Wen/Flying Fish
Between people, whether it is friends, or neighbors, or family, want to get along well, to establish a long and harmonious relationship, because learn some wisdom of dealing with people in the world.
For everyone, in fact, is a readable book, everyone is full of stories, if we do not read by heart, simply can not understand, people get along with each other is so, to be a little bit more attentive, can not by their own ideas of what to say is what.
Between people, know the wisdom of these two points of dealing with the world, the relationship is more harmonious for a long time.
First, between people, to know how to think differently.
Everyone living in this world, are not perfect, everyone has difficulties, there are also inadequate places.
So, when you get along with others, you have to learn to understand a little bit, a little bit of tolerance can not be a stick to beat people, and you have to know how to hit people do not hit the face, know how to leave room for people to learn to stand in other people's position on the issue of thinking in order to ease the relationship between people.
Our New Era is about people and events in a neighborhood. When Bai Jing first moved into the Chaoyang neighborhood, she couldn't get along with the people there, and there were misunderstandings as well as her own problems in dealing with the world.
When she joined the volunteers, she always took the tone of a leader with other colleagues, either ordering others to do, or directly assigning tasks to others.
In fact, volunteers don't have a hierarchical relationship, but she just doesn't know how to discuss with others and can't talk properly, which makes everyone hate her.
And when dealing with the "zombie car", she directly called the tow truck to tow the car, not to discuss with the old man Mr. Jiang, the car will be the old man's life knot, the reason why so many years do not move away, is because the son passed away, the car is the son's favorite car.
In fact, everyone has a hard time in their hearts, we are doing things, only know how to think differently, can not impose their own will on others, learn to discuss with others, so as to promote the feelings between people.
Later, Bai Jing understood this point, only with other volunteers to ease the relationship, get along with the harmony, people also rejected her.
And she also knows how to stand in the perspective of the old man will start, try to do some warm things for the old man will help him to open the knot, so that he only want to move away from the car.
How to deal with people in the world, not only to make friends, but also to know how to think differently, you sympathize with my difficulties, I understand your pain, so that we can better deal with the problem. When the problem occurs, first look for their own reasons, do not move to blame others, do not put the blame on others, first remind yourself to be quiet, stand in the perspective of others to think about it, perhaps you will find that things are not as bad as you think.
Two, between people, we should know how to put the heart into the heart.
"Our New Era" has such a scene, there is a basketball court inside the sunrise neighborhood, the young people want to play here, and the elderly do not have a place to dance, so they also want to dance here. So there is always a conflict between the young and the old.
So the community administrator divided the basketball court into one, three, five square dance, two, four, six basketball.
So wait until two or four or six, the elderly are still dancing in the basketball court, while playing basketball, that is, hijacking the basketball court not to the young people, and said that playing basketball and do not stipulate that only the young people can play, they can also play the elderly.
This sentence said who can not refute, but do people, can not be so overbearing, and occasionally have to think about others, learn to be more heartfelt. Some young people work hard for a month to have a day off, they want to come over to play a ball to relax, but there is no place to play, it is hard to take up space, but also reluctant to let the elderly to jump to the square dance.
So, as a representative of the young people Ma Yun at first also used a very extreme way to deal with, either quarrel with the elderly, with them to fight, or is to shoot a video sent to the Internet.
Only later did she realize that this kind of behavior actually hurt the self-esteem of the elderly, and then made a special video to apologize to the elderly, she admitted that she had used a radical and distorted way of looking at the elderly in the previous video, making them the object of attack and misunderstanding.
Among them, Miao Yun has a good quote: " Between people, because of the different ages, different positions, resulting in antagonism, in fact, can be resolved by comparing the heart to the heart, everyone is a member of the community, rather than an island, each young people will become old, each old people had been young, perhaps the disappearance of the antagonism, not In the fight out of right and wrong, but lies in the mutual understanding between people. "
After this video, the elderly also understood, so the basketball court in half, young people at one end to play, the elderly at one end to dance, no longer conflict.
Yes. There are actually a lot of small problems and conflicts between people, behind these problems, are hiding their own reasons, we want to dissolve away, we have to learn to put our hearts into each other, understand and accept each other, more tolerance, do not argue about right and wrong.
Pushing yourself is the warmest kindness in the world.
In this world, in fact, there is no absolute right or wrong, sometimes, just stand in a different position and the opposite is not the same.
Think of a story I read before: there are two people standing face to face, with a number in the center. One person saw "6" and the other saw "9", so the two people said what they saw, and began to argue because of the difference.
In fact, everyone is not wrong, just that they stand in a different position, and see the results are not the same.
In life, many times it is like this, only took into account their own feelings, did not take into account others, for what they think and try to argue, to the person to be unforgiving.
In fact, there are some things to fight to fight to no meaning, only to increase their own troubles.
No matter how much you think about others, learn to think differently, treat others as you would like to be treated.
Someone said: "The world is like a mirror, when you smile at him, he will smile back."
People's hearts are all mutual, you are tolerant of others, treat others well, others will also be sympathetic to your difficulties.
Perhaps others do not have the means to do 100% to make you satisfied, but do not use their own superior posture to pressure others.
Live, we must maintain a kind heart, the world to report the depth of love. Heart for heart, everything can stand in other people's point of view to sympathize with other people's difficulties, in order to draw closer to the scale between the heart and the heart, life is happy to know each other.