I am a baby mama of two. When my eldest baby was two years old, my parents helped to watch the kids for a while. I can understand your nervousness and feelings. A bit of depression like yours is dangerous, both for the child and yourself. That is why it is necessary to tell your child at the first opportunity.
Parents are the greatest
In 2009, I was working alone in Guangzhou with a two-year-old child, and my mother was very worried and came to help. I didn't expect to come only half a month, to be noisy home, but also cried twice, said the child is too skinny always running around, she is not familiar with the place and not accustomed to. I blamed her for a long time. Later, my father came to help look after the child, because he was inexperienced and did not know how to cook, the child was often sick, the most serious time was hospitalized with pneumonia. Because I knew my father too well, I didn't blame him at all, but I still knew from his face and his words that the pressure of watching children was many times more tiring than working. When you are out there with your child, you don't even have the time to smoke or drink, for fear that your child will be gone in a moment.
Parents help us to look after the children, is the love, need to be more grateful. The fact that they don't help is more important to understand. It's not easy for them to work hard to raise us, so we need to be content and thankful, and understand and tolerate them.
The love of the elders is a little bit "poisonous"
The other day on the bus, a grandmother carrying a child, the child kept making noise, the grandmother did not dare to sit down, and kept shaking the child. The grandmother said, "It's not easy to bring up a child, but it's hard to bring up three or four, and it's not as stressful as bringing up a child. The love of the elders is too strong and too heavy, a little poisonous, not good for the children and their own health. The subject is such a case, the change of living environment, coupled with long-term tension and depression, not only can not bring up the child, but also have a great impact on their own body. We must give them more time to relax, spend more time with them and understand them more.
Elders with children
There is no need to be so nervous and careful when elders help bring up children. You can rationalize your life and leave a little time for yourself. For example, when your son is off work, you can dance on your own or go out for a walk on your own. On weekends or festivals, you can also let your son take care of your children and go out to relax.
More communication: the elders must have experience in bringing up children, small things can be completely their own decision. If it's a question of what brand of milk powder, or if your child is a picky eater, you must discuss it with your son. The problem of their own children, like their own nervousness and depression, must also be told to the son. The best way to solve the problem is to communicate with your son.
Learn about parenting: Although the elders have experience in bringing up children, they used to eat and drink well. Nowadays, parenting methods are more scientific and include a lot of civilized manners and thinking development, concentration and interest development and parent-child massage to increase physical fitness and so on. So elders can read more parenting books to learn, or listen to parenting books, so that a lot of parenting problems in life, but also can be easily solved, with the baby can also be more relaxed.