There is a real example around me, a colleague of mine, after the pregnancy, the mother-in-law and husband are working, her pregnancy reaction is particularly strong, so resigned in the mother's home to rest assured that the mother fresh fruits to buy, delicious meals to do, what chores are not allowed to do, the clothes are the mother to wash, we all have unlimited expectations of this little life. However, go to the hospital for a routine checkup, found no fetal heart, call to tell her husband, he did not say anything, mother-in-law casually said is not work tired, after finishing may feel that said inappropriate, but the more this kind of non-consideration casually said the more is her heart, colleagues and I call a good meal of aggression, on behalf of her mother to feel aggrieved, did not have to bear a baby, the mother did not allow to do the housework, let alone pregnant with the baby it?
I want to eat and drink well in my mother's home, this is as the mother's family to the daughter's duty, if but any accident, it is the mother's family's sin.
I have a friend who went back to her mother's house after she got pregnant. Her mother's mother was very happy, but because she was very nervous about the baby, she paid full attention to all aspects of her life and gave her "special protection".
My friend will look at the phone, his mother began to read, ah, do not look at the phone, the eyes are not good, back to your eyes to see the wind tears, hurry to put down, hurry to put down!
My friend wanted to eat a fruit, her mom either said that this fruit is not in season, do not let eat; or said that the fruit skin for fear of pesticide residues, must be soaked for a while to eat. The problem is that sometimes, when the fruit is soaked, my friend doesn't want to eat it ......
Of course, she understands that her own mother is certainly for her own good and her children's good, but because of the tight control, she makes herself uncomfortable, and then she inevitably gets nervous.
Care too much, will also make it difficult to say that this is the case, right?
During pregnancy, I think the most important thing is the mood of the pregnant woman.
If the mood is cheerful, nothing is pressed in the heart, the nerves are more relaxed, not only for adults, but also for the fetus is particularly good.
Especially in the early stages of pregnancy, a lot of people are pregnant, eating is basically the same as suffering, a lot of people can be said to rely on a breath of support. This is the first time I've ever seen a woman with a good mood, and I've never seen a woman with a good mood before!
So, whether it's your mom's house, your mom-in-law's house, or your own house, you can stay wherever you want to stay, and you can stay wherever you want to stay.
A good mood and lots of smiles will make it easier to get through your pregnancy. Let these shares help you, and I wish you a smooth and stable pregnancy!
When my wife was pregnant, she went back to her mother's house almost every month for a few days, as little as three to five days, more than half a month, 150 kilometers away from each other is not particularly far, driving two and a half hours to.
My wife always said that my mother cooking is not as good as my own mother cooking, then I will follow her to send her home, so the advantage is that I and my mother to worry about, every day to enjoy the leisure.
Then the child was born in the wife's mother's side of the hospital, hospital care, the child was born to stay up all of the wife's mother, aunt and uncle to help.
The day of the birth of the child, my mother rushed to the hospital by car to take care of two days to go home.
Because it is a normal birth, so the third day out of the hospital, sitting in the month is also in the wife's mother's home to do, in addition to washing the shit diaper (Jie) son of nothing to do all day in addition to eating is to sleep, the whole period of the month during the fat more than ten pounds.
The time of the month is okay, the baby is hungry in the middle of the night can drink breast milk, after two months of my wife did not have milk, every night to get up four or five times to the baby and (huo) powdered milk, these jobs are my wife's mother or grandma to do, and I did a handshake cabinet to go to work.
Until the baby five months later, I took my wife and child home, from pregnancy to home, the middle of almost a year basically wife is in the mother's home.
Although my wife's preparation, production, sitting in her mother's home, but did not affect the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but she felt more at home in her mother's home, more capricious, want to eat what yell, want to do not have to greet, and in front of the mother-in-law more or less this will be restrained, can not be capricious to make her mother-in-law to do this and do that.
