Mother-in-law likes to pick fights and talk to outsiders

Mother-in-law likes to talk to outsiders about her family's affairs, which led to her son's divorce PinYi didn't want to live with her mother-in-law when she got married to her husband, but after a week, she took it upon herself to move in with her son. But a week after the wedding, her mother-in-law took it upon herself to move in, saying that she had only one son, and of course she wanted to live with him.　PinYi's heart is very unhappy, but the mother-in-law is her husband's own mother, and she can not drive her mother-in-law away. Besides, her husband begged PinYi again and again, saying that his father-in-law died two years ago, and now that he is married again, his mother-in-law is left alone in the house. She was too lonely, and if anything happened to her, she couldn't be taken care of.　In that case, PinYi had no choice but to acquiesce to the arrival of her mother-in-law. She helped them with the housework and danced and chatted with the aunts and mothers in the neighborhood. PinYi and her husband went to work at ease, and on weekends, they went out together or visited PinYi's parents' house.　PinYi thought that this was quite good. She didn't have much contact with her mother-in-law, and anyway, she didn't care about her mother-in-law, who did whatever she wanted, so there shouldn't be any mother-in-law-daughter-in-law conflicts.　But after a short time, PinYi realized that there was a problem. Her parents had quarreled over a small matter, so her mother called her to complain, and her mother-in-law happened to hear her. A few days later, PinYi heard about her parents' fight from her neighbor, who also said that PinYi's mother was a tigress.　PinYi was very surprised, who said this out, he and her husband did not say, then undoubtedly is the mother-in-law said. PinYi asked her husband to ask her mother-in-law, but she didn't deny it and admitted it. PinYi was very upset and told her not to tell anyone about the family in the future, it's not good.　But the mother-in-law did not think so, and her husband to the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law more and more unscrupulous. After that, her mother-in-law always talked to the aunts in the neighborhood about all the things that happened in the house, and the aunts would talk about them for a long time and talk about them.　Sometimes PinYi and her mother-in-law had a few verbal fights, which were originally very minor, but her mother-in-law added more fuel to the fire and told the outsiders, and the outsiders felt as if PinYi had mistreated her mother-in-law. They looked at PinYi differently, and of course PinYi could feel it.　Granny was feeling aggrieved and wanted to talk to someone to make her feel better. But after she talked to outsiders, the word spread to PinYi's ears, and things went out of style. As a result, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law escalated, and the small problem immediately became a big problem.　What's worse, the husband doesn't even stop the mother-in-law, but takes her side every time. He thinks it's okay for the mother-in-law to be bored at home alone, so she talks to her old sisters. He also said that people could say whatever they wanted to say, and that PinYi wouldn't lose a piece of meat.　When PinYi and her husband got married, they agreed not to have children for a while, but to have them in two or three years. However, her mother-in-law urged them to have a child every three days, and when she saw that they hadn't made any progress, she went to talk to outsiders. The rumors spread, and it was said that PinYi was infertile, and that she had another man outside.　After three years of marriage, one day when PinYi was going home from work, she took a ride from a male colleague. After the male colleague dropped her off in the neighborhood, she saw her mother-in-law chatting in the square. Because they were so involved in the conversation, they didn't realize that PinYi was approaching. When PinYi got closer, she heard them talking about her again.　At this time, an old lady came from the other direction, she obviously saw the male colleague send PinYi into the neighborhood, so she rushed to this side of the old ladies scowling, as if she had caught PinYi's handle.　PinYi was so angry that she went home and had a big fight with her mother-in-law. While other mothers-in-law go out and say nice things about their daughters-in-law to give them face, their own mothers-in-law go out and smear their daughters-in-law, so what's going on? The mother-in-law refused to admit it, saying that she had not smeared PinYi, but had only spoken truthfully.　PinYi said, she has raised many times, told her mother-in-law not to go outside to say things at home, but her mother-in-law never listen, she really can't stand it anymore. Now either her mother-in-law goes, or she goes, she has no way to live with her mother-in-law.　Hubby was already defending his mother-in-law, and now that he heard PinYi say that, he immediately argued with PinYi, saying that PinYi didn't have the right to kick his mom out. He also caught wind of the situation and asked what was the relationship between PinYi and the male coworker? Why did he send her home?　PinYi was furious, she felt this was an insult to her, so she filed for divorce. Her husband didn't want to divorce, but then at PinYi's insistence, their three-year marriage came to an end.　 Grannies don't talk about the family's affairs outside the home Grannies living in their son's house already have to pay attention to the boundaries, this is their son's and daughter-in-law's home, and the daughter-in-law is the hostess. The mother-in-law can not be too much of a master spirit, do not overpower the master, or the daughter-in-law's psychology will certainly be uncomfortable.　