I am a rural person I have the most to say in this regard, in our countryside is no more than two kinds of people, one kind of person is the rule of the family has the way, to do their duty to keep. The other kind of person is a person who does not rule the family. Men out of the world is her, children do not bring, and other men fooling around. These two kinds of people have to make a sharp contrast, one positive and one negative is a very good teaching material.
In my neighborhood there is a woman in her thirties, men go out to earn money all year round, the woman at home with two children also planted five acres of land, around no one does not praise her skills, people's family arrangements for the competition, the in-laws are also very filial piety, inside and outside of the is a competent, agricultural machinery will be able to use the family's walking tractor to open the fly running. During the day, he is busy with his chores, and at night he trains his children to study, and he also does handmade toys, and earns more than 2,000 yuan in his spare time. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
There is also a woman can be different from others, is a person who likes to play, men work but also pay money to her monthly custody, the family's land to others to plant, their own children with a child to go to school to bring children to study in the name of the street rented a room to live on their own, during the day in the mahjong table mixing day, dinner, there are not the three men entertained at night like butterflies to wear, this friend of the confidant sister's! The old generation didn't dare to squeak out. Behind people's gossip and stories in her body is a steady stream, they also said loudly that make friends are not afraid of people gossip, make the reputation. The money earned by the man at the end of the year is not much left, and finally divorced.
These two kinds of people are not only in my side of such a person, everyone's side of there. Normal people, people live a lifetime figure name, in order to give future generations to do an example, they can afford to put down is a person people admire the role, a life of candor. And those nasty women, young and reckless fall, once into the second half of life, they know their own mistakes, by then they regret it, the price of youthful madness is tragic, not recognized by everyone, think about how ruthless it is.
I believe that there are such stories around you, welcome to explore.
Women who are able to endure loneliness, busy and busy, not only to transport their children to school, some of the stomach is also pregnant with a second child, hard work is inevitable.
Sex is the nature of man, married life after marriage is normal, but married life is not normal, but in order to live, many husbands can only go out to work, in order to take care of the children, can only be left behind, in addition to the individual rural areas are very affluent, many places in poorer conditions, there was some dissatisfaction with life, the husband in the still rely on the feelings of the maintenance of the husband can go away the problem came.
With the child hard heart have complained, the place conditions are poor heart have resentment, the husband is not in the feelings and empty, the day and night in the long, how can the heart be willing?
Flies do not bite seamless eggs, their hearts do not have some ideas, and how will be deceived? This man has been away from home for a long time, under the guise of cheerfulness, and those men in the village flirted with no degree of flirtation, flirting, dry fire. Some of the young women who stayed behind wore particularly low-cut dresses and skirts that were too short to be seen.
The world is in a state of flux, and in this fickle society, husbands, don't leave your daughter-in-law alone in the countryside.
The village has a thirty-something, slender body face white woman Zhen, her husband Liang went to Guangzhou to work, those years Zhejiang run so far to work, basically young people.
Precious that year and her husband Liang was recognized in Guangzhou, because the hometowns live closer, is a county two towns next to each other. This back and forth, can not hold people's offense, pregnant with a child, and later gave birth to a girl. With a child to work is not convenient, let A Liang went to work by himself, A Zhen at home with the child. Usually do not have any other hobbies, just like to eat some snacks, play mahjong. Because the child was three or four years old at that time, they can run, there are almost the same children together, and do not need adults to control. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and then you'll be able to get your hands on some of the most popular ones.
A Liang's friend is in his late thirties and is a bachelor. The village people joked that this bachelor than people's husbands are like husbands, people A Liang can not see a few times a year, you this every now and then, people A Liang is not jealous ah.
After two years of this, one day Zhen did not even care about the child, and ran away with another man.
Everyone jokes about the bachelor more than two years of snacks bought in vain, or run away with someone else. It is said that A-liang came back at New Year's Eve, know that Precious disappeared, ran to Precious mother's home, the mother's family also do not know where Precious went, no way to come back. The next year said nothing to go so far away to work.
