When I arrived at my workplace, I realized that there were more than 20 colleagues from the northeast in the same year, and although it was a bit of a group effort, I also witnessed a few female colleagues crying because they missed their parents, including myself. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to find the best way to get the most out of your time, but I'm sure you'll be able to find the best way to get the most out of your time, and I'm sure you'll be able to find the best way to get the most out of your time.
Last year, because of the job change, now living in Guangzhou, slowly perceived that most people in this city, are strangers, the vast majority of people are for work. I remember when I graduated from college, I published a status on the school's intranet: "Since ancient times, loyalty and filial piety are difficult to be two". Some of my classmates left me a message asking me what I was talking about that made such a big deal. I do not know how to answer, at that time is the feeling, to go to work so far away, want to go home, if you want to take the train total **** to more than 40 hours, take the plane before and after the time of 1 day, back and forth the road costs also have to be a lot of money, and the holiday is limited to see Mom and Dad's opportunity is very little, how to filial piety to them?
Now that I think about it, I realize how powerful the work is. You can uproot yourself from your hometown, you can cut off the time spent with your parents, you can be with your loved ones from now on, and you can make your way through the world alone.
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In the north, Guangzhou and Shenzhen or other second and third tier cities, how many people like us are strangers, mom and dad are far away from their hometowns, while we are in order to dream, for the opportunity, for the work, for the wealth, for love, in order to give the children a better future, so that we become the sons and daughters of the faraway land. We rent an apartment, we squeeze the subway, we can't make it to breakfast, we listen to dialects from all over the world, we don't get used to the food, we don't adapt to the climate, we can't make ends meet with our salary, we stay up all night and work overtime, we are emotionally stressed out and depressed, and we don't have time to spend with mom and dad at all.
? My dad and mom are ordinary people, they are more than 50 years old this year, has been close to the age of old. Dad is still doing his job as a driver for more than 30 years, mom is a housewife, and has no preferences, in addition to doing housework, usually nothing to do. I also have a younger brother who came to work in Guangdong last year. So usually on the mom and dad two people at home, during the day, dad to drive work, even if it is now freezing in December, but dad also do not want to idle down the money does not earn; mom every day to dad to do three meals, in the home washing and shuffling, and there is nothing to do.
I myself was thinking, summer time mom still shopping, dancing, but now it's winter, it's cold outside, it's dark early, mom every day leisure time at home to do what? In addition to watching TV, is to play with the phone, or else it is nonsense, because at this age it is easy to worry about their own health, worry about the children outside, etc.. There is no one to talk to during the day, and when dad comes home at night, they don't have much to communicate with each other because dad is the kind of person who can't and won't express himself. Thinking about mom, she is really lonely every day. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and then you can get your hands on some of the most popular ones.
At the end of November, I went back to my hometown in Northeast China. I arrived home at 5:00 a.m., and my mom was ready for breakfast, and I was just about to eat it when my dad came out of the bedroom with a smile on his face. I was a bit puzzled that my dad had a flash drive. What does he want to play on TV? Mom quickly said: quickly give your father to the whole it, this is your father's 40th anniversary of the class reunion recorded video, August to now, have been wanting to see, and no one to the whole. I heard the heart this is not a taste, quickly put down the chopsticks, the USB flash drive inserted in the TV, click a few times to put out, Dad said so simple ah, happy work are postponed, sitting in front of the TV while watching the side of the screen to me to tell me what are the classmates, things that happened when I was a child, etc., Dad is more and more excited to talk about it, looking at his happy state, I was heartbroken, so simple, because I'm not at home, Mom and Dad will not get, it's a good thing that I'm not home.
? The other night, I saw my dad using 3 cell phones back and forth, I asked him how to use so many cell phones ah, Dad said: a cell phone screen is broken, replaced a new one, but the ringtone is too small, always deaf, and bought a ringtone big old people's cell phones, but will not be able to transfer the phone number, can only go back and forth to find the number of back and forth. After hearing this, a stone instantly blocked my chest, hard, want to cry. I didn't say anything, took three cell phones, and soon the phone number is transferred to a good, Dad said this time can be convenient.
We do not do children at home, mom and dad life these small things we can instantly get, no one to get, but also wait until we go home to get a good feeling, I think, only far away from home you can understand. Because you can't talk to them on the phone, because they don't want to bother others.
I don't know your mom and dad, how old are they? What kind of work are they doing, what kind of things are they doing? Maybe they have jobs to do, maybe they have hobbies to choose from, maybe they have other siblings to keep them company, or maybe they are like my mom and dad. But, I think whichever it is, they are holding on to us because we are far away, or even missing them alone.