If a mother-in-law wants to be the hostess, then she should go back to her own home and do it on her own turf, where she has the final say. Now since she lives in her son's house, she should care less about her son and daughter-in-law's affairs, whether they want to have children or not, that's their business. The mother-in-law can remind them appropriately, but she can't meddle too much, and she can't go outside and talk about it.　Every family has a difficult experience, don't just say the family's business outside, it's no good. Because the son and daughter-in-law sometimes just a moment of bad mood, working outside for a day, rushing outsiders can not just talk nonsense, and now home, talk to relax a little bit, a little whining only.　But the mother-in-law said these words to the outside world, this is not in the smear daughter-in-law, that is what is doing? As the old saying goes, family scandal should not be publicized, no matter what kind of daughter-in-law is, daughter-in-law is one's own people, one's own people must maintain one's own people.　The mother-in-law likes to stir up trouble and love to go around saying 2 The right way to get along between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.　 If there is a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you must pay attention to the first tolerance, especially as a daughter-in-law, you must respect the elders, do not go toe-to-toe with your mother-in-law, for the mother-in-law's words, listen well, and wait until the aftermath, after the peace of mind and then communicate with your mother-in-law.　 The best thing about being a daughter-in-law is that when you do something, you have to be in line with your mother-in-law's wishes. You have to understand and sympathize with your mother-in-law because you will be a mother-in-law in the future.　 To understand the mother-in-law's loss own hard work for more than 20 years of son, suddenly one day go to another person good, when the mother-in-law's natural heart will have a sense of loss, even if the daughter-in-law and his son married, she still think their daughter-in-law is an outsider, so you this outsider a little bit of good to her she will be very touched.　 Be a mother-in-law should also pay attention to: when their son and their daughter-in-law quarrel, do not go to interfere, they can regulate their own, when the mother-in-law's involvement in the son and daughter-in-law quarrel, the daughter-in-law will certainly think that when the mother-in-law's favoritism to their own son, even if the son and the daughter-in-law and the daughter-in-law, you in the heart of the daughter-in-law will also leave a bad impression.　The mother-in-law likes to pick a fight and love to go around saying 3 How to please the mother-in-law's favorite How to let the mother-in-law like their own: from the heart of respect In fact, many times the most important thing for the elderly is not to give how much material things, as well as how much money, they are accustomed to a lifetime of saving, and do not need how much material things. And with the increase in age, the heart will be more or less some concerns, will also worry about whether they will bring trouble to the children, will become a burden to the children, this time for them is the most important need is your heartfelt respect, no matter what things are thinking about her, so that she embodies the value of the elders.　 How to please the mother-in-law's favorite: life on the thrifty and frugal mother-in-law's generation of people are basically from the more difficult days, may be a lifetime of savings habit, even if the current `living conditions are good, that is not wasteful people, daily life is still living a very frugal. And of course, they can't stand to see wastefulness and spending money without knowing how to be thrifty. So at least in front of the mother-in-law to know how to be thrifty, know that it is not easy to earn money, careful living, that mother-in-law will be very like and appreciate. How to get along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is best, these points must be done!　 How to let the mother-in-law like their own: identify her position in the family No matter how much the mother-in-law in this family is also in charge of decades of power, life in a variety of things are under her control, and hard to raise a son suddenly married into a family will worry about the son after a good life, whether the daughter-in-law will be filial piety and so on a variety of issues.　So when you first enter the mother-in-law's home, try to behave a little better, have full respect for your mother-in-law, as well as more and mother-in-law to talk about the family, perhaps not too much language, behavior enough to reflect the mother-in-law's recognition is good. How to coax your mother-in-law after a quarrel between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, simple and practical tips to tell you!　 How to get your mother-in-law's favorite: appropriate compliments Who does not want to hear other people's praise as well as words of praise, no matter what time to hear good words heart always happy. Usually you can listen to your mother-in-law, some things can be in accordance with her ideas to do, and she and some praise, think she did a good job, put the home in order and so on, to learn from your mother-in-law. And the most important thing is not to spit in front of the mother-in-law their own husbands, or it is easy to let her resentment.