Some people have asked what kind of children are the most difficult to control, and I replied, "The eccentric, sensitive, stubborn and stubborn ones like my sugar peas are the most difficult to control." Now I ask again, I am y convinced that "compared with the cranky bear child, the smooth-talking bear child is more difficult to control". The smooth-talking Tai Chi bear child is usually harmless and sweet-talking, but when he gets into trouble, he will immediately turn his face into a "Tai Chi master"--will he be as difficult to discipline as the cranky bear child who smiles and laughs in the face of the words of your hardened steel to get into trouble? Treating children with high emotional intelligence, this discipline is the most effective one out of the ceremony must be invisible to the enemy, not a few on the side of you, let you laugh, let you cry is useless. Obviously know that he must be well repaired, and ultimately did not break the work, no way to end. Why are children with high emotional intelligence the most difficult to discipline Why do you think it's hard to discipline a bear child who hits such a mouth-smooth Tai Chi type? It's simply because kids like that generally have high emotional intelligence.
He can quickly and sensitively feel the mood of the adults angry face adults are about to explode feelings, he endured the pressure, not because of fear and lose their minds improvise, quickly choose the right tactics, gradually be driven to desperation, disintegrate the feelings of adults who occupy an overwhelming advantage in many ways especially playfulness this method is to influence the feelings of other people's typical, highly effective Technique. No matter how dominant and powerful the human emotional system seems to be, it's always on the move, uncontrollable and imperfect, and the one thing that can beat it is "funny". In other words, no matter how emotional you are, once you laugh, even the hardest and strongest feelings are quickly eliminated. A fart can virtually eliminate the tense atmosphere. Serious and tense meetings can turn into funny conferences for some time now. A grimace can instantly remove adult anger ....... "Laughing is not an exaggeration"! Hippy this method, the other side of the emotional attack is also very effective defense - although I can see how you rant, but I still smile, easily eliminate the tension you create with strength, no matter how heavy fist formed, but ultimately hit the feeling of cotton balls.
Funny behavior doesn't work all the time, and sometimes it has the opposite effect. But we can't underestimate our child's ability to do well - either. As he goes about his daily life, he gradually figures out where your "laughing spot" is, thinking "where can I make the adult laugh correctly". Once he realizes that adults are immune to this hand, they will further study and constantly update their ability to be funny, can not defend you, can not defend you. The "killing power" of a highly intelligent child "So, even if you pretend to be serious and hold back your laughter, your child won't intervene, right? ' parents might say. Yes, I can indeed do that, but it always turns out badly. Whether you are really angry or pretending to be angry, a child with high emotional intelligence can sense it accurately. And, even if the child can't laugh at you, there are many other tricks that can 'pacify' you. For example, sweet talk (Mommy loves you), sweet talk (Mommy, that's a nice dress you're wearing), and the pathetic (Oooh, no one likes me). I can never pick you up. Speaking of nighttime sleep for Sugarplum, it's been almost an hour since I washed up. I'm not going to sleep. Listening to storybooks, saying "best friend", being so lonely outside (toys, cups, even two new toothpastes), and playing the fork dance. ...... Sleepy old mom is always restless.
Laid down not even two minutes, said he wanted to drink water, pee, angry that I was sleepy, and immediately stood up, did not wait for me to finish, Sugar Bean began to apologize to me. "Mom, I won't do it this time. Can you forgive me? " I apologized, can an adult catch on? I watched as the anger disappeared and told me about his time in kindergarten. Seeing that he was planning to share about his time in kindergarten, I immediately quieted down like an attentive elementary school student in class. Didn't notice the fact that he was being taken by a bear ...... So the reason the articulate, Tai Chi child is so difficult to discipline is because he is so good at noticing emotions, manipulating them, and getting out of the adult's wrath unscathed every time he bakes in it. You in the child realizes that he has "invulnerable superpowers" (those who make rules for me is not vicious, in fact, just a paper tiger, just a few words to suffocate), spend the energy to discipline themselves, to follow the rules, if the child's heart really think so, adults in the child's heart have any majesty?
'If it's a child who is really competent and emotionally overwhelmed and always makes him angry, is it true that you can't control him? ' some parents might ask. Not completely unable to discipline, there are only prerequisites, parents need a higher level of parenting ability -, completely free from "emotional discipline" as a traditional method of discipline, break the "emotional discipline" long formed habits. The habit of "Emotional Discipline" has been formed for a long time. Influenced by the original family, we are always accustomed to the "emotional discipline" of children, as if as long as the loud reprimand children, so that the child is afraid, self-blame, or even hurt, can give the child a lesson, so that the child will have a memory. Children are emotionally sensitive, and when they see an angry adult, they are afraid to make a mistake. However, the discipline method of winning with this emotional suppression of the other person is only a threat to the uninitiated and unseasoned child, and will be of little use when the child grows up. In this case, if the child is not emotionally intelligent, he or she will fight with you or outright despise your behavior. If the emotional intelligence is high, the speech will become smooth and play Tai Chi. At this time, do not say that you will overcome the child with your feelings, on the contrary, there is a danger of winning it. So to effectively discipline children, first of all, to improve their emotional cultivation, to learn to discipline children in the emotional stability of the time, do not need to be angry with the child and then angry bullying children.
If you are angry with your child again, don't lose control of your emotions in front of your child, divert your attention to do something else, and wait for your emotions to stabilize before disciplining your child. If you're disciplining your child without a bad mood, your child won't be able to concentrate on "calming" you. I can focus on what you are saying without being attracted by mood swings. Only in this way can there be effective communication, and the child will be able to recognize his or her problem in his or her heart. In conclusion, to deal with a child with high emotional intelligence, it is unrealistic for an adult to take advantage of the situation to win the child. Because such a child will not be affected by your feelings. You and your child really need PK because of emotional cultivation - emotional stability. You can mobilize your intellect to crush the child. If you have an emotional meltdown the child is not affected by this, no matter how high your IQ was before, this is the time to give the child a little trick to muddle through and not know. As a baby mama, I certainly know how difficult it is to maintain emotional stability in front of the child who made a mistake, but the bear child can not be returned.?