My sister got a good job two years ago, with a good income and stable leisure, at that time it was 101 points of satisfaction.
But last week she quit because it was too stable and too free.
She said, "I'm fine with being idle, so I'll use my time to read my professional books, take the certificates I wanted to take before, and learn some other skills, so it's not like I'm wasting my time. But all the colleagues are very idle, the trouble is big. They have nothing to do all day, their eyes just staring at other people, tasting, hooking, jealousy.
When you get your professional license, they go to your boss and tell you that you're a wild card and won't be around for long.
If you wear a short skirt, they say you are frivolous, and speculate on who you are trying to hook up with.
If you are serious about your work, they will say you are a whore, trying to please the leadership.
They are ganging up to form a few complex groups, you can't please everyone, but if you are close to this side, you will be criticized, if you are close to that side, you will be stabbed by this side, if you are far away from both sides, you will be blackened and isolated, and you will be excluded.
The whole of a stinky mud pond, my sister said, can live to drive people crazy.
Indeed, when a unit has a lot of idle people, it must be a complicated relationship, nothing to do, a hostile environment.
Because people's energy always have to have a place to go, if there is nothing to do, it is inevitable that will be transferred to the people, and the people with the people's fight, calculations, comparison is endless, once the beginning, it will be more and more intense.
Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, and idle people more places, the water will be extraordinarily muddy.
This unit, often look very comfortable, stay up especially uncomfortable.
Think about it, everyone around you is a matter of mom, are holding back to pick things, how can you live a relaxed and carefree?
The biggest possibility is that you want to do something, a group of people sarcastic you, you want to be good, a group of people in your way, you want to comply with the rules, cleanliness, a group of people play to the mud pit to drag you. You can only go along with them, learn a lot of useless human feelings, and finally become what you hate: a broken mouth, tripping, no guts, mixed up.
Therefore, this kind of unit from the root of the rotten, it is best not to go, go also do not stay long.
Rather, it's the units that look like they're working hard that are more worth your while.
I've been to Taobao headquarters once, and at eight o'clock in the evening, the lights were on, and everyone was busy with their own business. At dinner, the focus of the exchange of all the company's business, the industry situation, will be specific to the launch of a press release wording, the meeting site of the mineral water placed such a small matter, but basically will not chat about the work of gossip. They are more concerned about the progress and quality of their respective tasks, rather than who gets how much money. They care more about whose ideas are more brilliant and interesting than who is wearing a halter top. They are more interested in discussing the current situation and changes in the whole industry, rather than the delicate relationship between anyone and their bosses.
A company where everyone has a job to do, focusing on specific jobs, and the job is still too busy, which has the mind to fly short and long. And when we all take the strength of the work to speak, interpersonal relationships have become secondary, so you do not have to be in the meaningless things on the labor exhaustion, you can put all the energy to do things, so that the work has become simple and efficient.
This environment not only promotes the company to become a good company, but also promotes you to become a better version of yourself, busy and tired, are worth it.
This is true not only for work, but also for life.
I remember Jack Ma once said: an old boss complained to him, said his lover all day behind him, wary of his philandering, complaining that he went home late, all kinds of uneasy about him. Ma Yun said, your wife must be too idle, you find something for her to do, let her fill the time, by then she came home later than you, not lazy to care about you.
This is really the wisdom of the richest man.
If you were someone else, you might say, "She thinks you're coming home late, so you're coming home early. The first thing you need to do is to get back to the office and get out of the office. That also have to go back ah, men do not put their minds on the cause, the family is just as important, if the rear is not stable, you can not do a good job well ......
And in fact, if the wife is really very idle, her husband even if every day on time to go home, I am afraid that the contradiction will not be less, she will be picking on you do not do housework, do not accompany the children, do not chat with her, do not pay attention to her new hair, and so on, and so on. She'll pick on you for not doing the housework, not staying with the kids, not talking to her, not paying attention to her new hairstyle ......
The so-called "idle" is a lot of things. Her energy has no place to go, so she naturally wants to put it on you, and as long as you have shortcomings, she will not let you go.
The best way to solve this problem is to keep her too busy to care about you. Although simple and rough, but really very effective.
People are too idle, they will be thinking nonsense, think more on the panic, so we will say? "Idle?" . And people panic, surely will be pretentious sensitive fart more, their own difficult, people around them also follow the suffering.
If your family, relatives, friends in the ? "?" ? "Idle?" of people, you must just know how annoying it is.
If your mom is idle, she's probably nagging you all day long about how you're still not in a relationship, not married, not having kids, not having a second child, and then complaining about how you play with your phone, sleep late, eat too little (or too much), and even what you wear *** she's going to interfere.
If your relatives are idle, they will naturally come together to gossip about your income, your relationship status, your mannerisms, and spread the word around about your fights with your boyfriend (girlfriend), and the things you do wrong without meaning to say wrong will be enlarged by a hundred times to deconstruct.
If your friend is very idle, you may be anytime, anywhere to send you a gossip and dinner invitations, people think it is a normal communication between friends, you may be a burden or disturbance. At the same time, the focus of your life will not be the same, TA focus may be which island's beach is more beautiful, and you are more interested in knowing how to write a plan to impress customers. When you're with TA, you mostly spend empty time. While TA's time is used to pass, yours is squeezed out.
So, regardless of work or life, if possible, or from too idle people far away, especially in the case that you have been busy as a dog.
On the one hand, they need too much, so you have to spend a lot of energy to meet, and you can not afford to accompany.
On the other hand, they have too much to do, they will complicate simple things, with them to maintain a good relationship is particularly difficult, you have to distract a lot of mind to think about dealing with completely meaningless things, the heart is too tired.
And if the other side is your parents or loved ones, there is no way to draw a line, then try to help them find the right thing to do, so they are busy, even if it is to go to see the health of the Church, dance or go swimming fitness, read a book, but also better than the idle to be born right and wrong. Like this post? Share it if you like it! It's a good idea to share it with more people!
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