Who doesn't want to be a person with an outstanding temperament and an interesting soul?
What's the point of having a good-looking skin, if it's not given by God, can't be forced, while an interesting soul can be cultivated through the cultivation of the latter.
So how to be an interesting person? Let the inner soul and temperament for their own plus, and not by all the external sway.
In this regard, Zhang Dai, a famous essayist of the Ming Dynasty, gave a good answer. He pointed out distinctly in "Taoan Mengyi": people without fetishes, not to be made friends with, in order to have no deep feelings."
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The prerequisite for making friends is to see whether he has a fetish. If you don't have a preference, you're not going to be able to make friends with someone who isn't interesting. Think about it is not unreasonable, a person in life, if there is no fun and hobbies, immersed in the busy life and work all day long, the body is tired, and do not know in interesting things to empty themselves, then can think of his appearance, must be insufficient aura, decadence has more. Such a person, the people around him naturally do not want to befriend him.
Zhang Dai is a person who plays the fun of life to the extreme. When he was young, he had a lot of fun, free and easy, arrogant and frank. He likes to be lively, in the crowd, all the music, can be glimpsed at his figure.
He summarized himself very aptly: "good fresh clothes, good food, good horses, good lamps, good fireworks, good pear orchards, good drums, good antiques, good flowers and birds ......" the first half of his life sound and color, enjoy playing with things, enough to enrich his spirit, but also so that he had Enough time to feel the joy of life, in their own addiction, indulge in the wild.
Because there are a variety of hobbies to savor life, he faced the second half of his life, the destruction of the country, the personnel are not such a floating, can also be frankly face, in the old age, in the face of loneliness, but also to do not pessimism is not disillusioned.
And look at him, in his old age, the snowy night silence, a man got up, towards the vast snowy night, look at the lake, the world is only empty. The Lake Pavilion watching the snow "shadow on the lake, but a trace of the long embankment, Lake Pavilion a little, and the rest of the boat a mustard, boat people two or three grains only" this ancient masterpiece, only he can penetrate, empty of everything, things I forget, only heaven and earth, because his heart loaded with all the prosperity, and also put down all the things.
People who have a fetish for the heart, the heart is loaded with the beauty of the world's minutiae, the art of the mountains and peaks, so that he is not enough to enjoy, but also how to have time to take into account the other distractions.
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The Qing Dynasty rising tide of the fetish described aptly: flowers can not be no butterflies, mountains can not be no springs, stone can not be no moss, water can not be no algae, trees can not be no vine, people can not be no fetish.
Compared to the muddled, lifeless people, those who carve their own addiction to the heat of the people, even in the face of the waves, the rapids of life, can still be in the addiction, happy.
Look at the Song Dynasty poet Lin Bu, a life of indifference to fame and fortune, living in seclusion, love of plums and cranes, he is hard to plum as his wife, to crane as a son, seclusion came to a complete love of plums, love of cranes, and they depend on each other, obsessed with this realm of love, no matter how the world look at him, his life to follow their own souls live, but also the love of nature to the extreme.
The calligrapher Wang Xizhi love geese to the extreme, at first glance, this hobby is rare, in fact, Wang Xizhi like to put geese, but also has a relationship with calligraphy, he was in the geese's posture, walking, swimming posture, to experience the calligraphy of the mystery of the pen.
He believed that the pen when the index finger should be like a goose head as angular slightly curved, when the pen should be like a goose palm poking water, so that the spirit of the focus on the end of the pen. So, you see, everything in the world is connected, and it is only in the eyes of those who have a penchant for it that these marvels can be seen.
Wang Huizhi's love of bamboo is also crazy. Even temporarily living in a friend's house, but also want people in the yard planted full of bamboo. Others wondered, "Why go to so much trouble when you're only staying for a few days?" But Wang Ziyou said, "Why can't we live without this gentleman for one day!" Obviously, bamboo in his heart, is irreplaceable gentleman, no bamboo can not live, interesting into obsession, but also the true nature of the man.
Calligraphist Mi Fu love stone into obsession, Tao Yuanming's love of chrysanthemums, Shen Fu love flowers crazy ...... they are also always in the life of a fetish, in-depth study of hobbies, sent in the things, feel the fun outside, but also interesting to the full aura of life is full of cute because of a fetish.
Fetish thing, as a spiritual comfort, to comfort the life of the depression, fill the life of the pale, there is no excuse, and often some people to the "fetish" and "fun" interpreted as a song for the ages.
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These ancient people in the fetish will be their own soul to put free, living into a posture. This spirit of holding things as a fetish has been passed down to this day and is still not outdated.
The mention of a dancer of unparalleled beauty leaves one in heartfelt awe.
Yang Liping, born in the beautiful Yunnan, probably the favor of God, she tried her best to melt herself into a side of the landscape and nature, to do the nature of the child.
She danced, she is the spirit of the peacock, has been as beautiful as a fairy, the natural charm of all things crystal clear. She loved dancing all her life, and for this reason, she did not stain the dust, almost not eat earthly fire, and ate very little food every day, just to show the dance more perfectly.
In the face of the body fat is too low to get pregnant, she has long been relieved: "I grew up like a mother, now, I will be the mother of a flower, a bird's mother, in my eyes, flowers and plants are my children, so I will not feel the lack of, and have no regrets."
In her world, mountains and rivers stand tall, flowers and trees are luxuriant, and all things in nature have long been her children, her source of life. She raised flowers and grass, meditated and meditated, and at that time, the world's noise, all returned to silence.
For the 60-year-old Yang Liping, still elegant, romantic, age in her case, more than a shackle and bondage, her soul is free to fly. And the dance as a life career, she still has long been in her own fetish, living out of the realm. Rather, it is all about life, the meaning of being alive.
Gu Cheng said in the first line of his poem, "One can be born as an ant and be as beautiful as a god." Probably the best note for interesting souls.
When you are tired of the trivialities of the world, then look for fun in one's own addiction. Life is long, the waves do not stop, with a hobby to root hope, with fun to fill life, in order to life on top of the ruins of the brilliant flowers.
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A flower, a grass, a thing all have feelings, let the interesting soul attached to their own love of hobbies, when those external appearance, property or fame to haunt not to solve the time, in order to send love, put in the free, do not adore the beauty.
If you love tea, proficient in the art of tea, tea, tea, tea, in a touch of tea, meditation;
If you love flowers and plants, you can plant flowers and grass, flower arrangement, in a branch of a vine, leisurely self-pleasure;
If you like calligraphy, on the pen, the pen waving ink, in the twists and turns of the pen, to find the elegant and quiet, can see the depth of meaning of life.
Do a person with a fetish, do not have to think of those who live in the mountains, do not have to stain the dust, do not eat fire, but can be hidden in the city, in the city life, in their own hobbies in the fun, let the soul full, appreciate the endless flavor of the world, add some drama to life.
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