Later, according to a person in the know who played mahjong together, Precious occasionally said when playing mahjong, said that the bare hands and feet, pinching people very painful, we are so familiar with, and not good to say anything. Precious left three months ago, said a hometown to find Precious to play, those days Precious did not play mahjong, the hometown to take Precious to the county to play, go to the city to play, said also invited Precious to eat a lot of good food. Two months later, Precious played mahjong often yawning, nausea. At that time, we all joked is not pregnant, this Ah Liang is not at home, you can not blindly ah. After three or four days, Ah Zhen left.
Later, it was reported that the whereabouts of Precious was found, said to have run to the next county, once worked together in Guangzhou, the man's home, that is, when Liang was away, looking for Precious to play the hometown, then the two are text message contact, and one after another, was thought of by the others. The first time I saw this was when I was in the middle of the night, when I was in the middle of the night, when I was in the middle of the night.
Until eight years later, Liang found a wife, and then contacted Precious again, to the Civil Affairs Bureau to the marriage.
As a researcher of the three rural issues, I have been in the rural areas for a long time, and I have a better understanding of the young left-behind women in the countryside. From my research in the countryside, what young left-behind women in the countryside do during the day and at night is roughly as follows.
During the busy farming season, young left-behind women have to do farm work, and in addition to farm work, they may also have to pick up and drop off their children from school. When the farm is not busy, they are much more free. Generally speaking, when they are not busy with farming, some young left-behind women will surf the Internet at home. Other young left-behind women play mahjong. Some young left-behind women play mahjong during the day and then continue to play mahjong in the evening. For this kind of young rural left-behind women, playing mahjong is addictive.
There are also young left-behind women in rural areas close to market towns who go to market towns at night to dance in the square.
Once, when I was researching in a village, some old people in the village told me that there was a young left-behind woman in this village who liked to write articles. So, led by a few old people, I soon found this young left-behind woman and had some exchanges with her.
She told me that she wrote articles every day. I asked her what types of articles she wrote. She said she writes more essays because when she was in school, she loved to write essays and she has published more than 100 essays in newspapers and magazines. When it comes to manuscript fees, she said that she writes prose as a hobby and doesn't care how much she gets paid. In addition to writing essays, she also writes articles on rural technology.
I asked her how many young left-behind women like her like to write articles? She told me that in the local area, she is the only rural woman who likes to write articles. She joined some author groups, and sometimes, will communicate with the authors in the group. She did not want to comment on the young left-behind women who were chatting on the Internet, which led to their cheating, because after all, it was a private matter.
Finally, she told me that every three days she would video her husband, who was working overseas, and they would say something to each other in the video.
Staying behind, a heavy word, a heartbreaking back, a helpless bitter smile. Everyone who stays behind, no matter the old man, child or woman, has their own story.
In many rural areas, because farming can not solve the problem of survival, go out to work has become the most simple way to get rich. So, the young husband left, leaving behind his parents and children, and the young mother.
So, what are young rural left-behind moms busy with during the day and night?
I use two real cases to tell you listen, but only on behalf of a certain part, and please do not compare.
The income of 20,000 to 30,000 yuan, to a poor family to bring the visible change, this is the mother of the most gratifying thing. In the morning, she sends her eldest child to school, and then goes to work in the fields with her father-in-law, while her mother-in-law is at home with her children to practice. This is the same scene every day.
In her spare time, Mama A grows some vegetables to sell at the market during the day to subsidize her family. At night, when the child is asleep, knit a few sweaters. The day passes quickly.
Although the night without a man will feel empty, but in order to this family can live a little better, this payment is worth it. The happiest thing is that the man went home for New Year's Eve, in addition to bringing back tickets, and that waiting for a year hot body.
A mother is very satisfied, a family of old and healthy, money to save a little spending, in a few years can also build a small two-story building, the day is smooth on the line, do not want to be rich and powerful.
Young left-behind mothers - mother B:
32-year-old mother B also want to follow the man to go out to work, but the mother-in-law is not good health, the child is still in school, and leave them to the father-in-law, really can not do this kind of thing.
The man is gone for a year, and only comes home for a few days during the New Year. The daytime is not bad, home work, a busy day. But the long night, really hard to get through.
