Feelings fade in marriage is not terrible, the terrible thing is that they made a mistake but do not know how to repent. Every marriage has similarities, the difference is the way to deal with it.
"Cheating" is an extremely private behavior for both men and women. If it goes undetected, the secret rots in the stomach and is taken to the grave.
But why do some women have to tell their husbands about cheating? Come to hear the truth from these three women:
Ms. Yang: This is the only reason I left the marriage
My husband and I have been married for seven years. We never had children because of my husband's problems. My in-laws didn't want to adopt someone else's child, they felt there was no blood relationship.
My husband wants to adopt his cousin's child, but I don't agree. I think the cousins are too insensitive and always come to their house to take things when they have nothing to do. I really want a child of my own.
It dragged on for another two years. On the outside, I told people I didn't want one for a while. In fact, my heart died of boredom and no one could understand the pain.
Once and the company's colleagues traveled on business, and had a drink at dinner in the evening. I told him about my years of aggression, sparingly made a mistake.
After returning home, I told my husband about it. At first, my husband did not believe. Later, I showed him the ambiguous text messages sent by my colleagues, and my husband was dumbfounded.
Finally, we divorced. In fact, I don't like that coworker, I just want to use this matter to divorce as soon as possible.
Ms. Gao: Husband cheated, out of revenge I also cheated
Hubby is a corporate executive, I have my own business. My husband and wife are rich and carefree. However, my husband once had a relationship.
At first, he was really angry, quarreled when we met, and thought of divorce. But when we calmed down, my husband apologized to me, and my in-laws talked to me a few times, hoping that I could look at my children and live a good life.
Although we decided not to leave, our married life did not go back to the past. I later found out that he was still secretly in contact with that person.
At an old classmate's party, probably out of revenge, I cheated on a male classmate in the same class after drinking, and later made a real disguise to sympathize with the male classmate.
I soon had a showdown with my husband, and he called the shots. My husband couldn't take it and we eventually divorced.
Ms. Niu: out of guilt, I want to start over My husband is a construction project engineer, often go to the field on business trips, and I am in a foreign company as an office worker. I've been working at 8:00 a.m. and 5:00 p.m. After work, I went back to the dormitory to sleep, woke up and ate something, and went to the square to dance.
Once, after dancing, I went to the market to buy fruit. When I was about to pay the bill, the boss told me I had already paid. The fruit boss smiled and pointed to a handsome man. Look, very handsome, should be much younger than me. I'm really sorry. I paid him, but he didn't accept. He added his WeChat transfer, but it was confiscated. He said he was my fan and liked to see me dance.
In this way, from strange to familiar, I was captured by him without defense. After the first time, I felt sorry for my husband and wanted to break it. However, later, I was with him again.
I secretly lived with him for 3 years, and my husband's Guangdong project was basically completed. My husband and I went back home to delete him.
After returning home, I confessed to my husband the secret hidden in my heart, I said now the child is also big, I am sorry for you, we divorce.
I did not expect my husband not only did not blame me, but also forgave me. He said that before with my companionship is too little, a person when you go out to make love, so that I will not let me alone again. That night, we seemed to return to the first love.
Conclusion:
Why do some women tell their husbands after cheating? After reading the experiences of these three women, I think there are three reasons.
The first is to want a divorce . Husband and wife have a bad relationship, the husband is not good to himself, or some irreconcilable contradictions caused by other reasons, but he does not want to divorce, but the wife feels that life can not go on, so she can only force her husband to agree to divorce her by exposing her shortcomings and telling the story of her cheating.
The second is out of revenge . The husband hangs around all day, causing indelible damage to his wife. The wife is so angry that she decides to make amends in kind, which makes him pay for the feeling of being a cuckold.
The third reason is because of guilt . Hubby is very responsible for the family, cares for himself in every way and works hard for the family. However, because of some capriciousness or other reasons, I cheated. The better my husband treats himself, the heavier the guilt he feels towards his husband. In the long run, the pressure inside the wife will get heavier and heavier and this burden will eventually wash over her.
She had to tell her husband in the hope that he would forgive her for her momentary confusion.
It's not easy to be a couple. If you don't love, please don't continue to hurt, good and good, know how to let go, both a fulfillment, but also left each other a little tenderness. You're not going to be able to do that, are you?
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