01.
On the first day of the Lunar New Year, the late generation should have been happy to go to the elders to pay tribute. But some people, not only did not go to pay tribute, but also from beginning to end did not give the elders a little good face. Why is this so? Not all because the younger generation do not know how to do things, not filial piety, but really have a reason. As the saying goes, everything has a cause and effect, the younger generation refuses to pay homage to the New Year, it must not be empty.
Small Li has been married for three years, but in these three years, she and her mother-in-law met no more than three times. The first two years of the New Year, she simply did not come back, directly in her mother's home, this year in order to take into account the feelings of her husband, she can only go back to the in-laws. Why did Xiaoli refuse to go back to her mother-in-law's home? There is only one reason: do not want to see their own mother-in-law.
Small Li and her mother-in-law have deep grudges, these years not how to meet, on the contrary, it is wise, otherwise a meeting, will inevitably happen again quarrels. The couple's relationship and the stability of the whole family is affected by the light, and the heavy may be directly divorced. This all stems from when Xiao Li gave birth to a child, to be exact, is sitting on the moon.
When Xiaoli married into their family, she was already more than two months pregnant. Because she was married to a child, her mother-in-law never really liked her, thinking she was not a good girl, didn't know how to love herself, and was not good enough for her son.
Because of this, the mother-in-law has always had a problem with the marriage, and wanted to take the opportunity not to pay the bride price. But I did not expect, Xiaoli this person temper, not to be messed with, when announced not to pay the bride price on the withdrawal of marriage, not married. If it is not Xiao Li's husband to fight, they this marriage, may really not be able to tie the knot.
02.
From that time onwards, Xiaoli and her mother-in-law's grudge began, this "beam" once knotted, will certainly affect the future get along, so soon after the marriage, Xiaoli and her husband back to the city. Xiaoli pregnancy, mother-in-law did not come to visit once, not even asked a question, and later learned that Xiaoli gave birth to a daughter, it is even more reluctant to come over to help take care of.
But no one can take care of them, so how can they? The only way to get the money back is to have a husband who is working. The fact that they have a child makes the expenses even greater, so it's even more important that they don't quit their jobs. This is the time when they need help the most. They want to hire a nanny, but the economy doesn't allow it; going to a monthly child care center, the economy is even more impermissible. Xiaoli couple, can only turn to both parents.
The mother's parents are busy taking care of her brother and sister-in-law's children, so they can't take care of them. The mother-in-law, on the other hand, is the best candidate. Because she is retired and has nothing to do all day, she usually plays mahjong, catches up with TV dramas and dances in the square. But even so, she is still not willing to come over, directly balked, saying she has her own late life to live.
Small Li was so angry that she didn't even want to say anything, and she couldn't wait for her mother-in-law to stop talking to her. In the end, she let her own mother come over to take care of her. The children of her brother and sister-in-law, let them look after themselves first, for which her sister-in-law even quit her job. But she didn't blame Xiaoli, and instead came to visit when she was fine.
Because of the same woman, know that it is not easy to sit in the month, sister-in-law to Xiaoli full of heartache. It is good that Xiaoli has a harmonious and friendly family, otherwise, how can this day go on?
03.
Throughout the monthly period, the mother-in-law did not make a phone call, because of this, Xiaoli's husband also no longer take the initiative to contact with the mother, think she is really not humane. So for two years in a row, they didn't go home for New Year's Eve, but went straight back to their mother's house. Xiaoli's husband, as a son-in-law, has always had a good relationship with his parents-in-law.
He was very grateful to Xiaoli when she was sitting on the moon, the parents-in-law's help and brother and sister-in-law's understanding, for their parents do not act, he felt more like parents-in-law, so more close to some. This year, no matter what to say have to go back to the in-laws for New Year's Eve, because the mother-in-law early in the morning to warn: this year, if you do not come back, will completely break the mother-son relationship.
Small Li's husband sighed, said: "wife, I know you and my mother relationship is not very good, but I hope you can understand me a little bit, this year back to the home, or else, I do not know my mother can make what moths to it." Xiao Li expressed understanding and promised her husband.
Daughter is more than two years old, almost never seen grandparents, no concept at all, because she has always taken the grandparents as grandparents, after all, is brought up by the grandparents, naturally more pro. But the mother-in-law does not understand this, Xiaoli's daughter refused to call her grandmother, her mother-in-law's face immediately sank, blaming Xiaoli will not be educated, and even said directly that she instigated.
Small Li is not the first time to know her mother-in-law, she naturally knows her mother-in-law's person, so she will not be with her. Otherwise, her character, which is only concerned about the chaos of the world, will have to make a mess, and there will be no peace.
04.
On the first day of the Lunar New Year, Xiaoli's husband got up early to help cook and do the housework, but Xiaoli refused to pay New Year's greetings to her mother-in-law no matter what, and didn't even want to see her face. Her husband found it very difficult, so he asked her, "On the first day of the Lunar New Year, according to the custom, we are supposed to pay New Year's call to our parents, and the children have to go as well, and my mom will prepare the New Year's money at that time, so why don't you want to go? Other people will look at the joke."
Small Li sighed and said, "The monthly revenge has not forgotten it, I really can not pass that hurdle in my heart." Since this is the case, the husband is not good to force, can only go alone. Daughter-in-law did not come to pay New Year's visit, of course, the mother-in-law has a problem, but the good thing is that the husband has always been on the side of Xiaoli, so she is not afraid of the mother-in-law again. Hubby said to his mother-in-law: "She does not come even if, do not have to be ritualistic about everything, and now the child is only two years old, it is the time to make a fuss, she is too hard, let her take a good rest."
Hearing that her son was protecting his daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law was instantly annoyed, feeling as if she had become an outsider, and that her son wasn't a typical "marrying a daughter-in-law and forgetting about her mother. So she began to chatter and complain, said more, the son also annoyed, disliked: "Mom, you do not talk about what understanding and filial piety, hearts are mutual. You refused to help us in the beginning, Xiaoli's monthly period when we had a hard time, you refused to look at it, and now you are asking us to be filial and respectful to you, we are not saints, not to mention Xiaoli, even I have a problem with you."
Said he went back to his room, this year passed unhappily. Xiaoli can't let go of the monthly feud, can't shake hands with her mother-in-law, it's not her fault, she also wants to make up with her mother-in-law, but this step, only she can take the first step. Mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, the most important thing is to put heart to heart, only when the mother-in-law understands this point, perhaps the relationship between them can be eased and better. Otherwise, the more you complain, the more difficult it is to untie the knot.