On the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, Xiaotao has written several articles. Xiaotao's point of view is, want to mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is harmonious, mother-in-law to treat the daughter-in-law, tolerate some of her small shortcomings; daughter-in-law, don't feel that the mother-in-law does not help, on the complaining. The goodwill between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a little bit of saving up, you are good to me, I am better for you.
Of course, the basis of this is that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law of the three views are positive, that is, the mother-in-law do not have "ulterior motives" involved in the daughter-in-law's small family things; daughter-in-law do not have to the mother-in-law "have something to do", seek the old man's property.
Small Tao has seen the old son in front of the mother-in-law said bad things about the daughter-in-law, said more, the son and daughter-in-law between the deep misunderstanding, and finally to the daughter-in-law to hold the child to run back to her mother's home, must be divorced. The reason is that the mother-in-law feels that her daughter-in-law looks down on her from the village, and the daughter-in-law does not respect herself, and wants to take revenge on the daughter-in-law.
There are also daughters-in-law who are better than their own mothers, who don't live in their own houses and have to stay with their mothers-in-law, buying clothes, chatting with them, and dancing with them when they have time.
In fact, the daughter-in-law wants to take up her mother-in-law's big house, worrying about the future of her eldest son's share of the family property. After the death of her mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law was not able to get what she wanted, and she was so angry that she became very sick, and she was so thin that she lost her face. The first time I saw this was when I was a student at the University of California, Berkeley, and the second time I was a student at the University of California, Berkeley.
All in all, it is the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are put in the right mind, do not be a bad mother-in-law, deliberately disturbing the daughter-in-law's small family, and do not be too much daughter-in-law, too much performance.
"Daughter-in-law, don't ask my son for money even if you're pregnant, you have a bride price and dowry" "Good, then divorce"
Recently, netizen Ye Hua contributed to Xiaotao, telling the story of herself and her mother-in-law. Yehua said that she just met the legendary bad mother-in-law, not only to provoke her relationship with her husband, but also meddle in the affairs of their small family.
In the beginning, Yehua chose to tolerate until her mother-in-law said the words, she did not even think about disliking her mother-in-law. Since then, her mother-in-law didn't dare to do anything, and Yehua finally had a peaceful life.
Yehua and her husband met at a friend's party and made a joke that was widely circulated among friends for some time. The two of them happened to be sitting together at that dinner. At the beginning of the atmosphere is a little cold, can not talk a few sentences, each holding each cell phone. At this point, I don't know who suggested that everyone introduce themselves and say their favorite thing.
The first one was Ye Hua, who said that her last name was Gao, and that she didn't have any special hobbies, and that if she did, she liked to play as a kind of hobby. The next is him, only to see him some coyly said, my last name mention, improve the "mention" ...... froze for a few seconds, we all coincidentally laughed. Some people say, you are joking, right, people surnamed high, you surnamed mention ah. A friend stood up to prove that people are surnamed Ti.
The last name of "Ti" was already scarce, and the two of them were sitting together, making such a joke, the atmosphere was immediately lively, and the meal was very enjoyable. The two of them have also added each other's WeChat and become friends.
The two people get along quite happily, but Yehua found that Xiaoti is not like an idea, where to set a thing, Xiaoti always said, you see, I how to do. Yehua also do not like to make decisions, but people gave her the power, she had to take it. That was the only thing that made Yehua unsatisfied, the rest was okay.
Being together for two years, the adults of the two families also met to discuss matters of marriage. Ye Hua only daughter, parents are working class, conditions are average, but compared to Xiaoti's family is still better. Xiaoti's family has a younger brother who is attending school, only the father works alone, and the mother does odd jobs here and there. In the face of the Ye Hua family put forward the house down payment, the bride price by the hour price requirements, some do difficult.
The mother said, my family's conditions are really limited, but we will try our best for the children. All these years we have been saving money, but also saved twenty-five thousand, to the house down payment, can not afford to pay the bride price. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new one, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new one.
Yehua's father saw that his daughter's future mother-in-law had begged, so he agreed to the request of the family. The wedding was held on schedule with the blessing of family and friends, and Yehua brought 50,000 yuan of the bride price and 200,000 yuan of dowry over. Because the house is still under construction, the young couple first lived in the mother-in-law's house.
