When most people are young, they are eager to have many friends. In the eyes of many people, people with more friends have more opportunities than others, and are more likely to succeed in their careers and get spiritual satisfaction. So when many people are young, they always like to enter various circles and make friends with all kinds of people. Even if they don't like this life in their hearts, they will force themselves to do it.
However, with the growth of age, after experiencing some things, you will find that there are too few real bosom friends in this world. Even if you treat others sincerely, you may not get others' sincerity. Finally, it is found that the most authentic relationship between people is only related to the value of one person to others.
Why many leaders are surrounded when they are in office, and once they retire, they are left out in front of the door. In this society, many people are willing to associate with you when you are valuable to others. When people get old, they will see the truth of the relationship between people after experiencing the warmth and coldness of human feelings, and they are no longer willing to spend time on some superficial friendships and begin to enjoy solitude.
After retiring at the age of 55, Sister Wang had a lot of free time and often got together with friends, some of whom were her college classmates, and some of whom she met when she was dancing in the square dance. We often meet, travel, walk and shop together for the sake of beauty.
But after a long time of communication, Sister Wang found that what she sometimes said unconsciously would be known by many people around her within a week. And she also found a rule that every time she went out to eat, she paid the most. Everyone looks very close at ordinary times, but when it comes to money, few people are willing to pay more. Some people don't suffer or take advantage of others. Some people can take more.
Among her friends, if an old man dies, she will try her best to help and do her best to follow the ceremony. But some people are different. They know it clearly, but they play dumb. As soon as we met, we hypocritically said to each other: Why didn't you say anything? I don't even know.
In Sister Wang's opinion, friends should help each other. What's the point of such an intersection if it's just to keep warm and to relieve loneliness? You know, there are many meaningful things that people should do in their later years.
Later, Sister Wang's mother was hospitalized suddenly, and the hospital had to pay a deposit of 50,000 yuan. At that time, she couldn't come up with so much money at once, so she opened her mouth with several good friends, all of whom had good economic conditions. But in the end, only one friend lent her 654.38 million yuan, and the others refused for various reasons.
The loan hit her hard, made her unhappy for a long time, and made her realize the reality that none of her friends were real friends.
After this incident, Sister Wang began to streamline her circle of friends, stopped taking the initiative to contact others, and slowly enjoyed her own life. She picked up the paintings she liked when she was a child, painted at home every day when she was free, and signed up for painting courses online to study with the online class teacher.
There is a small yard in front of the house. She cleaned the yard thoroughly, bought many flowers from the market, put them in the yard at random, and opened up a small garden. In the middle of the garden, she put a table and a chair for drinking tea. When she is free, she usually sits among the flowers, drinks tea, watches the flowers bloom and fall, listens to the sound of raindrops, watches the clouds roll and relax, and enjoys the quiet beauty of the years.
At dusk, she often takes her puppy for a walk outdoors, walking slowly alone, feeling the flow of wind, the fragrance of grass and the silence of everything, while the puppy is running around. All this made her really feel the power of silence. She has never been so calm.
My blood pressure has stabilized since I began to enjoy a person's life. She believes that this stems from having a calm and indifferent inner world and being emotionally unaffected by others. From the beginning of learning painting, she also began to capture the beauty in life and feel the pride and the power of nature.
She has a close friend, which is the only one left after she streamlined her circle of friends. They have known each other for many years and always get together when they are apart. Even if we are not together, we don't feel alienated from each other.
Now 58 years old, she really understands one thing: a person who likes to be alone is a person with great wisdom.
First, people with strong hearts prefer to be alone.
After a certain experience, people's thoughts have precipitated and accumulated, and they are unwilling to maintain the so-called friendship and pretend to cater to other people's preferences. Life is already very tired, why put on a pair of shackles for yourself. Walking alone, drinking tea alone, listening to music alone, shopping alone, there is no right or wrong, free.
In this world, most great men are lonely, philosophers are lonely and artists are lonely, but they all have rich inner worlds. It is because they are alone that they can think independently, ignore other people's suggestions and live their lives bravely.
Second, I like being alone, which is more conducive to my health.
Being alone can make you in the most relaxed and comfortable state, have a clean heart in this noisy world, be free from external disputes, immerse yourself in your own world, cultivate your self-cultivation, and experience the freedom of "I am the master in my world".
In life, it is good to have one or two good friends get together once in a while. If the wine market does not stop every day and alcohol is harmful to your health, such a life is still very tiring. In the party, most people brag and compare with others, but when they get home, they are more empty and lost. Such an emotional state can easily lead to various discomforts of the body.
Third, people who like to be alone will enjoy the loneliness of life.
I like to be alone, not indifferent and numb, but prefer to have my own space, no intrigue, no hypocritical entertainment, no need to cater to other people's preferences, and live quietly alone.
People who like to be alone can have a quiet heart in this noisy world and live a good day by themselves. His heart is rich, he is full of self-discipline and strength in life, he feels comfortable in solitude and happy in loneliness.
Marquez once said: Life never leaves loneliness and exists independently.
How many people can really accompany you through the storm in your life? Sometimes friends who bother to meet each other do not do better than strangers at critical times, but let go and be themselves.
Streamline your circle of friends, enjoy high-quality solitude, spend more time to enrich yourself, improve yourself, take care of your family, and let yourself have a higher quality life.
If there is anything most precious in this world, it must be time. For middle-aged and elderly people, life has reached dusk. Cherish the remaining years, enjoy the time alone, and live a rich and wonderful life, which is the real great wisdom in life.