Try to come home as often as you can while mom and dad are still at home, and if you really can't make it back do a good job of keeping them company remotely. No matter how old your mom or dad is, try to teach them how to use a smartphone, because that's an essential tool for you to do a good job of remote accompaniment in this era. There is no such thing as a parent who can't teach, but only a child who is impatient. Teach them just like your mom and dad taught us when we were babbling. As the years rush by, mom and dad are getting old, we have to be their little helpers, tell them about the outside world, teach them advanced knowledge, and hope that they will grow old slower. Don't wait until "the trees want to be quiet but the wind does not stop, the son wants to filial piety but the parents do not wait". I think the most beautiful praise in this life is not to be called a successful person, but to be called "filial son".
1. Seasonal time, to Mom and Dad to add clothing
We grew up, every piece of clothing is not Mom and Dad to do, or Mom and Dad to buy, they will always be willing to us, but now they are old, do not want to spend money for their own, we have to think of the seasons in all seasons of the year, the time of change of seasons, to Mom and Dad to buy a few pieces of new clothing, even if it's a piece of them to wear in the body, the heart will be I feel warm, that is far away from the thoughts of the sons and daughters of the country.
2. Festival time, to Mom and Dad mail gifts
Children far away from home, most of them wait until the Spring Festival holiday, to go home for a few days, some even New Year's Eve can not go back, so in the usual traditional festivals before we can give Mom and Dad in the Dragon Boat Festival mail dumplings in the Mid-Autumn Festival to Mom and Dad mail mooncakes, even if it is not a holiday, as long as you have any good food good, to Mom and Dad, mail home, they received the moment of the mooncake, and then they will not be able to get the gift. Mail home, the moment they receive, must be overjoyed, that is far away from the thoughts of the son or daughter.
3. When mom and dad are free, call them and send them a video
Mom and dad's free time is usually more than ours, and we try to take time out of our busy schedules to give them a call, listen to their voices, and talk to them about their families, so that they don't get too lonely; send them a video to see their aging faces. Look at their gradually aging face, but also let them look at the appearance of you running around outside, so that they reduce the nostalgia. We are far away from home, we have to admit: and parents have said the most words is the phone.
4. When mom and dad are busy, leave them a message, send pictures, etc.
If your mom and dad are still busy in the field or at work when you are resting, you can leave them a voice message and say: I miss you! Let them take care of themselves, have time to go home to see them, the moment they hear, they will be gratified; you can do your dishes, new clothes, award certificates, see the beauty of the scenery and so on to take a photo, send them, let them know you live well outside, do not have to worry about it; you can set up a family group, from time to time to send a red packet, the amount of money is not how much, the family grabbed a happy just good.
5. It's best to find something you can do with your mom and dad, and keep them company remotely
A lot of children may say that I don't feel like I have much to talk about with my mom and dad, and that there's not a lot of change in each other's lives every day, and that they don't understand what they're talking about when they're talking about their work, and that there's a big gap between the generations in some families. Then we have to create communication topics, I have recently been studying the healing teacher's class, I let my mom also online to participate in the study, I did not expect that she is also quite interested in, so we have a *** with the same topic, and mom usually have something to do.
In fact, as long as you want to create, there are a lot of things to do, such as taking mom and dad to learn the culture of Confucianism, Buddhism and Taoism, tai chi, yoga, cooking, tea, flower arrangement, Zen dance, photography, running, health, do handicrafts, listen to the online course, etc., as long as you like to do, they also like to do, then *** with to do, so that you can make the usual communication with more *** the same topic, but also let mom and dad to fill up their leisure time, so that they have to do, so that they can do. The free time, so that their mood is better, but also allows you to teach parents in the process, appreciate the parents to raise you is not easy, aware of your relationship with parents more harmonious, so that the flow of love, so that the heart warm.
? There are 365 days a year, we and our parents together even less than 5 days, so we should do a better job of these remote accompaniment, so that Mom and Dad feel that we always remember them in our hearts, our filial piety at any time to accompany them, they are not alone. Filial piety can't wait, because mom and dad are getting older day by day. Mom and Dad are the source of our life energy, Mom and Dad are our living Buddha, you don't need to go to the temple to worship the gods, treat Mom and Dad well, is to treat tomorrow's self, we do a good job of filial piety, everything will be fine. We will all grow old, but filial piety will become a family tradition from generation to generation!