See your confidences and grievances, in this marriage, you put your heart to maintain, but also from the husband's behavior to remind him when he found the first signs, he gave the statement that he is a public and private people. People with a sense of boundaries in knowing their identity, is to know with the opposite sex to keep a distance, but also to let themselves alone is the normal heart to appreciate the excellent opposite sex, rather than let their hearts produce should not have the idea. It is said that men become bad when they have money, in fact, the real statement behind this sentence is in our environment and economic changes, the pursuit of people have changed, if there is a party in the couple has been to keep the same, it can not keep up with the partner's footsteps, when the gap is too large, the feelings will be changed as a result.
First calmly observe, then make a decision
From your description, your husband and the other side in getting along with the problem, their outlook on the relationship is also problematic, if it is just a normal boss-employee working relationship, that is not so in such a short period of time on the progress of such a fast. Your husband's emotional needs that he doesn't get from you he gets from the other side, it's an excuse, an excuse to give up on your own accord, maybe he knows you well enough to say that to you, or he could have heard it from someone else's mouth and thus said so.
For men, they care more about feeling, for women, we care more about feelings, when the husband said to you can not get from you here emotional needs, then you are generally very hurt, very sad, a heart for the family to work together, but was dismissed with such a reason. Has your relationship really come to an end, or are you being taken advantage of by someone with an axe to grind? Maybe the other person appeared to make your relationship change, but your problems if you have been there without realizing it, then without the other person, there may be more like the other person appeared. Let yourself calm down first to think back on what happened during this time and why it came to this point.
Communicate, from the communication to understand the chances of salvage
You and your husband seem to be at the end of the marriage, your husband also complained with you do not get the emotional needs of the other side, in the other side may be a momentary freshness, plus the other side in order for your husband to get a divorce, which is irresistible to the man for the reason that a woman because love I chose to divorce, I have any reason not to treat her well. That this woman is really love your husband, or love your husband can give her the material life she wants, this is only her own know, whether to fulfill them, it depends on whether you really lose your husband.
Husband has been urging himself to go to the procedure, you sad sad will be, the more this time the more you can not be messed up heart, find a chance to communicate with her husband a good one, ask him what he wants in the end, you both can do something to make up for the marriage, the tone of voice to calmly deal with, do not accuse, do not argue, so that her husband to see the side of their own wisdom, and during the period of time, observe more of his expression and tone of voice. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good understanding of what you are doing.
If you can afford it, you can listen to why your husband will be attracted to each other, but also from the husband's conversation to understand the degree of affection between them, so as to determine whether they have to continue to retain, if your husband's mind is made up, it is necessary to fight for their own maximum rights and interests, he can be the feelings of the relationship between you just give up, you still because of the love of the intolerance, that is, to harm themselves.
Love yourself
No matter what your choice is in the end, I hope you can love yourself, only their own better and better, others are more able to see your good, try the following methods to let their emotions recovered:
1.Go out and walk: put down all the things, with the group or one's own good planning!
The first thing you need to do is to go out and have fun for a few days, not thinking about anything, and just letting yourself get close to nature in this way, and enjoying the relaxation and healing that nature brings to you.
2. Sports: running, hiking, fitness, dancing and other sports can be chosen, choose your own suitable can, let yourself in the movement in a sweat, the negative emotions along with the sweat out of the body, rest for a few moments after you will feel relieved, when our emotions are no longer so depressing, when thinking will be clearer.
3. Talk: You can talk to someone you trust, or you can find a "hole in the tree", talk is one of the ways to relieve stress, find the right listener is also very important, when the other side can be very good to give us **** love and understanding, we will be from the other side of the different perspectives of the views and solutions.
4. Shift the center of gravity: before the bar more focus on business and home family members, now you can shift the focus to yourself, let yourself to see their own needs, so that they add some hobbies, stick to it, so that they are busy and fulfilled.