So, after pregnancy in the end in-laws or in the mother's home is good, depending on where the wife is willing to, but also depends on the husband's support or not support, of course, the premise is to maintain good relations between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law!
After getting pregnant, is it better to be in your mother's house or in your mother-in-law's house?
This varies from person to person, if you marry close to it, I think it is the most convenient, in-laws live bored, they go back to the mother's home, stay in the mother's home enough, and go back to the mother-in-law's home, which I quite envious of people close to the mother's home, if you marry far away, it depends on how your life is, as well as the mother-in-law's attitude towards you how the attitude of your mother-in-law's people good attitude in the mother-in-law to live in the mother-in-law's home is also very good ah if you want to go back to the mother-in-law's home, the mother-in-law's home, the mother-in-law's home is convenient, better. If you want to go back to your mother's house, it's better if it's convenient, after all, it's your own daughter, and your mother knows how to take care of you better than your mother-in-law. If the mother's family also has a daughter-in-law, live for a long time more or less a little inconvenient, and they will also be a little unpleasant.
My husband and I are not a place, a little far from my mother's home, and my mother's side is also very busy, so I was pregnant twice in my mother-in-law's home, I think in-laws are also quite good, fortunately, I have a good job to speak of my mother-in-law, pregnant with her to take me to build a card, the maternity ah, and so on, and sometimes my husband did not have the time to accompany me to go, it is she accompanied me, hospitals are crowded, queuing up for money and so on, it is the mother-in-law to go, though Sometimes there will be a little conflict with the mother-in-law, like when pregnant, she preferred to ask me to eat as much as I can not eat, sometimes I practice a little maternity yoga, she will be next to say that this does not work, ignore her on the line, she left ear into my right ear out, the old man is like this, everything wants to young people according to her intention to do, the young people to look at the open up on the good. The pregnancy is so boring, I sometimes stay at home bored, will also go out with my mother-in-law to do some work, like planting ah, planting corn ah, these I can do then, and at night will also go with her to see other people dancing in the square, in-laws live in the in-laws also want to live in the in-laws of the benefits of the evening, her husband came back, you can help him whack his back, talk, take a walk, other people say that during pregnancy, prospective fathers and the fetus to talk is very important, I do not know if it's true, I'm not sure.
Pregnant where to live, all to be happy, the mind is very important, mood good optimistic attitude, the fetus can be healthy growth, the fetus character will be good, the mood is not good old angry, the fetus has a great impact.
My in-laws and my mother's home to drive ten minutes, but most of the time I am pregnant in-laws, the beginning of the pregnancy reaction is relatively strong, because the marriage is not long, but also ate not accustomed to the mother-in-law to do the meal, they ate a relatively light, at that time, the work of half a month's leave back to the mother's home to live a short period of time, but the in-laws will be sent to the past every two or three days a lot of dishes, in-laws sitting in a pork business, in their opinion, where the nutritional value is not very good, but it's a little more than a few days. Business, in their opinion where there is nutrition to cut where the meat to, they always say that this is all our family, and now we have to trouble the mother of the mother's family, so the backing to do enough to be able to do.
Later, after normal work to go home to live, my mother-in-law is a particularly careful people, she will do a lot of variety out, and then observe me which dishes eat more, the latter two or three days will repeat that same dish, I was almost born when I found this law, so in the subsequent so many years, meet like to eat a little bit of food, do not like to eat a little bit of food, do not complain about nitpicking, after all, not from childhood! The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money to pay for the services you need.
There is also my mother often said to me that pregnancy is not delicate, can do things on their own, do not bother others, as far as possible. But my mother-in-law is not let me do anything, not pregnant, in addition to underwear, other clothes mother-in-law are all covered down, the results of the pregnancy every time for fear that I wash their own inconvenience, I bathed in the shower outside, see me out, hurry to the inside of the clothes are taken away.
