Now, watching TV dramas from 20 to 30 years ago, we will feel that the city at that time looked so chaotic and backward, and people's clothes looked a little rustic.
In fact, twenty or thirty years ago, you wouldn't think that the economy was really changing with each passing day.
The post-90 s and post-00 s are completely different from the post-70 s and post-80 s. They will pay more attention to their feelings and respect their choices. Perhaps the improvement of living standards has made people pay more attention to their own hearts, and today's high divorce rate is also embarrassing.
Husband and wife really need the care and tolerance of both sides. If not, it is often difficult to work together for a lifetime.
The experience of the 45-year-old myna shows that when husband and wife get along, it will only seem that they can't reach the end of their lives.
Introduced by myna's husband. At that time, he felt that the other party was steady and steady, and his work was stable. He soon fell in love and got married soon.
After marriage, the two found that their personalities were still somewhat out of place. Although they feel a little when they are in love, they don't mind. Living together after marriage, I found that this difference is getting bigger and bigger.
Starling is outgoing and lively. Whether at work or in life, he is always lively and witty.
My husband is a slow-witted and introverted person. He always likes to stay quiet and doesn't like to go out for social intercourse.
As the children grow up, they go to boarding schools outside. Two people quarreled for more than ten years, quarreled for more than ten years. After the age of 40, they became more and more disgusted with each other and simply separated. Two people in one room can not talk for a long time.
It can be said that they live their own lives.
Myna likes to travel with his friends. He goes out to square dance every day and participates in many amateur art groups. He is as busy as a bee every day.
Husband is always very angry that she is not at home. After the relationship between the two people fell to freezing point, no one spoke to each other. Once we have to communicate, we are all angry. My husband doesn't think we should have married her in the first place. They are not suitable at all.
Starling was angry when she quarreled with her husband. As long as they are together, they feel that they are both tired and unbearable.
In fact, in real life, many couples who are facing a breakup are really like this. They only see each other's shortcomings and don't see any advantages.
When they observe each other selectively, no matter how good they are, they can't get it. And once they are just bored with each other, their relationship is really hard to recover.
But in real life, even if the contradiction is deep, many couples do not choose to divorce because of various objective reasons such as children, family, parents, economy, house and so on.
Formed a so-called facade marriage, still disguised as a loving couple in front of outsiders. In fact, I have long been a stranger in private.
This kind of marriage is not only far from quality, but also a kind of torture to each other.
In fact, it is also a disrespect for each other and marriage. When two people have problems, they should find a way to solve them and think about whether they can save the warmth of the past. Instead of solving it in this disguised and indifferent way.
This disguised facade marriage will only form a thicker gap in each other's hearts.
In fact, husband and wife should not only enjoy each other's efforts, and the unbalanced efforts will be unbalanced sooner or later.
In marriage, if you ignore each other's expectations too much and don't know how to cherish them, it is an inevitable result to come to an end.
In the final analysis, what marriage needs most is mutual understanding, mutual respect and mutual tolerance. Once you have this initial intention, you can often see each other's efforts and see each other's goodness. Only when each other can do these things can the relationship between husband and wife last forever and be as loving as ever.