Yunnan Province. The second marriage of the Blang people is a manifestation of the ancient custom of not leaving the husband's family, that is, after the wedding, the bride returns to her mother's family to live for a long time, waits for a few years or gives birth to her first child, and then returns to her husband's family to live. There is a wedding to be held. Hankonadri of the Korean ethnic group is a composite form of the marriage customs of living with the wife and living with the husband.
Manchu weddings not only have strong characteristics of their own nation, but also incorporate many customs and etiquette of the Han nation. Generally speaking, they go through the following procedures: Engagement: There are two forms of engagement for young Manchu men and women. First, the parents of young men and women are acquaintances or friends, understand each other, and intend to get married, so they ask a matchmaker to make a lifelong promise for their children. In some cases, the man proposes to the woman, and in other cases, the woman proposes to the man. The other is that the man and woman do not know each other and ask a matchmaker to engage their children, and the matchmaker will hand over the couple's doorsteps and issue the names, resumes, surnames and three generations of both parties. In addition, they should check each other's birth dates and treat genital warts.
Putting it down: delivering financial gifts immediately. It is divided into two types: large setting and small setting. Fang Xiaoding means that the future daughter-in-law will receive property when she visits her aunts, brothers, sisters-in-law and other close relatives of the groom's family. The magnification is called a big gift, commonly known as serving a big meal. It means choosing an auspicious day and the man will deliver the betrothal gift to the woman's home. The day before the wedding, Yingfeng wine is drunk at the wedding venue. The bride leaves home and stays in the groom's rented apartment, which is commonly known as leaving her hair. In the early morning of the next day, the woman's family sent the bride off in a float, escorted by her brother. When the float arrives at the groom's house, a brazier is placed on the ground in front of the bridal chamber, and the wedding car carries the bride over the brazier. This is commonly known as going too far to ward off evil spirits. In order to drive away or kill the ghosts that come with the sedan, the groom should shoot three false arrows at the sedan door; there are also actual arrows, but they usually shoot towards the bottom of the sedan to avoid hurting the bride. Then, the bride is helped out of the sedan chair and comes to the front of heaven and earth. Together with the groom, she kowtows to the north three times, which is commonly known as bowing to the Big Dipper. After worshiping the Beidou, the world-famous ritual of setting aside the lamp is performed. That is, the bride and groom, wearing red headscarves, kneel in front of the sacred table in the courtyard, facing south. On the table are a pig's knuckle, three cups of wine, and a sharp knife. The shaman kneels on one leg in front of the table while chanting sutras in Manchu. While using a sharp knife, he cut the meat into pieces and threw them into the air. At the same time, he took the wine cup and poured the wine on the ground.
The main purpose is to beg God to bless the newlyweds so that they can have children and grandchildren and grow old together. After the above ceremonies, the bride is helped into the bridal chamber by a family member (that is, a person with parents and children). When the bride crosses the threshold, a saddle is placed on the threshold and the bride must step over it. The bed in the new house must be laid by everyone. After the bridal chamber is laid, music must be played in the room and called the ring room. When the bride enters the bridal chamber, a little girl holds two bronze mirrors, takes a photo of the bride, and then hangs the bronze mirrors on the bride's chest and back. Then, another little girl handed over two tin pots, which were filled with rice, money, etc. During the wedding, the bride either held them in her arms, or clamped them in her armpits, commonly known as hugging. Aquarius, also called Baobao matchmaking pot. When the bride sits firmly on the bed, the groom uses a scale to remove the red cloth covering the bride's head, which is called uncovering the hijab. Beijing Wedding Celebration. Next, the couple drinks a cup of wine and eats Hexi noodles, longevity noodles, or descendant cakes.
