There are many kinds of love in the world, but online love is the most unreliable. Why do you say that? Because, it's too illusory.
Nine out of ten couples in online dating died halfway. Even if there are successful cases, there are only a few lucky cases.
Most online lovers will be hurt by the cruel reality, and this relationship will be broken by the unveiling of the real veil.
There is such a case:
A girl came all the way to Foshan to meet a male net friend. She met the boy online and established a "lover" relationship online.
It should be a happy thing to appear, but things are not as beautiful as girls think.
For the girl's "surprise appearance", male netizens seem to have little enthusiasm and joy. On the contrary, he did not welcome the girl, but the girl came to the factory where he worked to find him. After seeing the girl, the male netizen just took her to the factory canteen to eat noodles, and then sent her home in a hurry by "working overtime at night".
There is a big gap in girls' hearts and they feel wronged.
I went to Foshan to meet my "lover". Anyway, I have to accompany you or go somewhere to play However, the other party has no intention of continuing to get along.
When chatting online is so hot, why is it as cold as frost as soon as we meet?
In fact, the performance of boys is already obvious. He is implying that the girl is "not interested in her".
In the face of the "rejection" of the opposite sex, if girls are interested, they should know that the other party has no possibility of development and immediately put away their initiative and enthusiasm so as not to lose their self-esteem.
However, the girl doesn't understand why there is such a big difference between inside and outside the network when it is obviously the same person.
This is the drawback of online dating: you can never know who you really are on the other side of the screen.
For a male netizen, doesn't he feel that the difference is too big? He was troubled by the arrival of the girl for two reasons: 1. This girl is ugly; He doesn't want to really fall in love with her, or he already has a real girlfriend.
This girl must not be the only one who has encountered this situation.
Online dating is the simplest way to love, and there is no threshold. Everyone can "talk" about a boyfriend/girlfriend by moving their fingers.
The author thinks that online dating is not only unreliable, but also the most irresponsible.
In fact, this girl is still very brave in this situation. At the very least, she is a person who is willing to live in reality, and what she pursues is true and lively feelings.
Otherwise, she wouldn't have made up her mind to come all the way to meet her sweetheart. I admire her for that.
However, the cruelty of reality shattered her pursuit of love. She overestimated each other's feelings and her position in his mind.
Online dating is unreliable, which is first reflected in "a person's true degree".
Everyone knows that photos on the Internet are retouched. Nowadays, mobile phones are basically handsome and beautiful, and no one will present their most common, authentic and flawed things to others.
Therefore, especially couples in online dating will hide their shortcomings, create a feeling of "I am beautiful", and let the other party feel that they are spring breeze and fall into a beautiful reverie.
This is the beautiful side of online dating, but also the false side of online dating.
On that day, most people will find that "the goods are not the right version" and the psychological gap is huge.
They will feel that the other party "cheated" themselves; They will also feel that the other party is far from being as beautiful as they thought.
Online dating is not reliable, and it is also reflected in "different motives."
Many people make up their inner emotional needs through online dating and gain care and confidence, but they don't really want to establish a long-term love relationship with you, or even really want to marry you.
Why do you get along well on the Internet and everything is perfect, but once you propose to meet, the other party immediately flinches or turns against you?
That's because the other party has no such idea at all. Perhaps, the other party just enjoys this illusory emotional game, enjoying the feeling of someone chatting and being accompanied, and does not really love you with actions, giving you a promise and a future.
And you foolishly believed that what he said was from the heart.
So, it's not that he has changed, but that he has always been like this, and you just know now.
People who can't find someone in reality often like to use online dating instead of inner emptiness.
Who likes chatting on the internet when you can fall in love with a real person?
But now many people are keen on online love, even if they have the opportunity to meet the opposite sex in reality, they are unwilling to contact and associate. Why?
Because, a big reason is that they are avoiding real marriage and covering up their cowardice.
These people are "lovers" who know how to love others in the network. They will be caring and attentive, send things to each other, and do everything lovers do, but they don't want to meet.
Dare not face true love, only dare to show love in invisible places.
Essentially, these people are self-abased, afraid of being rejected, afraid of failure, and afraid of losing.
Bai Xiaojing believes that we'd better not make online love or blindly believe that there is true love in the network.
This is not to say that there is absolutely no real love on the internet, but if it is impossible to become a reality, don't start a virtual love easily.
Two-way love is meaningful and valuable. Love, in addition to the heartbeat when meeting each other, also has the beauty of touching each other, the blending of souls, and the vision for the future of two people.
If the other party can't give you something tangible, it is a waste and consumption of feelings.
We don't need this illusory love.