Married for ten years, from not and mother-in-law red face, every time and husband controversy, always stand on my side first consider analyzing, and then wait for us to calm down, and then one by one accusation, who is who's fault to say who.
So the mother-in-law is also a mother, although not a real mother, but we are all special efforts to adapt to the role of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I remember most of the wedding scene my father-in-law said a sentence, from today onwards I have another daughter, this decade, but also really to me to go to the same as pro-life
First of all, I think that you are pregnant, both the choice to go to your mother's home and the choice of the mother-in-law's home is very happy.
When I first got pregnant, my mom and dad lived in poor conditions, not suitable for me to go over to live, so I could not go. And my mother-in-law remarried a long time ago, so I had to stay in my own home, cooking and eating for myself throughout my pregnancy and taking care of myself.
If you really have to choose, I think that after the pregnancy is stabilized, you can go to your mother's house to live for a while, live in your mother's house is definitely more comfortable, and eat more accustomed. The latter is almost born, it is recommended to be in the mother-in-law's home, because if you month, your mother-in-law went to your mother's home, is also equivalent to a guest to go, but increase the burden of your parents. If there is no such problem, then your mother's home in-laws casually live, and their own husbands to discuss it.
But from my own perspective as a daughter, I would choose to go back to my in-laws a few months before I give birth, because although the hospital technology is now very good, but there will inevitably be accidents. A relative of my family, when the aunt because of family planning, went back to her mother's home to wait for delivery, and finally gave birth to a child in her mother's home hospital accident, the relatives of the aunt's mother's home has not been very cold, or there is blame in it, but that year, the mother's home is to contribute to the money and effort, but also not to fall good. So from the point of view of mom and dad, I would choose to go back to my mother-in-law's house or my own house at 6,7 months, and if I really need to take care of mom and dad, I would let mom and dad come to my own house to take care of me.
For girls, probably the most common thing our parents say from the time we get to know each other is: "In the future, you must find a good in-laws!" At that time we may not be able to understand the meaning behind this sentence, but when we are really into the marriage hall of the day, or the moment we became a mother, only began to understand the meaning implied by this sentence - in-laws, for a woman is really too important!
"In-laws" and "mother's home" are two important family environments in a woman's life, which may be very different and inseparable, because without either one, she will not be happy.
That year, when I shyly shouted "mom" to her, from this world there is another loved one who loves me.
Soon after I got married, I was pregnant, and my mother and mother-in-law were very happy to learn about it. The first time I saw this, my mother was not well enough to take care of me, so my mother-in-law took care of me and my baby during my pregnancy and in my mother-in-law's house.
Most of the pregnant women have early pregnancy reactions, and usually have serious symptoms of pregnancy, but I did not, the food is eaten, the drink is drunk, the sleep is sleep, the whole process is relatively easy. Despite this, it didn't stop my mother-in-law from being busy." What do you want to eat today? I'll go to the market to buy it; eat more fruits for the future child's good skin; foot cramps still hurt? Did you drink the milk? What color of wool should I choose to knit my little sweater? Is it too hot to sleep well? Drink some chicken soup at night before going to sleep ...... "My mother-in-law, who is usually frugal, didn't skimp at all with me. The month is in the hot summer, the mother-in-law's all kinds of disallowance, young me then stupid to even will feel that the mother-in-law some pompous." Air conditioning, electric fan can not open, or later will be bone pain; to wear a hat, or later will have a headache; not allowed to speak loudly, when answering the phone should not be long, or later chest will be stuffy; can not watch TV, or later eyes will be sore; can not touch the cold water, the cold will enter the body; do not sit for too long, I'll take the child, you first sleep ......" In short, the mother-in-law of my meticulous care, the child attentive care, her good I can not use words to describe, only unlimited gratitude, thankful that I have a good mother-in-law.
So is it better to be pregnant and in your mother-in-law's house, or to go back to your mother's house? In fact, as far as the individual is concerned, it is possible to sit in any place, mainly to get well and take good care of the baby.