The marriage customs of the Han people in Hunan include complete sets of rituals such as matchmaking, blind date, exchange of sex, marriage, marriage, worship, making room, and return home. The birth date of the child is written on a piece of red paper, and the matchmaker gives it to the other party, which is called Changing Geng or Hairhong Geng. If the marriage goes smoothly, a token is given to each other, which is called Ding Geng. The man gives cloth clothes, and the woman usually gives a pair of cloth shoes, socks soles, and insoles. Choosing auspiciousness to welcome a bride is called passing through the family, and asking for betrothal gifts and dowry from each other. It is a ritual to worship at the wedding hall, perform rituals, and enter the bridal chamber to have a wedding ceremony. There are many forms of wedding ceremony. In western Hunan and southern Hunan, the custom of weeping for marriage is also popular. One or two days before the wedding, or even half a month, they start singing wedding songs to treat breast hyperplasia. In Jiahe County in southern Hunan, it has developed into a complete set of songs and dances to accompany weddings, including happy wedding songs, crying wedding songs, resentment songs, curse songs, separation songs, farewell songs, shooting songs (calendar songs), playing songs, matchmaker bitter songs, Child bride songs, etc., take the form of sitting singing, round singing, chorus, long singing, etc., as well as the "Marriage Dance" with singing and dancing (including dances such as holding candles, burning incense, walking horses, rowing boats, selling wine, grinding mills, and the mother calling the daughter), Everything you encounter while dancing can be used as dance equipment. Among ethnic minorities, young men and women's choices of spouses, engagements and weddings are more colorful than those of the Han people, and many of them still maintain their original and simple characteristics. Ethnic minority youths often get to know each other and find partners during festive festivals or on the way to fairs and meetings. The Miao ethnic group's April 8th and June 6th, autumn singing activities, basic rules for post-wedding photo selection, Juerongxuan wedding planning, and the Dong ethnic group's mountain tours are all excellent opportunities for young men and women to gather and make friends. The Miao people in western Hunan still have the practice of dancing to the moon. On a clear breeze and moonlit night, young boys and virgins go to the top of the mountain in the forest to sing and dance in antiphonal style. Even if the two are not acquainted with each other, they can still make an appointment to get engaged.
Some young men and women from ethnic minority groups have a unique style of engagement. The engagement token of the Yao people in Longhui is an oil-paper umbrella. If the girl's family wants to, they will tie 12 triangular silk thread bundles with various colored fabrics and silk threads and hang them on the support bones of the paper umbrella; the Dong people in Huaihua use thorn chickens. To make love, in a themed wedding on a bright moonlit night, young men and women will meet together accompanied by their partners. The man will bring a big rooster and pierce its comb, and drop the chicken blood into the wine. The two parties will drink and swear to be united forever. Weddings in ethnic minority areas each have their own set of etiquette, which are joyful, warm and full of fun. In the wedding of the Miao people in western Hunan, a face-washing ceremony is held. When the bride arrives at her husband's house, the elders from the groom's side bring a basin of water with a silver bracelet in it. The bride and her husband's family use this basin of water to wash their faces. It is said that after washing your face, the whole family can live in peace and harmony.
Tujia weddings are unique. When a girl gets married, she sings a wedding song. When seeing off the bride, the girl and her mother sing a sedan song. When the newlyweds enter the bridal chamber, the singer sings a congratulatory song and a guest song. The Yao people in southwestern Hunan have a custom of bride snatching. When the groom goes to meet his bride, the bride avoids her and the groom chases her. This happens three times before the bride is considered married. It is said that couples formed in this way can respect and love each other and grow old together.
Appreciate the wedding customs in various places
Qingdao wedding customs
The wedding customs and habits across the country are very different, let us take a look:
Qingdao has many old customs and etiquette. With the progress of society, some cumbersome customs and etiquette have also been abandoned. The following is the author's brief summary of the current Qingdao wedding customs for the reference of those who are interested: Do not turn back and wave to the bride when she goes out. Don't cry when you go out. On the one hand, it is unlucky, and on the other hand, it will damage the makeup. When getting off the car, the groom and the bride should get off from the same side, do not get off separately, otherwise it will be unlucky. Pregnant women should not attend the wedding at the bride's house. When eating dumplings, an even number should be left in the bowl
Beijing wedding customs
The groom will shoot the bride with a false arrow and eat the dumplings first
According to the traditional way in Beijing When people plan to get married, they should first ask a matchmaker to ask the girl's family for her name, and make sure that the boy and girl's birth years match their zodiac signs. As long as the zodiac signs of both parties do not conflict, they can get married. After the engagement is confirmed, the groom's family will choose an auspicious day and hold the engagement ceremony with a red card (marriage certificate). The groom's family will send gifts such as clothes, jewelry, wine and fruit cakes to the bride's family, which is called " One month before the wedding, a "big wedding gift" must be given, usually food, clothing, foreign wine, and live geese. When an auspicious day approaches, the man's family will also send "make-up reminder" gifts to the woman's family, including pork, mutton, dried noodles, rice cakes, etc. Among them, "meat" means that the girl's family is required to cut off her flesh and blood so that her daughter can get married, while rice cake means that her daughter will climb higher after getting married. After the bride's family "purchases the dowry" from the groom's family, they must immediately send the dowry to the groom's family to decorate the new house. Before the bride arrives at the groom's house, the groom will hold a bow and arrow and feint at the bride's feet three times to drive away evil spirits. After that, the bride can step over the brazier before entering. Then, the bride and groom both worship heaven and earth, enter the new house and "sit under the tent", eat "descendants dumplings" (dumplings) and longevity noodles together, and drink glasses of wine. On the third day after the wedding,
the new brother-in-law accompanied his new daughter-in-law back home and paid homage to her parents-in-law.