The woman climbed to 30 years old, that aspect of the desire is particularly strong, there is no man of the night, tossing and turning difficult to sleep. Look at other left-behind mothers dressed up, on the dance hall to the bar fooling around, B mother also heart itch.
Saying that you don't want to is a lie, but just thinking about it won't quench your thirst, after all, you're not the kind of woman who's open. The first time I went out to look for food, there was also a risk, and then in the village how to do people.
So, the teeth ninja is the only solution, although it is difficult, but always keep a clean to the man, but also afford him. Occasionally call to solve the problem, complain a few words, the man of the house is not easy, as long as he is sorry for himself.
A few years later, when the days are better, the man will not be allowed to go out again, hey, life is like this, for the family, simmer.
Every family has its own pain and helplessness, as well as laughter and tears. If the days are good, who wants the man to go out and make money. But the days are not just for yourself, there are parents and children.
Some of the young mothers left behind in the countryside, the day is also very dashing, to say that they are busy during the day and night what, can not be generalized, but there are *** with the same place, such as the following things, is that they do more.
I do not know how the situation elsewhere, but in our place in addition to children, playing mahjong almost everyone will be, but also one of the biggest hobbies, and the young left-behind women is one of the main force of the card table.
First of all, they have enough free time.
The women who stay in the countryside basically can't find any formal jobs either, so they are in a state of hobo, and as long as the youngest children have gone to kindergarten, they have a lot of free time for themselves. Although they are farmers, very few of them farm nowadays, especially since their men are not at home and they lack the most important labor force, so they are even more incapable of farming themselves. And nowadays, a lot of housework is given to the machine, which greatly liberates rural women, so they are the most idle.
Secondly, they have money in their hands.
Because of the young and strong, so their men work outside the day to earn hundreds of dollars a day, every month on time to play 10,000 dollars back, and this money are in the hands of the wife, the family's daily expenses are arranged by her.
And the cost of living in the countryside is still relatively low, if there is no other big expenses, how can 10,000 dollars a month be spent? So they have enough money to play mahjong, as long as they do not play the ground particularly large, or particularly bad luck, then lose and win, the pocket is always enough money to play mahjong.
So to say that those young women left behind what they do during the day, then playing mahjong is certainly to be in the forefront, because it is able to spend a lot of time, if the in-laws can also be responsible for the meals, then they do not have to go home all day long.
The reason why rural women stay behind is because there are young children need them to take care of, otherwise they would follow their husbands to go to the city to work together, the two can be together every day, and earn a lot of money, then even if they do not want to go, their husbands will not agree, so they stay in their hometowns also have a task, that is, to raise and accompany the child.
There are some things that grandparents can't do well, such as tutoring children to do their homework, and they don't know many words, so how can they help children to study well?
There are some things that grandparents can't do, such as tutoring kids to do their homework, and how can they help them to learn?
Young left-behind women to the children's companionship is the most important or in the weekend, they are willing to spend money, but also willing to give the children a more colorful childhood, so every weekend when the holiday will take them to go shopping, go to the amusement park, go to the picnic, in the process of accompanying the children, they are also relaxing, to enjoy a more colorful life, so they are very willing to, and the children will not be able to go back to their parents' home. This is the time to be able to let go of the mahjong.
Smartphones have become the most indispensable companion of modern people because of their powerful and rich functions, even in the countryside, which has basically been popularized to everyone, and the time they spend playing with their phones is not less than that of the city people.
Especially in the dead of night, when they have already put the children to sleep, and they themselves still can not sleep, the phone has become their only solace, you can watch live shopping on it, you can also chat with strangers online, all can make them laugh, out of the loneliness of the lonely and isolated without a man at their side.
So I sometimes feel that the rural left-behind women are not poor, they have money and leisure, and there are enough ways to kill the boredom of time, not more than the outside of the hard work alone to struggle in the workplace women and in the home with their husbands to do things to earn money women more happy?
A day in the life of a young stay-at-home mom in summer.Wake up at 4:30 a.m., clean up the house and go out to pick peaches for others, 12 yuan an hour, time and money.
At 7:30 a.m., I returned home, dressed my children and sent them to school, and then went back to pick peaches.
At 9:00 am, after picking peaches (earning 48 RMB), they returned home to wait for the elderly to take their medication and help them go to the toilet and wash up.
