As my personal opinion, I just want to express: this is the trouble of happiness! Because I became a mother myself, and then my parents died long ago, I can not only realize the importance of children to their parents, but also realize the importance of parents to their children.
Parents always interfere with you. In fact, almost everyone who is a child has had this problem. Of course, I'm not a lobbyist for your parents. We need to look at the problem rationally and objectively.
First, we need to reflect on ourselves. Are we not enough to reassure them at present? Or are they independent, and do they have to interfere?
In fact, in the eyes of parents, children are always children and always want to worry about you uncontrollably. Isn't it a sweet burden to think so?
But we have our own ideas since we were teenagers and don't want to be controlled anymore. This is also the beginning of our independence.
So you need to communicate with your parents. On some trivial matters (such as nagging you to wear more clothes in cold weather and don't play with your mobile phone when you walk), you can echo their concerns and let them take care of themselves in time. But in important matters, we should have our own proper limits, listen to ourselves and have the courage to be responsible for our choices, so that parents will naturally not worry too much about you when they see that you are mature, and there will be much less nagging and interference.
Generally speaking, before their children get married, parents will think that you are still like a child, and they will always think that you have not traveled as much as the salt they have eaten, but it is also a kind of love for you. Don't fight, but make clever progress by retreating. You can strive to grow up in your study or work and let them see that they can be independent. People always have to learn to grow up by themselves, and they need to bear the storms of the future.
If you interfere a lot after marriage, you should reflect on yourself. Do you need their help? As the saying goes, "eating people's mouths is soft and their hands are short" is the most important thing. Then take advantage of your parents' convenience to help you grow a lot until you achieve something. These are not problems.
If you don't need the help of your parents (which is rarely the case), you can gently and firmly refuse their interference and reflect on yourself.
Summary:
Most of the problems of 1 are due to your parents' love and concern, and we need to distinguish them ourselves (as long as you were not abused by them as a child, that's what I said). It is important to have your own thinking ability.
Respond to parents' concern and nagging and return the same love. Don't argue, settle for progress, or talk long.
Growth is the most important thing, always look for reasons from yourself. After all, they will never interfere.
If you can't stand it, you can take advantage. For example, you actively care about their lives. Mom, you look fat. Go to the square dance for fitness. Dad, you smoke less, which is not good for your health. Adjust according to the actual situation. If they can't stand your "concern" for them, then the time is ripe for you to solve the problem.
Ps: On the fourth point, I saw a video about Tik Tok. A middle-aged man in his thirties made a video with his father. The first sentence he said was: Dad, have you eaten? What did you eat? Does it taste good? Who did this? Did you eat moon cakes on Mid-Autumn Festival? ……
After a meal, his old father was very unhappy and said, leave me alone! I hung up the video.
If you don't believe me, you can try!