? Since ancient times, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have been a wonderful relationship. Mother-in-law, mother-in-law, not seeing a woman for ten years, not seeing a daughter-in-law for ten years. However, some mother-in-law sent their daughter-in-law to the door for the first time in order to establish the status of hostess.
Many married friends around me also told me the experience of meeting my in-laws for the first time, and found that most mother-in-law felt a sense of insecurity when their son was taken away.
Can you get along with your mother-in-law after marriage? In fact, you can know a thing or two when you meet for the first time.
My cousin's life is stable and happy now. Both husband and wife have their own jobs. My daughter is in the kindergarten where she delivers lunch, and she has two or three days a month to see the elderly. The problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law troubled by her best friend is not worth mentioning at all.
My cousin vaguely remembers seeing her mother-in-law for the first time. In her words, she was scared.
You can't go home empty-handed when you visit your in-laws for the first time. Cousin bought fruit and seafood and took them to her boyfriend's house in big bags. Before I went, I specially asked my boyfriend Zhou Yang what kind of clothes his mother likes girls to wear, fancy or plain? Zhou Yang said it was natural that my mother didn't have so many demands, and she also said that her cousin was too nervous.
In fact, for him, bringing his girlfriend home to meet his parents is just bringing a woman back to his home, but for women, it is uneasy and walks into a completely strange environment. How can she feel the same way?
Sure enough, when her mother-in-law saw her cousin, she smiled instead of perfunctory, and then went to the kitchen to cook, without asking her what she liked to eat or letting her drink water. My cousin is embarrassed. She was not born to please others. Before going, her family specially told her to be diligent and help with her work, but she just couldn't stick her face to her cold ass.
My cousin didn't leave with a big bag of gifts, nor did she stay. Zhou Yang patted her on the shoulder and suggested relaxing. She took the things in her hand, pulling her cousin into the kitchen and said, Mom, look, Linger bought these specially for you. This fish is wild. ...
Why waste that money? Who knows if there is any feed? Well-meaning was poured cold water, and my cousin's face was pulled down on the spot. My father-in-law who had been silent for a long time finally spoke: "I bought so many things for the first time and spent a lot of money." Go out and have a rest, the meal will be ready soon. "
My mother-in-law coughed a few times, and my father-in-law stopped talking at once. At that time, my cousin knew that my father-in-law had no position at home, and my mother-in-law monopolized the power.
In my impression, the daughter-in-law visited her in-laws for the first time. Shouldn't her in-laws take the initiative to pick up food? Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are sitting on the sofa, holding hands and asking questions.
But the fact surprised my cousin. After a whole meal, my mother-in-law helped herself to eat, and my father-in-law said politely, don't mention it. Then I stopped greeting my cousin. Zhou Yang gave her a piece of fish, and her mother-in-law stared back.
That meal was boring for my cousin. This is not the first time to meet my husband's family. It's obviously the feeling of coming to collect debts.
When they were leaving, the mother-in-law went to the kitchen to wash the dishes. Cousin felt that she should go in and say hello to her elders out of courtesy, but she heard her mother-in-law gossiping with her father-in-law behind her back. Although she tried to keep her voice down, her cousin could hear clearly. It feels as bad as eating a fly.
How much money can you earn to buy so many things in a month? It must be my son's money!
I don't know how to do housework when I come here for the first time, and I may be lazy in the future!
I have worked so hard to cook so many dishes, but she only took a few bites. I think it tastes bad, so don't eat it!
Sometimes you can't please someone if you don't like them.
The first meeting left a bad impression on both sides. Fortunately, Zhou Yang is very obedient to his cousin and will not be stupid enough to give up this relationship because of her mother-in-law's attitude. After marriage, my cousin strongly advocated living separately from her in-laws. I'd rather rent a house outside, which is much better than the mental torture of my elders.
Luckily, they just bought a house last year. It's only half an hour's drive from my in-laws' home, which not only takes care of the elderly, but also saves my mother-in-law's trouble.