9:20 am to start cooking breakfast, 10:00 am on time to start dinner, eat dinner wash pots and pans, until 11:00 am end.
11:00 am ~ 12:00 a short break, began to take advantage of the sunny wash the whole family's clothes busy to the end of the noon 13:00 or so.
13:00 noon to buy vegetables home, choose vegetables, cleaning, began to do the noon meal, 14:00 meal, the whole family ate lunch, eat pots and pans and wash dishes.
15:00 noon to look at the phone, the family needs to buy things, such as the old man's clothes, children's clothes, some daily necessities through the Internet to buy back.
16:00 pm to go to the family orchard hoeing and breaking buds, 18:00 return home to the school to pick up children after school.
At 18:30pm, it was still dark, so I supplied water to the solar water heater at home and continued to work in the orchard.
At 19:30pm, I returned home, washed up briefly, checked my children's homework, and checked whether the elderly were hungry and needed to drink rice.
At 20:00pm, after a busy day, the old man went to bed and started to accompany the children to sleep, sometimes telling them bedtime stories.
At 21:00 PM, we started to clean the dirty clothes of the children from the whole day's schooling and the dirty clothes of our own work.
At 21:30 pm, when the kids are asleep and the husband is off work, you can have a video chat, but not for too long, as it will affect the husband's work the next day.
Night 22:00 sleep, also got up in the middle of the night to cover the child, the old man is not comfortable to go to the village clinic to ask the doctor to see a doctor.
Sometimes I feel like a robot, dragging my tired body to sleep, almost no free time to think about other things, life has long been swallowed up by the daily chores.
Conclusion: This is the summer of the young left-behind mom's day, in the family of the old and the young, the husband went out to work can not take care of the family, when the wife of the in-laws to wait for a good home, but also to take care of the study of the children, the whole family's diet and food and clothing and shelter in the back of the young left-behind mom's body, and to think of ways to increase the family income to reduce the economic pressure on the husband, but also to take care of the home crops, and the family is also a very important part of the family, and the family is also a very important part of the family. The more important thing is to take care of the family's crops in order to earn money after the harvest to subsidize the family, in addition to the night with her husband a short video chat, there is no free time to think of anything else.
This is a real day in the life of a young left-behind mom in the countryside, and after watching her day in the life, what kind of touch do you have?
In rural areas, it is very common for men to go out to work and for women to stay at home to take care of the elderly and children. So what are these young left-behind moms busy with during the day and night?
The two flowers bloom on each side, let's talk about the positive ones first. Li Guozhu and Zhao Zhihua from our village are a young couple. They are from the same village and have been in the same class since elementary school. After graduating from high school, neither of them went on to college. When they reached the age of marriage, they fell in love freely and started a family. This pair of childhood sweethearts of the couple, as the song sings, love and love, fiber rope swing long. Although the countryside is now free from worries about food and clothing, it is still hard to find a way to earn money. In order to lead a more affluent life, the couple decided that the husband Li Guozhu go out to work to earn money, and his wife Zhao Zhihua continue to stay at home to take care of a pair of children in elementary school and both the old and frail elderly. Because the couple has a very deep emotional foundation, so despite the separation of labor, but loyal to each other. When Zhao Guozhu first joined a factory, he was an ordinary worker. Because of his flexible brain, although only high school education, but he participated in the industrial park organization of the electrician, welder skills training, from the assembly line of ordinary workers, was promoted to workshop director, and later rose to the production plant manager. He earned a monthly salary in addition to leave enough for living expenses and pocket money, all sent home to subsidize the family. Speaking of his wife, Zhao Zhihua, who stays at home, the burden on her shoulders is not easy. Every morning before dawn, she gets up and starts cooking breakfast. After taking care of her two children and her parents-in-law and eating breakfast, she sends her two children to the elementary school in town by battery car. When she returns home, she starts to clean up the house. The family feeds a sow and two frame pigs, and the piglets born to the sow are sold when they are one month old, leaving only the two piglets to feed themselves. Every year, when the New Year is approaching, Li Guozhu will kill the New Year's pig as soon as he comes back, and the family will get together and celebrate the New Year with joy. In addition, the family has more than two acres of crop land. Since there were no male laborers at home, Zhao Zhihua planted it with rapeseed, which didn't require much labor input. After a season's harvest of rapeseed, they can extract 50 to 60 pounds of rapeseed oil, which is enough for the family to eat for a year. The leftover rapeseed cake was fed to the pigs, which grew to be shiny and fat. In the evening, after giving their two children a bath and cleaning up all the housework, the couple chats via video, which is the happiest time of the day for them, who live far away from each other. In the past few years, e-commerce has become popular in the countryside, and Zhao Zhihua, who likes to think, has also aimed at this rare business opportunity. She led a few young sisters who are also left-behind moms to sell their hometown's original mountain bamboo shoots, wild mushrooms, hickory nuts and other mountain products to many big cities through the Internet.
