But grandparents think that in this case, children and adults will suffer, parents are tired enough to go to work, and they have to take care of their children. However, when the child is sent to kindergarten early in the morning, he can't eat well, sleep well and play well, and he has to wait for a long time before his parents can pick him up from work, which makes him very sad.
Grandparents said that he is still young, and he can go to kindergarten next year, or in his hometown, so that we can earn money to support our family.
I think grandparents are also very reasonable. It is true that my husband and I will be more tired when we go back to kindergarten. Moreover, many experts say that children can't learn well in the morning.
However, I still want to take him back to kindergarten. I really miss him. I don't want him to be a left-behind child in my hometown.
My husband and I are not rich. I can't give up my job and be a full-time mother. My grandfather is in poor health and needs to be taken care of. My grandmother can't take care of the children. I can only think of this way.
I told her that nothing is more important for children than seeing their parents every day. As long as the children are independent and happy enough, those so-called expert opinions can be ignored.
She was obviously happy and gave me a reply: I was suddenly enlightened. I'll book a plane ticket right away and pick up the children tomorrow. Thank you!
For example, the mother's dilemma, she is afraid that her children will go to school one year earlier and bear the pain beyond her ability, but she doesn't want to miss the time to accompany her children. She is sleepless and miserable, but how can she kill two birds with one stone?
But if you take a step forward, the child can end the gloomy time of staying behind, then this step can be completed without hesitation.
Facing the emotional needs and mental health of children, facing the love and companionship between parents and children, the choice of whether children should go to kindergarten before the age of three has long been irrelevant.
But in fact, some difficult choices have nothing to do with the pros and cons of right and wrong, especially after being a parent.
I once met a beautiful young mother on the plane. She talked to me about her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. These eternal problems can be ignored in her mouth.
She said that her daughter's grandfather died and her grandmother was still alive. Grandma may have devoted all her feelings to her granddaughter because her wife is gone. She loves her granddaughter very much, so much so that she is afraid of melting it in her mouth, spitting it out and flying away.
Therefore, this beautiful mother's daughter, when she is almost three years old, still can't eat alone, can't go to the toilet alone, and her speech is not good, and her development is very slow in all aspects.
Mother was anxious and panicked, and quarreled with her husband in the room countless times, but she still couldn't change her grandmother's spoil habit.
Later, my mother decided to send her daughter to kindergarten. Although she is still under 3 years old, she feels that only by sending her daughter to kindergarten will the child not be completely spoiled.
So, she took a long vacation, took her daughter back to her parents' home, spent half a month training her daughter's basic living ability, and finally went to kindergarten in September. When I entered the park, my daughter just turned two years old, 10 months.
The daughter who went to kindergarten did not have such problems as "lack of security, fear of socializing and psychological development" as experts said.
Her daughter quarreled for two or three weeks when she first got used to it. A month later, she was very happy and lively. She has also made many children, and she is no longer so dependent on her grandmother.
Grandma also has her own life and entertainment, dancing square dance, playing mahjong and studying all kinds of food. ...
Sometimes when she gets off work early, she goes to school with her grandmother to pick up her daughter. ...
The family is harmonious, the children are healthy and happy, what a wonderful family.
The mother recalled: "The first time I sent my child to kindergarten, she cried her eyes out. I looked at her little face full of tears. She is still so small, so fragile, so naive ... "
When she said these words, her expression was both helpless and ashamed.
How much hardship and effort will it take to achieve today's happiness?
Children under the age of three attend kindergarten for the following reasons:
1. There is no wealth at home, but the children have no old people. Let the children go to kindergarten early.
I don't want my children to be separated from their parents. I wanted to get my children back from my hometown as soon as possible, and I didn't want to give up my job, so I sent my children to kindergarten early.
The old people spoil their children too much, so they should go to kindergarten early to avoid the old people from overindulging.
Mom wants to re-enter the workplace and doesn't want to be eliminated by society, so let her children go to kindergarten early.
5. Don't want children to lose at the starting line, let them learn knowledge and skills as soon as possible.
Except for the fifth reason, the first four are full of helplessness and sadness.
Once, a working mother cried on the internet: because of the pressure of life, she sent her children under three years old to kindergarten. The child cried and needed more time to comfort him, so he was often late and was finally expelled from the company. On the day I was fired by the company, I stood in a corner of the subway car with a box in my arms, crying my eyes out. ...
No parents just want to relax and send their babies under three years old to kindergarten.
They all struggled repeatedly in the balance between reality and children, but finally gave in to reality and sent their children to kindergarten with tears in their eyes.
They are all burdened with worries, guilt and self-blame, and have chosen a brand-new road full of unknowns and thorns for their children and themselves.
They just want to be patient and tired day after day, and strive to make life and parenting comprehensive until the children grow up slowly.
Behind their choice is a long story of necessity and sadness.
Parents who can stand at the school gate with a smile and wait for their children to leave school when their life is most stressful and exhausting deserve respect, regardless of whether their children are under three years old or not.