I have grown up, but after having my own children, I have a deeper understanding of this sentence, accompanied by deep guilt for my parents.
After 90, colleague Xiao Liu took care of her from her hometown because of her serious pregnancy reaction. After giving birth to a child, considering that her mother-in-law doesn't understand Xiao Liu's eating and living habits, confinement is a very important and special period for women. In order to avoid the contradiction between her mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law, and to prevent her from getting sick, her mother took the initiative to take care of her confinement. Later, after Xiao Liu's maternity leave ended, she wanted to go back to work, but her mother didn't shirk it. She began to help with the children and do housework.
It's really hard for Xiao Liu to watch her mother cook, take care of the children and serve the family every day. Finally, the child can go to kindergarten at the age of 3. Liu Zheng Jr. planned to let his mother go back to her hometown to rest for a while, but things changed again.
Xiao Liu's mother fell down at home, causing a bone injury and dislocated lumbar spine. She was hospitalized for more than 20 days and had an operation, but she still couldn't sit for a long time or stand for a long time. She always felt backache.
Later, Xiao Liu told us about this incident and said with tears: "The thing I regret most in my life is to let my mother help me with my children! Now that my mother has become like this, nothing I can do can make up for it! "
Everyone was deeply moved by Xiao Liu's words, which caused a * * * sound. A colleague said: My mother is also a member of the army of grandmothers with children. After my mother retired, she could have lived a life of dancing in square dance, playing poker and chatting with her old sisters. But in order to take care of herself and her children, she is busy around every day, and Xian Yi, old and young, is often lectured.
According to relevant statistics, there are about 20 million elderly people who moved to cities in their later years in China, most of whom are to take care of their children, among whom grandmothers are the main ones, and the number of grandmothers who take their children to cities is about three times that of grandmothers. Therefore, in small families in most cities, grandma has become the absolute main force to take care of children.
The reason why grandma takes care of the baby has become a common phenomenon is also determined by the current common family relationship. After the child is born, the main responsibility for taking care of the child falls on the mother, and as a grandmother, on the one hand, I feel sorry for my daughter and want to share some; On the other hand, taking care of children as a daughter's substitute can liberate her to go out and earn money, so that small families can earn more income and avoid her being looked down upon in the future. At the same time, the mother-daughter relationship and even the mother-in-law relationship will be more harmonious than the mother-in-law relationship, avoiding many family conflicts.
However, the consequence is that these grandmothers have suffered. Some grandmothers gave up their comfortable life after retirement, some came to strange cities from their hometown, and some had to take care of their children and serve their families. It's really hard.
Grandma is getting older every day, sometimes a little uncomfortable, and she is sticking to her teeth. Therefore, on the one hand, it is not easy for a daughter and son-in-law, on the other hand, we should take care of the life and emotions of the elderly as much as possible. We must never just consider ourselves and our children and ignore the feelings of the elderly.
Take the initiative to assume the responsibility of being a parent.
Young parents should never give up just because there are old people to help take care of their children. After all, parents are the first guardians of their children, so they must take the initiative to take care of them.
After coming home from work, take the initiative to let the elderly rest, take care of their children and do housework, so that the elderly have time to rest, otherwise their health will really be too much. On weekends, young parents take the initiative to take care of their children. On the one hand, they give the elderly time to rest and relax, on the other hand, they give their children more companionship and love. In this way, the elderly can relax, which is more beneficial to the growth of children.
Take care of the emotions of the elderly.
As the saying goes, there are old people in the family as treasures. Families should take care of the elderly and care about the little things in life. Take the elderly out to play on weekends, buy them things they need in life, and take them out for a meal. Such care will make the elderly feel warm.
Living together, family members should be considerate of the elderly's schedule, respect their living habits, communicate with them more, and make the elderly feel happy. Such emotions can also be transmitted to children. At the same time, parents themselves are role models for their children and can pass on filial piety.
Aunt's conclusion:
Grandma has become the main force to take care of children in the city, but as young parents, don't take grandma's help for granted, you should appreciate their selfless dedication.
In life, we should also care more about grandma, take on the task of taking care of children and do more housework, so that the elderly can have time to adjust and recuperate. Such a warm family atmosphere is conducive to children's growth and family happiness.
Today's topic: Do you think grandma should take care of the children?