Next, let's talk about some of the less-than-stellar things that some left-behind moms do. Some time ago, the Internet circulated this jingle: hoeing day when the afternoon, mom is very hard. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty. Instant noodles all the time, no one to mend the clothes. How much money do you lose, two hundred and fifty dollars a day. It is true that some of the left-behind women, relying on the hard-earned money earned by their men working outside, dress themselves up, do nothing all day long, addicted to the mahjong table can not be extricated. What's more, they hooked up with some idle men in the village and did something indecent. There is such a family in our village, where the man works outside and the woman stays at home. The woman who stays at home, every morning hurriedly ate breakfast, then ran to the town's mahjong parlor, a sit is a whole day. During the day, she played mahjong, and at night, she sang and drank with a group of social gangsters in the town and never got drunk. Once when he went out, because of the rush, the fire in the stove room was not completely extinguished, and as a result, the house was burned to the ground. The woman got into big trouble, and did not have the face to see her man, so she eloped with a good friend in town. A good family, because of the woman's whims, so tragically scattered.
The good thing is that now in the countryside, also began to combat gambling special activities. I believe that in the near future, the social culture of the countryside will be fundamentally improved.
In fact, more women are bored with their daily lives. They would like to follow their husbands to go out to work, but they have to stay at home and take care of their elderly and children.
All these chores seem easy, but they are repeated day after day.
The daily life of women left behind in the countryside is largely devoid of recreational activities. The only thing they can do occasionally is to get together with their sisters and play mahjong. Now, in order to enrich their lives, they will also learn some simple square dance. Every night, we get together to dance, not only to exercise the body, but also to solve the long-term separation of the depression.
I was born in the countryside, the rural parents are very familiar with the matter, because farmers do not make money farming, rural young men are going out to work, some with their daughters-in-law to go out to work, some daughters-in-law at home, the husband went out to work alone, which appeared a number of rural women left behind in the absence of their husbands in the days of rural women left behind in the day in the work of what things? Below, I tell two real stories of rural left-behind mothers, to see left-behind mothers in what exactly they do.
The village has a mother surnamed He, this year the whole thirty years old, gave birth to a son and a daughter, the eldest is a daughter, this year five years old, the youngest is a son, this year two years old, in-laws are more than sixty years old. After her husband went out to work, Mother He used her weak shoulders to pick up the heavy burden of life.
In the absence of her husband, mom has to work early in the morning and late at night to take care of the house, and take good care of the two children. She is busy from the morning until the night when the two children go to sleep, and then she can only drag her tired body to the bed to rest, and the burden of life is so heavy that she is almost out of breath.
He mother's in-laws although more than 60 years old, but the two old people are still quite strong, the two old people business three acres of apple trees, the ground business apple tree work all rely on the burden of the grandmother, the day just dawn, in-laws get up early, simply drink a cup of water, nibble on a few bites of dry buns, and then go to the ground to work in the orchard began to be busy.
Spring to fertilization, pruning, pulling branches, even flowers, bags, summer to hoeing, spraying, even fruit, autumn to take the bag, under the fruit, box, sales, in-laws all year round, spring, summer and autumn seasons basically in the orchard to spend, the life of the hard work can be imagined, but the two old man and daughter-in-law understanding each other, mutual cool, life has been a hard and fulfilling.