Shanghai wedding customs
The bride changes her shoes and leaves her natal home with a red umbrella all the way to her husband’s house
The so-called customs in various villages and places, people from different provinces and places of origin in China When holding a wedding ceremony, there are also unique wedding customs. Although some interesting traditional etiquette have been omitted due to the development of civilization or the simplification of weddings, these old and interesting wedding customs are still of great reading value.
If your significant other is from a different place of origin than you, you can also take this opportunity to get a glimpse of some special and interesting wedding ceremonies in his hometown.
Shanghai’s ancient customs paid great attention to tradition. The complicated six rites ceremony, including receiving gifts, asking for names, accepting gifts, accepting gifts, asking for dates and welcoming brides, were also done according to tradition and were meticulous. Because the young people in the old days Men and women do not have the opportunity to meet and fall in love freely. During the process of proposing a marriage, making an engagement, and even the wedding ceremony, they all rely on a matchmaker to act as a middleman to contact the man and woman and to co-organize the wedding ceremony. Therefore, they must pay attention after the wedding. The matchmaker gives the matchmaker a gift to thank him for his help in promoting the marriage. In the old rural areas, not all families could afford the financial burden of making a dress for the bride.
So when many rural girls got married, they would wear a red gown or a bright red suit instead of a dress. Before the groom goes out, he must first eat a bowl of sweet soup (sugar water) made with lotus seeds and lilies at his parents' house, which represents the bride's family's wish that their daughter can live a sweet and worry-free life after getting married. During the wedding ceremony
a female elder of the bride's family who is a blessed person (that is, a person with both parents, in harmony with her husband and having children) or a female officiant holds a red umbrella and accompanies the bride. Go to protect her from evil spirits. The female emcee should bring an extra pair of brand-new embroidered shoes when the bride goes out. After the bride boards the sedan, she should immediately change the shoes. This means that the bride will leave home to marry and will not bring anything with her. The transfer of things belonging to the woman's family to the husband's family means entrusting her future life to her husband's hands. If the girl's family does not have a banquet to entertain relatives and friends, or there are omissions when sending out invitations, they should send wedding candies (i.e. candies with the word "hi" or red packaging) to these relatives and friends afterwards as a token of appreciation. Officially inform everyone that my daughter is getting married.
Anhui Wedding Customs
The groom stays at the girl’s house the night before and the bride and groom exchange shoes
In the Hefei area of ??Anhui, some ancient customs are still retained during weddings. On the night before the wedding, the groom's family will host a banquet for everyone in the clan, and then the groom will pay homage to his ancestors, parents and elders. After doing so, the welcoming team headed by the groom will head towards the bride's home with gongs and drums playing.
When the wedding team arrives at the door of the bride's house, the bride's house closes the door as usual and asks the groom to set off firecrackers, which are called "door-rushing cannons." The family's relatives and friends ask the groom for "opening money" to open the door. They will reward the bridegroom with money and make repeated requests to the groom before the groom will follow them into the house. That night, the bride's family will hold a banquet to entertain the groom and have a drink with relatives and friends. Before the banquet, the groom must kowtow to the guests and the matriarch. Kowtowing is auspicious, and the groom will stay at his in-law's house that night. On the morning of the next day (that is, the auspicious day of the wedding), the groom's entourage will set off firecrackers in front of the bride's house, which is called "makeup reminder". Home. When leaving the house, the bride will cry loudly to show that she does not want to leave her parents, and her family will also cry to express their farewell. Amid the cries, the groom's brothers or close relatives send her off first, which is called "sending off the bride". When the newlyweds come to the groom's house, the groom's family will ask two women with both children to swap the shoes of the groom and the bride. Because "shoes" and "啕" have the same pronunciation, this move has the meaning of " The symbol of "growing old together". When the groom enters the groom's house, relatives and friends will recite auspicious words and scatter peanuts, red dates and other fruits on the ground, which is called "throwing happy fruits". The subsequent wedding rituals such as worshiping the heaven and the earth, paying homage to each other, and drinking wine are similar to those in other regions.