What Ye Hua didn't expect was that her mother-in-law would have two looks before and after the wedding. The first time I saw her, she said that she was not lucky enough to have two sons, and that she didn't have a daughter who knew what she was doing. Yehua married in as a daughter. The first time I saw her, she said that she was a good person, but she was not a good person, and she was not a good person, and she was not a good person.
Yehua was quite touched at that time and felt that her future mother-in-law was really nice to her.
The next day after the wedding, her mother-in-law took Yehua to the kitchen, told her where to put everything, and taught her how to stir-fry the spicy dishes that her family loved, and said that she would be the master of the house from now on, and that she would make her own food if she wanted to eat anything.
Yeh Hua, who was clumsy and unhappy and didn't know how to get back to her mother-in-law, learned to stir-fry and cook in this way. But she was working on weekdays, not going home at noon, and arriving home with Xiaoti at night. Most of the time, it was Koti who did the cooking. Her mother-in-law was a bit upset, saying that Yehua was too lazy and couldn't take care of her man or something.
Soon, Yehua was pregnant. Just a few days after she found out, she saw a little red. The doctor prescribed medicine to protect the fetus, and instructed that he must rest in bed, and that the fetus must be nourished until at least four months, and only after the fetus is stable can he do some light activities.
Yehua listened to her husband's advice and quit her job to focus on her baby. Because she couldn't smell the fumes, she went back to her mother's house and stayed there until her baby was four months old. When she had nothing to do, Yehua chose some baby products and some maternity stuff on a certain treasure. The mother-in-law's place always receives large and small express delivery boxes.
Mother-in-law is not high or low voice muttered, all day home buy buy buy, have to melt how much money it, you do not earn money, are my son to support you. Ye Hua thought, he will not be able to go out for a while, even if the fetus is stabilized, but also can not be like a normal person to pick things everywhere, anyway, sooner or later have to buy, but also the first time a mother, always want to give the child to prepare something. The mother-in-law nagging also put up with it, at most, complained a few words with Xiaoti.
The mother-in-law can't stand it, and this day she pushed open the door of Ye Hua's room and said to her, who was unpacking the courier, that she was angry and said, "I don't want to be pregnant and ask my son for money, but I'll give you a dowry and a dowry," she said.
Well, then divorce. Ye Hua did not even think about it, blurted out. I was brought over two hundred and fifty thousand, but those at my disposal, the bystanders have no right to ask, nor have the right to interfere. Besides, the birth of a child is also the surname of your Ti family. I use my own money to raise a child can also, then the last name of my last name, just my parents are looking forward to having a child, but also thinking of having a second child last name my family name, which saves ......
Mother-in-law did not expect Ye Hua all of a sudden hardened, was disliked half a day unable to say anything, and turned his head to go away.
After that, although the mother-in-law did not call Ye Hua, Ye Hua as before, but it did not happen again to explicitly prohibit her from doing anything.
Yehua said that she later realized that the reason why her mother-in-law did that, one is to think that Yehua is good to talk to, and the second is the money in the hands of Yehua, had suggested that Yehua put the two hundred and fifty thousand posted to the house loan ......
Some people divide the relatives between the "native relative Native relatives are inherent in the family, such as grandmothers, grandmothers, uncles, aunts, uncles, aunts and so on. Halfway relatives are those that come after marriage, such as in-laws, aunts, uncles, and husbands-in-law and mothers-in-law.
Halfway relatives are relationships that come only after two people form a family and are much more fragile than those of the original relatives. Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is this kind of halfway relatives, from strange to familiar and then live in a family, the time is very short, get along with easy to conflict.
In fact, between the two people and do as a son and husband of that man, not as good as have the opinion of the first to say to him, there is absolutely no need to front conflict. So the role of the man in the relationship between the mother-in-law should not be underestimated.
The above Ye Hua and mother-in-law conflict, only to see the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law two you back and forth, Xiaoti seems to be absent as inaction. Even if the mother-in-law is strong, but as the link between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, Xiaoti does not play a role, is not right.
A good marriage and family is one where each person has his or her own role to play, and there is a clear line of demarcation between the two. The mother-in-law should be a good mother-in-law, daughter-in-law should not plot too much mother-in-law, the husband should be qualified to do the stability of the staff.