He mother is mainly responsible for logistical support, with two children but also to ensure that the family's three meals a day, after getting up in the morning, He mother multiplied by the children have not yet got up, she rushed to start the fire to cook, to be the two children woke up, He mother's breakfast is ready, and she had to carry her son dragging her daughter to the in-laws to send meals, every day, month after month, year after year, so she was busy as a windmill can not be stopped.
Thirty years old mother is the age of the wolf like a tiger, although she is very busy and very hard, but the physiological needs are very strong, she wants her husband is almost wanting to silly, looking forward to her husband is almost looking forward to crazy, she dreamed of lying in the warmth of her husband's embrace to sleep, but this is not the reality, this is just a dream, is a desire and can not be asked for things.
Whenever the night is late, the two children go to sleep, He mother and thousands of miles away from her husband to video chat, chatting to the sad place, He mother's tears can not help but roll down, to He mother, life is too difficult, but she knows that her husband went out to the outside world, the more hard and more difficult, the two young people in the mutual cool and mutual understanding, are consciously dissolved in the heart of the resentment.
Although life is very difficult, but when the end of the husband to bring 70,000 to 80,000 yuan in cash, plus apple orchards in the 30,000 to 40,000 income, the annual economic income of more than 100,000 yuan, He mother felt that their hard work and pay is very worth it, and the next year, she supported her husband to go out to work, but also took up the family's burdens, and began the hard life of farming.
In the village, there is a Wang mother, Wang mother twenty-seven or eighteen years of age, young and beautiful, more flamboyant, bad temper, not long to marry, and in-laws can not get together, three days quarrels, in-laws in a fit of pique, separated from a single life. The single day is not good, due to the difficulties of life, the husband had to go out to work.
Wang mom gave birth to a son, this year is only six years old, just on the first grade, because the school has five miles away from home, because the child is too small to walk, Wang mom rented a cottage near the school to accompany the child to study, they have to accompany the child to study, a few acres of the family's thin rice paddies to give someone else to plant.
Not planting not farming Wang mother, every day only to the child to do three meals, life is relatively free, nothing to do Wang mother, all day to dress up their own glamorous flamboyant, was very beautiful, she was dressed up to look more beautiful and moving, Wang mother became the eyes of the men in the eyes of the big beautiful, where she lives, often have a heart of the men to date.
Wang mom is young and beautiful, twenty-seven or eighty-eight years old, she is the physiological needs of the most exuberant period, where she can hold the men's "interest in caring for" it, time is not long Wang mom and neighboring villages and a business boss on the good, Wang mom and the boss of the Ming Ming out of the pair, and even the two are often in the night together. The first time I saw this was when I was in the middle of the night.
Originally very much in love with money, very much like to dress up the Wang mother, in the support of the rich boss, her life has been particularly nourishing, high-grade cosmetics, high-grade clothes used by her from her to wear, which over time, Wang mother almost put their own out of work husband to forget.
It turned out that the boss is a divorced single man, the boss looked at the Wang mother, and want to marry the Wang mother as a wife, to be clear and Wang mother to live together, Wang mother has been used to the life of the rich, has experienced when the taste of Mrs. Wide, and her husband's idea of divorce, and this idea is getting stronger and stronger.
It was not easy to wait until the end of the husband back, the husband came back to feel his wife's indifference to their own and do not understand, the husband realized that his wife has changed her mind, may not be at home, the third party interfered, in the husband's repeated questioning, Wang mother told the truth, and asked for a clean break and divorce her husband, in the case of last resort, the husband and his wife to do the divorce formalities, and she followed the boss to enjoy the blessings of going to. The first time I saw this was when I was in the middle of the night.
Rural left-behind mothers, generally younger, is in the prime of age, because the life of the forced, and her husband living in two places, some can tolerate the hardships of life, some can not stand the hardships of life, especially due to the physiological aspects of the need to do a lot of incredible things, resulting in the end of the marriage with her husband and the breakup of the family.
I think, the husband went out to work with his wife, the two of us work, on the one hand, there is a care, on the other hand, is in the emotional support, physiological satisfaction, do not let young mothers stay in the countryside, stay in the countryside, young mothers if they can't survive will be out of the wall.