Hainan Miao people [bite their hands] to confirm their love
Hainan Miao people "bite their hands" to confirm their love: "Reach out your hand to bite your brother, and the more you bite, the more affection you will have for your sister, and the green hills will keep traces of them." "Seeing those tooth marks is like seeing a human being." This is a folk song spread among the Miao people in Hainan Province. "Hand biting" is a unique way for Hainan Miao young men and women to express their love. Every
on holidays, especially on the third day of March, young men and women sing beautiful and beautiful songs to express their ideals and interests under the betel nut trees, in the mango groves, by the rivers and on the grassy hillsides. and your heart’s desire to find your ideal person. Afterwards, the young men picked up their bows, arrows and harpoons and went to the river to catch fish. The girls baked tube rice and cooked fish by the stream until the sun went down. If a young man falls in love with a girl he likes, he will use his mouth bow, nose flute, and leaves to blow melodious tunes at night, and go outside the girl's "long boudoir" (the hut where the young woman lives) to sing the opening song. If
if the girl does not sing the closed-door song, she will open the door and come out. Together they will light a bonfire on the grass or in the bamboo forest, sing and dance, and express their love for each other. At this time, after the girl heard the young man's courtship, she shyly took the young man's hand and took a bite. If the bite was gentle and polite, the young man would understand that the girl was rejecting or hinting at him. If the girl bites him hard, or even bites a bloody mark, it means that the girl is very devoted to him and is willing to accept the love of the young man. After "biting hands" to confirm their love, they each took out their favorite souvenirs, such as rings, earrings, bamboo hats, waist baskets and other gifts, and gave them to each other as tokens of love. , to show lifelong companionship.
Fujian Wedding Customs
One party with a handkerchief is bound to bring a pair of bowls and chopsticks to her husband's house for life
The betrothal must be done by the man himself accompanied by his parents. The betrothal gift is quite simple and The woman is handed over to the woman in public, and the woman gives him a handkerchief in return. This is considered a lifelong engagement. On the eve of the wedding, the bride will stay overnight with her sisters to reminisce about old times and say goodbye, and to get a sign of "prosperity". At noon the next day, the bride's family held a "wedding ceremony". After the banquet, the mother, aunt, aunts and sisters gathered around the bride, hugging her and crying. No firecrackers were allowed during the wedding ceremony. The bride usually wears a skirt when going out, but she can also use a full red dress instead. The larger the bride's dowry, the richer her family's wealth. In order for her daughter to have a successful marriage
, the woman will prepare a large number of expensive gifts, which will be delivered to the groom's house along with the bride on the wedding day. Sometimes the gift-giving team will consist of several cars and A large group of relatives and friends formed a spectacular scene. In the bride's dowry, in addition to traditional Chinese ceremonial items and goldware
, it also includes household appliances, large furniture and even bicycles or motorcycles, etc., all given by the bride's family. In addition, the bride will also bring a New bowls and chopsticks to show that from now on, she will send them to her husband's house for meals. After the bride enters the house, she must serve tea to all relatives in the groom's family, even children of several years old. The order is determined by generation and age. When serving tea, the elders will give gold utensils. (mostly a ring) to the new wife. When offering tea to a female elder, a hairpin will be placed in the elder's hair and a ring will be given as a gift.
After the wedding ceremony is completed, a banquet will be held to entertain relatives, friends and neighbors.
Traditionally, the male and female families will host separate banquets. For example, the male family will serve wine on the wedding night, and the female family will host a banquet the next night. , when there are many relatives and friends or many people in the same village, the wedding banquet may last for several days. On the third day after marriage, the couple returns home and usually does not stay overnight. When the full moon comes after the wedding, the parents' family will invite him back to stay for ten and a half days, which is called "playing with the full moon". In the first month of the following year, the bride's family will invite her to a spring banquet, and the bride will attend with her husband. After the new son-in-law came to the house, relatives from his natal family took turns to hold banquets and invite him to drink. Afterwards, the new son-in-law gave each family a pack of red dates or rock sugar as a token of gratitude. At this point, the marriage process was complete.
Mongolian wedding customs
Marriage. One of the Mongolian wedding customs. In the past, Mongolian marriages were very grand, and they still retained the traditional marriage custom of a man staying at a woman's home to get married. The wedding usually takes place the day before the wedding day. In a joyful atmosphere, the groom put on a gorgeous Mongolian robe, a ribbon on his waist, a round-top red tassel hat on his head, high leather boots, and a bow and arrow. The groomsmen also wore festive attire. They ride on horses together, carry floats and gifts, and go to the bride's house to get married. When the bride goes to the bride's house, she first goes around the yurt and presents a "door-touching sheep" and other gifts to the bride's family. Then, the groom and