Of course, people are not perfect, and it is difficult to have no waves in the heart while gathering the world's sea of clouds. However, if the introspection of the heart are not, that is the old ways, stuck in a rut. And people tend to see their own merits, see the shortcomings of others, and take their own merits and the shortcomings of others for comparison.
Therefore, if people have the consciousness of introspection, they need to have the realization that I am also a human being, not a perfect human being. Any conflict or obstacle is not the fault of one person, nor is it the power of one person to break through, and people with a higher awareness tend to be more tolerant, more rational, and more easy-going. The purpose of all our communication and management is nothing but three points: firstly, to solve problems; secondly, to improve others; thirdly, to improve ourselves. And one of the enhancement of their own is the most difficult to get, because in addition to the ability to enhance, but also have a thorough understanding of the wisdom of things.
Interspersed in this process, there is an extremely important influence: emotional management. Many people have spoken, because this is done too stupid, too stupid, really let their own anger can not be solved.
But what I want to say is that no matter what the reason, the reason, the emotional output, is the embodiment of irrational, immature personality - no exceptions!
It's just that most people don't have the means to reach sainthood and completely eschew emotional outpourings, but we need to have a sense of restraint. Unless it is the application of tactics in a particular situation, and the difference between this and pure catharsis lies in the discretion of words, the control of force, the request for feedback, and most importantly: the review after the feedback! And this method should not be used too often, otherwise it would be tantamount to a tantrum. And then most of us so-called tactical use, are only the first half - no last step, are all emotional outbursts!
I
Mencius said, "If you can't do something, do it to yourself."
Mencius said, "If you love people, you are not close to them, you are not kind; if you rule people, you are not wise; if you don't answer them, you are not respectful. Those who are not allowed to act, all seek the opposite of themselves." It means that if I love others and they are not close to me, I should ask myself if my love and kindness is enough; if I manage others and fail to manage them well, I should ask myself if my knowledge and ability is enough; if I treat people politely and don't get a response, I should ask myself if my attitude is respectful enough; and if I don't get the expected result of any behavior, I should ask myself and check myself properly.
It can be said that those who strive for advancement value introspection. Because they know that introspection is an effective way to recognize themselves, correct their mistakes and improve themselves, introspection makes the personality constantly tend to improve, so that people towards maturity. Only good at discovering and dare to admit their own faults, can further correct the faults.
Second
Lao Tzu said, "The road is not to blame."
Not blaming easily is a kind of cultivation and wisdom. Such a person, the heart of the sunshine and beautiful, over time, the blessing of nature to. Everyone is not an island, people are interconnected. Regardless of the interests and feelings, there is a connection means that there is friction, there is a collision, everyone may make mistakes. Gold is not perfect, people are not perfect, learn to understand, learn to forgive, is the sign of personality maturity.
Three
Xue Xuan, a scholar in the Ming Dynasty, said, "Only width can accommodate people, only thick can carry things."
Only by treating people with a tolerant mindset can we gather people's hearts, and only by having a thick character can we take on a big responsibility. The old saying: "the river and the sea so can be the king of all rivers, to its good under the also" "tolerance is great." Tolerance is a tacit understanding of the mind and cognition, virtue is the height of the human realm.
Four
"Over the court record": "to blame the heart to blame themselves, to forgive their own heart to forgive people."
People have a tendency to avoid harm, so people in the evaluation of others and their own right and wrong, the balance is naturally tilted in their own, which has nothing to do with experience, knowledge and so on. However, we can through introspection, restraint, in order to tend to the balance of the balance.
V
The Book of Rites - Le Ji has a cloud: "good and bad without section in the internal, know the temptation to the external, can not reflect on the body, the reason for the sky is gone."
Back to check their own words and deeds, the purpose is to self-reflection at any time to understand, recognize their own thoughts, emotions and attitudes, so as to make up for the shortcomings, correct the faults, and constantly improve themselves. This is an active pursuit of progress. If a person does not know how to self-reflection, he can not see their own problems, not to mention the desire to help themselves. To be a human being, instead of keeping your head down and complaining about mistakes, you should hold your head up and correct them. Introspection is a kind of wisdom and a kind of power. Introspection can change one's chances and enable one to reach a higher level. As Confucius taught his disciples, "A gentleman seeks his own, a man seeks his own."
Not blaming others for what happened, not complaining, and looking for reasons from oneself first is the highest level of cultivation for a person.