Let's talk about me! When I was pregnant, I wanted to stay at my mother's house, but my sibling was also pregnant and she wanted to stay at her mother's house too. Same idea as me, said in my mother's house, what do you want to eat? What do you want to drink? My mother knows everything, and takes better care of her than my mother-in-law. What is not their own body, or anything else, to the mother-in-law some embarrassment, to the mother pampered tantrum, mother will treat me as a child, do not give me a general understanding. But her sister-in-law's children are still small, afraid of the old on the mother's home to affect the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and a disabled grandmother, do not want to fill the mother's family to the trouble, can only be in the mother-in-law's home, less to go to the mother's home. I'm not waiting for me to say anything! Mother gave me an order, "Xiaoling, you and Xiaofang are pregnant, not only do you need to pay attention to your body at this time, but your psyche is also very delicate now, and you need to pay attention to it as well. So don't stay at your mother's house all the time in case Xiaofang gets upset and moves the fetus. What do you say?" "What you say is also true, Xiao Fang doesn't live in her mother's house, isn't she also afraid of upsetting her sister-in-law? Besides, your health is not too good, I will live in my mother's home less."
Later, during my pregnancy, I mostly stayed at my mother-in-law's house, and she took very good care of me, and often made me delicious food in different ways, so I was very careful about what I ate and what I didn't eat. She also warned her son, my husband, "Xiaoling is in a very difficult time, don't make her angry, coax her and obey her." I was also told, "If Xiaohui bullies you, if you get angry, tell mom and I'll teach him a lesson for you." So I was like a princess during my pregnancy and I was very happy and comfortable.
No matter where you are, it's up to you to cooperate.
This problem I think depends on the individual, like to live where are available, now the family children and not many, not as in the past, can not eat, worry about home guests can not afford to buy food! In addition, pregnant either mother-in-law or mother must be as a treasure!
When I was pregnant, the vomiting was very strong, have been living in my mother's home, the first four months to eat what vomit, water can not get in, but I still endure to eat, even if I ate spit out, four months pregnant and lost 18 pounds, to the fifth month began to show the stomach, when I began to get better, not much vomit, when my parents began to farm, I will help every day to wash the clothes and cook!
By the time the pregnancy was almost eight months, parents began to urge me to return to the in-laws, worried that usually they are busy on me alone at home, in case they want to give birth to no one to look at, the husband has been working in the field, a month in advance to come back to accompany me!
That time of pregnancy, although in my mother's home, the conditions are not as good as my mother-in-law, but I still like to stay in my mother's home, I got married the second year of pregnancy, my mother-in-law's home for me is still very strange plus my husband is not at home, it is more boring, instead of my mother-in-law's home is where I grew up, the very familiar taste, and can be more accompanied by mom and dad, so I was thinking of it this way!
When I was pregnant with my son, I was living in my mother-in-law's house, and my mother-in-law took good care of me, and taught me what I should eat and what I shouldn't eat, and gave me delicious food every day, and sometimes I even felt that she was treating me as if I were a guest, and because I was pregnant with my first child, I didn't know that I was pregnant with a child but also had to go to the doctor's office on a regular basis, and every time I went for a check-up, my mother-in-law would get up at 6:00 in the morning to cook breakfast. When the doctor reads the checkup report, ask if there are any nutritional deficiencies. I remember the day before I gave birth, my mother-in-law told me to go to the hospital to wait for delivery, because their home to the hospital to three or four hours, she was afraid that if the birth of the baby, can not catch up to go to the hospital, I remember that day, my father-in-law, mother-in-law, my husband, and two sister-in-law accompanied me to the hospital, the child was born in the hospital for six days after the maintenance of the hospital, they were accompanied by me in the hospital for six days. The nurse also said to me, your family is really good, yes, our family relationship is very good, my mother-in-law no matter what words will say to me, we are like biological mother and daughter of the same.