Have you guys ever thought about what age you're going to get married at?25?26?
If you want to get married at the age of 25, ideally you should find a boyfriend at the age of 22, have a relationship for a year at the age of 23, prepare for marriage at the age of 24, and get married at the age of 25.
But the reality is: 22-year-old college graduate, graduation season breakup season, the end of the college romance, with a year to come out, 23-year-old regained the confidence to find a boyfriend, but find to look for all do not meet the eye, 24-year-old reluctantly talked about a, but because of the three views do not match, personality and break up. 25-year-old helplessly across the age of their own expected to get married.
This is me, a 27-year-old single quality older female youth. My name is Xiao Xiao, a small engineer in a construction company.
When my boyfriend disappeared from my life at the age of 24, my mom began to call on her seven aunts and eight uncles to find all kinds of men for me, and my matchmaking experience began.
As far as I can remember, the first blind date was an IT guy, 30 years old, 172cm tall, with a pair of thick-lens glasses on the bridge of his nose, which didn't seem high enough to feel like they were going to fall off at any time. Underneath the glasses is a pair of red bloodshot eyes, wearing a Baleno wide T shit.
I used an hour to dress up, just to meet this guy? I threw my mom an incredulous look.
My mom said that this boy is very well endowed and his appearance can be changed.
Over the course of the meal, my mom and his mom bragged about their kids to each other, while we only talked a few words besides meeting and greeting each other.
"I heard, you're an engineer, so you know C voice?"
"Know a little."
"Well, that's good."
Then we ate in peace. And then, we didn't then.
The other impressive thing about the dating experience was the 33-year-old sales manager. When he walked into the restaurant, he was wearing a suit, and under his short hair was a pair of shining eyes. At that time, I said to myself, Xiaoxiao, what kind of luck have you got!
But handsome is not good for three seconds. When he sat down and talked endlessly about his family's products, the meal was doomed to be tasteless. It's a shame about my food.
At the checkout, he mumbled, "Why did you eat so much?" What ! That is, I ate a lot?
Later, he answered the phone and said, "I'm not going to that bar tonight, the girls there are average." What ! What!
Of course, he and I did not then.
2
Based on my dating experience, I summarized the three major rules of dating:
1, don't have illusions about anyone
2, eat more and talk less
3, keep smiling
Using this rule, I successfully escaped from the clutches of dating. My mom gradually felt that I was a salted fish, let me go on my own, she returned to the embrace of the square dance. During that time, I let myself go and lived quite comfortably.
Until one day, was pulled by a friend to a blind date, no, correctly speaking, is to accompany her to a blind date.
Girls, there is a strange fetish, everything want to have a companion. The first thing you need to do is to find a companion to go to the restroom, a companion to eat, a companion to go shopping, and even a companion to go on a blind date.
My friend MAY, 25 years old, is on her first blind date. The reason for this is that I have a lot of experience in dating. The first time I saw her, I was asked to wear something ugly to set off her beauty.
That night, I wore a pink tutu. Don't ask me where I got the dress. Who hasn't bought a few dresses that didn't match their temperament when they were young and ignorant? When MAY saw me, he gave me an appreciative look.
When my date walked into the restaurant with her "little henchman", I thought, "Where the hell did MAY find this guy? The first time I saw this, I was so impressed with the way he looked at me and the way he looked at me. The first time I saw this, I was so impressed with the way my mom was looking for me at the market.
However, I stick to my first rule of dating: "Don't have any illusions about anyone". The first thing I noticed was that we had a good conversation, and MAY's date was very active, and the atmosphere at the table was very well controlled. The "little follower" is the listening type, who listens attentively and then expresses his opinion.
I, on the other hand, adhere to the second point of the law: "eat more, talk less". At the end of the meal, we left each other WeChat, and also agreed to come out to play together next time.
3
Soon, MAY and the object became. This, I am not surprised, looking at that night MAY are fast turning peach heart eyes, I know, she can not escape.
My friends always want to set me up with "Little Follower". I admit that I have a good feeling about the "little followers", but I prefer to live a free and easy life! But people in love are nosy. I can't escape the weekly foursome. The first time I saw this, I was able to get a good look at it, and I was able to get a good look at it, and I was able to get a good look at it.
One time, I was supposed to go to the movies with 4 people, but I bought a ticket, and MAY let them go. In the spirit of "shameful waste", I went to see a movie with the "little followers". It was a romantic movie, and there were couples all around, except us. I looked at my friend and he was watching the movie very carefully.
There is a dating process: movie, dinner, walk, home. We followed the flow. On the walk, we talked about first impressions. "The first impression is that the girl who first saw me on a blind date wore a set of pink tutu, and ate like she was hungry for days, and then looked at us and smiled after she was full.
It turned out that I that day, is this.
The "little follower" said: "That day, I noticed you. However, I took a project, busy horizontal and vertical, thought of the object and MAY have become, I and you become friends is also sooner or later."
Heavy heart, I thought.
The "little follower" said, "Why don't we try that too."
"But I'm not your ideal type."
" In relationships, there is no standard or ideal type. "
"I'll think about it."
4
In those days, I ignored the message from "Little Follower". I was avoiding it, I guess. This year, I'm 27 years old. I've been looking for someone who really understands me and tolerates me. In the past, I once thought I had found it, but it turned out not.
Later, it turned out that love is a consuming thing. It consumes energy and feelings. And now, I just want to find a get along comfortably, talk to the person, talk about a relationship will not break up. And not just someone who says "let's try it".
So, this time, I don't dare to try. So, I rejected the "little follower".
The "little follower" said:
"It's your business if you reject, it's my business if I pursue."
I thought that I could act as if nothing had happened. But on a couple of occasions when I really needed help, he showed up. At that point, I said to myself, "Hang in there, don't die in battle.
One day, I received a wedding invitation from a friend.
At 28, she was finally getting married.
Asked her why she decided to get married.
She said: "He came along when I was planning something for the future. At first, I thought he was okay, and after spending time with him, I realized that I could depend on him and I could accept his shortcomings. I'm not even afraid of being alone for the rest of my life, so why don't I have the courage to give it a try?"
I said, "What if it doesn't turn out well?"
She said, "In that case, I'm just going back to the original state, but I gained good memories . Dawn, if you meet someone you think is okay, then give yourself a chance."
For the rest of the day, my head was still filled with my friend's words.
Finally, I picked up my cell phone and made a dinner date with my friend.
I thought, "Let's give ourselves a chance.
I think I'll give myself a chance.