Under the influence of this concept, many people are wronged and cautious after entering the unit, only to let others accept themselves, rather than exist independently in the form of individuals; After retirement, I hope to integrate into a circle and become one with people like myself. It seems that only in this way can we find an organization and a place to belong, but is life really happy?
Sister Pan, 58, in the yard, said: After retirement, I experienced some things and met some people, and found that the happiest day in life is actually the time when I am not sociable. Don't worry about other people's eyes, just consider your own inner feelings. It's really happy to live an unsociable life.
0 1. Narrator: Sister Pan
I retired at 55. After retirement, my plan for the future is: to dance square dance in the morning to exercise and meet some people of the same age. After we meet, we can go out to play together when we have time. In my opinion, with friends and friends, life after retirement will be rich and colorful.
I have worked in the unit for 30 years, and I have seen many intrigues in the workplace, and I have also seen many friends say that they are scattered in front of interests. This makes me feel that it is difficult to find true friendship in the workplace, and everyone gets along well, which is often only superficial, so I have not made any intimate friends in my years of work.
After retirement, I get up at six o'clock every morning and go to exercise after breakfast. Most of the people dancing with me are retired old men and women. After dancing, people often talk about short things at home, and I will stand by and listen, occasionally interrupting, feeling that my peers really enjoy being together.
However, this feeling was broken in less than a month and I quit the square dance circle.
The reason is that our square dance team used to use the audio equipment of a big sister in the team. After a long time, this elder sister is reluctant to sell her stereo to the team. When she told the team leader about this idea, she was unanimously opposed by everyone: since she paid for it, why did she buy the old one?
In the end, everyone in the team shared more than 20 yuan and said that they wanted to buy a new stereo, but at this time, some people refused, saying that dancing once or twice a week could not be shared equally. Some people also say that it is unfair to start paying money more than a week after joining. Everyone quarreled about the cost and couldn't reach an agreement.
Then seven or eight people in the team left. There are more than twenty people left, and they are also various camps. This really surprises me. It seems that as long as any place involves interests, not just in the unit, even if the interests are minimal, there will always be people who will haggle over every ounce.
This relationship really disappointed me. I simply quit the square dance team and went to the next ballroom dance.
Because I danced ballroom dancing when I was young, I have been in good shape for so many years. A man in his sixties is a professional dancer and always likes to invite me. We have a tacit understanding when dancing together.
Who knows that more than a week later, his wife came, and when she saw me, her eyes almost burst into flames.
It turns out that my dancing with this man was infected by the dancer to his wife. In the eyes of his wife, my relationship with her husband is ambiguous. She came here to supervise her husband.
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At this point, I completely gave up the idea of joining the circle and didn't have much desire to make friends. It seems that as long as there is right and wrong in the crowd, some people will be afraid of chaos, which is probably the nature of some people.
Later, I learned to play Tai Ji Chuan every morning and Tai Ji Chuan with soothing music. That kind of detachment makes me feel very suitable for myself.
At home, I began to learn to record audio novels. When I was at school, I took part in a Mandarin contest and won an award. Besides, I usually like listening to audio novels. I came up with the idea of recording audio novels, so I signed up for a broadcasting course on the Internet and practiced oral English with my teacher at home every day.
In this way, in the process of learning, I realized a sense of fullness that I had never had before. I make progress every day and gain something every day. A person is very happy when he is doing what he is interested in.
After half a year, the course ended, and I began to receive the list of audio novels from the Internet. In order to prevent noise interference, I bought a recording studio and put it at home. I record for five or six hours every day. If I don't speak well, I will start over. In this way, after several months of exercise, I can earn two or three thousand yuan a month.
After dinner in the evening, my husband and I go for a walk in the community and sometimes go to the movies. This kind of life makes me feel very practical, and I don't have to worry about right or wrong anymore.
Now, I just found out that I prefer to enjoy a person's peace and enrich myself every day than a noisy crowd.
Seeing that I am at home most of the time every day, my husband is a little uneasy and thinks that I am uncomfortable and withdrawn after retirement. I told him that it was my happiest time since I started doing what I like at home.
Although I'm unsociable, it doesn't mean I'm cold. I will do anything that can help others. On the bus, I give my seat to those who need help; In the busy street, I will take out a hundred-dollar bill and put it in the bowl in front of them when I meet beggars in rags and mutilated bodies. I will help strange old people cross the road; I will also lend a helping hand to those around me who need help.
I sponsored a college student who came to this city from a mountainous area. He plans to drop out of school because he can't afford to go to college. After learning that, I paid his tuition and sent him a monthly living allowance of 1000 yuan, which was intended for him to graduate from college and let him study at school with peace of mind.
I don't do this because I don't want others to repay me. I just want to keep the pure land in my heart and bring some light and heat to others.
At our age, everyone is getting old, and the rest of life is getting shorter and shorter. I saw some people around me get sick and die at a young age. I think spending time on more meaningful things and enjoying the richness brought by solitude is far more enjoyable and fulfilling than the life of a group of people.
Afraid of loneliness and loneliness, getting along with others is actually a waste of your time. If you like to be alone with yourself and be an independent person who knows what you want, what can you do even if you are said to be unsociable?