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Xiaoyun, the neighbor's daughter-in-law, is not so lucky.
Xiaoyun went to her husband's house for the first time, and brought many hometown specialties out of courtesy.
At lunch time, Aunt Lan prepared shredded potatoes, tomato and egg soup and white rice. Xiaoyun said that if you live after marriage, there is nothing wrong with three meals a day. But this is her first visit, and her mother-in-law has done so shabby. She didn't mean that it was so exaggerated to ask for a big table at the Manchu banquet. At least treat the guests formally to be valued, right? Four dishes and one soup is the most basic way to entertain guests.
Aunt Lan's home is familiar to me. Her husband, Uncle Chen, made a fortune in the timber business in his early years. He bought two suites in the city, and now they are all rented out. Uncle Chen runs a convenience store in the next town and rarely comes back. There is nothing to worry about at home. When her husband and son are not at home, Lan Yi plays mahjong in addition to dancing in the square dance, and there is no old lady around her who does not envy her life.
Although Xiaoyun is not a good girl with a rich family, she said that every time she eats, her family always prepares four dishes and one soup with great care, which once made her feel that the most delicious food in the world is home-cooked food. Aunt Lan's almost vegetarian hospitality completely subverted Xiaoyun's three views.
Aunt Lan kept picking vegetables for Xiaoyun. There are countless shredded potatoes and sporadic shredded pork.
Aunt Lan's excessive "frugal housekeeping" Xiaoyun didn't take it to heart. After marriage, even if they have a house, the young couple can live alone. Xiaoyun obediently listened to Aunt Lan's advice. She gave birth to a child three years ago, and everyone can take care of each other when they live together. It is not too late to move out when the child goes to kindergarten.
But now, Xiaoyun's son is in a big class, and moving out is just an expression. Every time I mention it to Aunt Lan, she always finds various excuses to prevaricate.
Moving out was put on hold. What annoys Xiaoyun is that her mother-in-law uses the banner of "love" to eat, drink, live and travel.
It's 36 degrees in summer, so it's healthier to turn on the electric fan without air conditioning. You can't pay the electricity bill yourself, it's his son's money!
It's rare to go out for a meal with my husband on my birthday. It took less than 500 yuan, and the bill was unexpectedly found. Aunt Lan whispered in her ear for a whole month, saying that all the food eaten outside was gutter oil, which was a waste of money and unsanitary!
My mother-in-law seldom buys meat and fish a month. Xiaoyun visited the supermarket and bought some sparerib stew. After her mother-in-law ran into her, she said that pork was caused by hormones. How to eat vegetables economically?
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All this makes Xiaoyun unbearable.
If it is not easy for her husband to stand on his side wholeheartedly and understand her, Xiaoyun really considers divorce. Xiaoyun doesn't like her mother-in-law's cooking, and her husband often takes her out to eat in private. Every time I have a conflict with my mother-in-law, my husband always coaxes her first, and has no blame for Xiaoyun. It's not that I have a painful good husband and have broken up.
But Xiaoyun knows that in the long run, her husband will not be confused by her mother-in-law's bitter drama, and then marriage will be in jeopardy. Xiaoyun and her husband have decided to move out and live alone after their son graduated from kindergarten.
Mother-in-law is one of the important factors directly related to the happy life of the young couple. You and your wife will be much happier when you meet a reasonable mother-in-law. Similarly, if you meet an unreasonable mother-in-law, family life will only be greatly reduced, and even the relationship between husband and wife will be affected.
Fortunately, my cousin and Xiaoyun both have a good husband, who knows both cold and hot. At least when you face your mother-in-law, you are not alone, but two people holding hands. In life, many women live in a mess because of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and even exchange divorce for a free new life. As we all know, they were not cornered by their mother-in-law, but the man named husband made her feel that she was alone in the desert.
Men don't know that when your wife calls your mother "Mom", your mother has another identity "mother-in-law" to your wife, but she has always been "Mom" to you.