文友 红叶拂水 在《时差党征文｜这是我第一次坐飞机》後评论： 母爱女长江长，女愛母扁担长! Not understanding the meaning, Red Leaf tells us an old story.
A long time ago, there was a small mountain village, there is a river at the mouth of the village, there is a wooden bridge over the river, people in and out of the village have to go through this bridge.
On a rainy day, the mother hurried home with her young son. The road was slippery, and his son accidentally slipped into the water. The mom jumped in after him and grabbed him.
This time the mother remembered that they do not know how to water, can only desperately support the son in the water fluttering. In the nick of time, a watery fellow villagers passed by and saved both mother and son.
Decades later, the son has been strong, but the mother is old and frail, hobbling.
One day, mother and son hit the bridge, suddenly mom stumbled, fell headlong. Son heard the sound, turned around and saw his mother fall into the water, the bridge from the water is not high, he quickly took the hand holding the stretcher down, shouting mom quickly grab.
The old mother struggled to reach out to the hand, but how can not reach, the son sadly holding the stretcher mortar and pestle on the bridge, looking at the river to the mother more and more far away ......
A day later, the townspeople in the downstream to find the old mother's body, can not help but wipe tears and lamented: Mother's pain son is the Yangtze River water, the son is filial piety mother is ah."
Although it is a story, but to express, is really most of us have a personal experience - mother love child heart and lungs, the child love mother is always not so complete and thorough.
When I was very young, I heard that "the child is the flesh of the mother's body", and I went through the hardships of the October pregnancy, the birth of a night and a day of life and death pain, and finally became a mother.
Whenever you look at your child's tender and fuzzy face while he is sleeping, your heart is filled with infinite tenderness, and you think more than once that from now on, this life will be lived for this little person.
This is from the heart instinctive emotion, there is no way things. For the offspring, from the responsibility, we brought them into this world, to be responsible for them; from the habitual, they have been in our care to grow up, for them, we are accustomed to pay.
The opposite is true for our parents, we are used to being taken care of by them. When I was a kid, they were all over us, and when we were older, we seldom realized that they needed to be taken care of. On the contrary, there is a what difficulties, trouble most direct reflection is to find Mom and Dad.
Take yourself, the first winter after the marriage, the road back to his mother's home to see the sale of snow red, they like to eat, and think of the family also more mouths, bought two bundles to bring to his mother's home. Coincidentally, sister likes to eat dried radish, also just dragged a sack of radish thrown to the mother's home. Mom couldn't help but exclaim: "You two sisters can be 'really good'!"
After all, it's not just a matter of washing, drying, and salting them to bring them to our little house in a sack.
Not to mention the fact that when we had a child, we asked mom to help us out as if it was a matter of course, and she seemed to think it was her duty to do so.
Mom's love for us is really the Yangtze River water, and when it comes to our love for mom, that is, only a long flat, filial piety, filial piety is enough, always insufficient - always to their own understanding, good and bad to discipline, to complain, sometimes calm down and even feel too much, issued a "fortunate to be a mother, not a mother-in-law! !" The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do that.
After all, parents have their own imprints from that era, their behavioral habits and cognitive limitations, and conflicts are inevitable.
Naturally, not everything has to be smooth, all can be smooth. In daily life, there is no principle, the problem of right and wrong, the way to get along with the happy, more importantly, may rely on our younger generation can go along with it, can not go along with it, but also to find ways to defuse the situation.
I once read another story.
A rich man took his mother to the clinic to set teeth, and despite the doctor's recommendation, his mother chose the cheapest kind.
The doctor looked up at his son, who was in a suit, and hoped that he would say something, but he just stayed on the phone and smoked a cigar without asking.
The doctor had to settle for the mother's choice. The mother shakily took a cloth bag out of her pocket, opened it layer by layer, took out the money and paid the deposit, and made an appointment to come back in a week.
After the two left, everyone in the clinic cursed the rich son, saying that he was well-dressed and smoked fine cigars, but did not want to spend money on a good set of teeth for his mother.
Just as they were scolding, the rich son came back to the doctor and said, "Please give my mother the best porcelain teeth, and I will make up the difference. But you mustn't tell my mother, she's very thrifty, and I don't want to upset her. "
This story reminds me of buying clothes for mom.
I took my mom to buy new clothes and tried to let her pick what she liked, but she was always happy and disappointed.
Is it because she has a special shape that makes it difficult to buy clothes that fit her? She has been dancing, more than seventy years old, back does not hump waist does not bend, but also can do the "one-horse", the body to keep like a ballet. The person is medium-high, simply standardized standard clothes rack.
When trying on clothes, not only the salesman boasted, but also other customers who praised and showed their envy, but she just can't get it right. The first time I saw this, I thought it was too short or too long, not a little fat or a little thin, or too flowery for fear of being laughed at.
After shopping a few stores, I got impatient. A few times down, and not willing to take her shopping to buy clothes again.
However, our mother-daughter figure is almost the same, I do not wear the clothes, she will pick up some, can wear, will be beautiful to wear on the body, wear up does appear to be young and dashing style good.
In the end, mom still can't afford to spend money, whether it's on her own or on her daughter's, even if the clothes aren't expensive.
So I also learned to make up the heart, feel that she can wear on the buy, say their clothes too much, wear over, she also took the beautiful to wear.
A sentence "mother pain child Yangtze River water, child filial mother flat long", said the mother and child destined to be unequal love. It's easy to be filial, but it's hard to be obedient, so we should do our best to fulfill our parents' wishes, so that our filial piety can be more generous.