Daughter is approaching marriageable age, Auntie Tang took out her life savings to give her daughter a down payment on a house, as a single mother, Auntie Tang only this ability, the rest will be left to the daughter's own efforts.
The daughter of Auntie Tang was touched by the fact that she knew her mother's hard work and good intentions!
When her daughter was 8 years old, Auntie Tang's ex-husband cheated on her, and her ex-mother-in-law was so protective of her husband that she stirred up trouble, Auntie Tang couldn't stand it any longer and chose to get a divorce, leaving the house, and her in-laws didn't even let her take away a single needle.
Auntie Tang remembers all her life that when she left, her ex-mother-in-law said, ? I don't believe my son can't get a wife!
Auntie Tang's mother's family also has two older brothers, Auntie Tang's parents have spent their entire lives trying to get her brothers married and have children, not a penny, not a penny to even out, to help Auntie Tang a hand, but to tell her, ? You can't be too strong as a woman, marrying a chicken follows the chicken, and marrying a dog follows the dog.?
It was then that Auntie Tang first clearly and completely understood how difficult the situation could be as a woman.
In this way, Auntie Tang took her daughter, gritted her teeth, and began the second half of her life in a state of upheaval. She worked hard and scrimped and saved, and only in the ninth year after her divorce did she get a small house that belonged to mother and daughter.
Life just got a little better, the daughter went to a university abroad, knowing that her mother is very difficult, never compare food and clothing with her classmates, in order to save money, every summer vacation do not go home, stay in school to do tutoring and part-time work, to earn living expenses. Every year winter vacation, also buy the cheapest kind of train tickets.
The daughter's understanding and determination is like her own, and Auntie Tang sees it in her eyes and hurts in her heart.
She y felt that a woman's life, if there is no real love for her, in the critical moment of life to support her people, than the man is a hundred times more difficult, the man again, the ancestors at least have a piece of tile is theirs.
So, from the time her daughter was in college, she began to think about buying her daughter a house. She was unhappy in her marriage, and she wanted her daughter to have a better life than she did, even a little bit, even if it was just not having to live without a place to live after a divorce.
After making up her mind, Auntie Tang took early retirement and started a breakfast business while she was still physically fit.
After her daughter's graduation, Auntie Tang repeatedly instilled in her daughter that she should not overspend, and that if she wanted to enjoy life, she must first solve the fundamental problems. Daughter very much agree, although in the best years to wear simple, but the thought that this is working for their own house, the heart is solid.
Doing breakfast income is good, but it is very hard, every morning at 4 o'clock to get up to prepare the material, but Tang Auntie heart has a running head, rain or shine.
On one occasion, a colleague of Auntie Tang's went to her stall to buy breakfast and asked:
Why do you have to buy a house for your daughter? Why do you have to buy a house for your daughter? When a girl finds an in-law, she'll have a house. If I had a daughter, I would not buy her a house, she has the ability to find a good in-laws, no ability, deserve her to suffer?Auntie Tang smiled disdainfully and replied:
The house of the in-laws is always the in-laws', and if the in-laws let you roll, you have to roll. If you have your own house and your in-laws make you cry, you can tell your in-laws to get lost. You are willing to let your daughter suffer, that's your business. My daughter, as long as I live, I can eat any kind of suffering, in-laws can't suffer!?Auntie Tang's words left her colleague speechless.
So, in the fifth year of her daughter's graduation, Auntie Tang realized her dream of buying a house for her daughter. The house is not very big, but the location and the type of house are very good. The daughter's savings were spent on renovations, and everything was just right.
Since then, Auntie Tang has ended her career as an early adopter, and has begun her formal retirement life of shopping for groceries in the morning and dancing in the evening. When she thinks of her daughter's future, even if she meets a bad man, there is a way back, she feels at ease? The woman is not afraid of the sky collapsing as long as she has her own house.
And the daughter, since having their own house, the whole person has become confident and calm, work harder, choose a spouse more calm, more standard. Everything is getting better?
In my opinion, a mom like Auntie Tang is one in a million.
How many mothers have never loved their daughters at all, or if they did, it was only a very weak love, such as feeling sorry for her suffering from marriage and childbearing, but failing to give any firm and strong support?
First, parents who really love their daughters will understand the vulnerable position of women in marriage and will definitely buy their daughters a house.
It's strange how parents seem to be so poor and so hard up that if their son wants a house, they smash the pot and come up with the money.
But once in front of the daughter, it's the complete opposite, there is money can not take a point, ? The first thing you need to do is to find a good mother-in-law who can run a good marriage and not let the mother-in-law kick you out
The world says that the parents will of course buy a house for their son, and that a man who doesn't have a house will not be able to marry a wife. However, it has never occurred to me that most of the daughters facing the marriage situation is, in-laws can not be relied upon, the mother's home can not go back, the so-called marriage is just relying on a marriage certificate, borrowed in the in-laws of the house, and once the divorce, is ? The so-called marriage is just relying on a marriage certificate and living in the house of the in-laws.
There is no other choice but to live on the street after you get out of here.
The parents I've seen who really love their daughters have bought them a house, for no reason at all. But any reason is an excuse.
Second, capable women, in the best years, do not rush to enjoy, and do not prematurely rely on marriage and men, that are outside the body, the real foundation is their own house, ability, qualifications and experience.
There is no shortage of pretty faces in this world, but there are not many pretty heads.
In my contact with thousands of female readers, can have a very clear sense of pre-marriage house, a minority.
Most girls, in their best years, can't settle down to work hard and plan their careers; instead, they work sloppily and just want to dress up beautifully, carry flashy luxuries, attract men, and aspire to find the ultimate home in marriage.
It may be ten years or more before some of them wake up from their dreams.
As a daughter, it is mostly unrealistic to expect her parents to take the initiative to buy a house. Parents who know how to love their daughters are hard to come by. Then, girls with education and strength, I hope you can have some common sense of marriage, a little more awake, early planning.
Of course, more girls are at the bottom of the ladder, and buying a house on their own is almost like a pipe dream. For you guys, it's hard enough not to be squeezed by your parents, brothers and family of origin, and not to be squeezed by your marriage.
Third, when you meet good parents, cherish them and don't squander them.
Most of those who can take the initiative to buy a house for their daughters are one-child families.
Only daughter should treat herself as a son, have a sense of responsibility to her mother's family and her parents, work hard, not just know how to squander her parents' love and assets, not to mention marrying to support her in-laws.
Many silly girls, do not understand the suffering of the world, the hearts of people, love brain overweight, once married to the in-laws as the main, so that the mother's family excessive sacrifice. However, many ill-intentioned in-laws, such as daughter-in-law's parents once passed away, or just old age, changed a face.