Someone said:
Happy time is always short, short enough to embrace the good, we have been old.
Always accustomed to, tired, their own shoulders; bitter, their own throat.
In the end, we won the years, but lost themselves.
Half a lifetime, I've seen the tides rise and fall, I've been through the storms, I'm used to the joys and sorrows of life, and I've had a busy, fulfilling life.
But looking back at the past, I realized that in the road to go all out, owe themselves too much.
Always worry about the people who come and go in life, but only forgot that they are the protagonists of life.
Life is not easy, instead of pleasing others, it is better to please yourself.
It is not possible to start over, so please love yourself.
I once heard a saying that in the family, forgetting to sacrifice is a disaster.
Thought so.
Remember Liu Mintao?
In 2015, she became an overnight sensation for her role in the TV series The Pretender.
In the movie, Liu Mintao played the "big sister" Mingjing's dominance, and every time she appeared, she made people clap their hands.
Who would have thought that this "big woman" in front of the screen, once put her life entirely on her husband?
In 2006, 30-year-old Liu Mintao, fell in love with a man.
At the peak of her career, she chose to sacrifice the career she loved, get married, have children, and put almost all her time into her family.
In an interview, Liu Mintao once said this view of marriage:
In her concept, sacrificing oneself for the family is a matter of course.
However, the marriage that she forgot to pay for was not able to beat the seven-year itch.
The star of the show, living as a "fuzzy-faced helpmate".
Eventually, the divorce ended.
Her sacrifice may be praised by outsiders as a good wife and mother.
However, the bitterness and heartache, only they know:
Give up the self-sacrifice and pay, in exchange for respect and happiness.
Bi said:
A person who does not love himself, who can expect to love you?
This is as true for your lover as it is for your children.
After Dongqing gave birth to her son, there was a period of confusion about being a first-time mom.
She once confessed in a program:
For the question of whether to put down her career and focus on raising a child, she was anxious for a long time.
Later, she figured it out:
She decided to stick to what she likes, work, the child temporarily entrusted to parents, continue to pursue their own careers, and ultimately, incubated a variety show that influenced countless people, "The Reader".
In this world, there are no parents who don't love their children, but the best love is never exchanged by sacrificing oneself.
Instead of giving up your self to give selflessly, you should run yourself well and live as the strength of your children.
This is true in family life, whether it's with your children, your loved ones, or your parents.
As papi sauce says, the order of one's life is self, partner, children, parents.
Only when you learn to love yourself first can you have the courage to seek happiness.
In family life, those seemingly great self-sacrifice, will only end up exhausting themselves.
And those who live a happy life have a **** the same point:
They know where the center of gravity of life.
A person, only first run their own, you pay will be valued.
Someone on the Internet once asked: Can you be a real friend to someone who can give you a knife, and then you can be a real friend to someone who can give you a knife, and then you can be a real friend to someone who can give you a knife.
There is a highly praised answer that is particularly sharp:
Between people, help is a favor, do not help is this point.
The bottomless payment, not only can't help others, but also will harm themselves.
Recently, the hit drama "Anja", there is such a scene.
One rainy night, because she couldn't get a cab, single mom Ning Xin hugged her daughter and took shelter in an ATM machine.
Coincidentally, it was seen by the passing Fang Xijin, who kindly helped the mother and daughter.
In this way, Ning Xin and Fang Xi Jin became friends.
From then on, Fang Xi Jin became Ning Xin's nanny.
No matter what Ning Xin needs, one call, on call.
The first time I saw her was when she was a child, and she had to go to the hospital to see her.
She also cited her own not easy, forcing Fang Xi Jin to help her sell her old house at a good price.
Fang Xi Jin treats her friend as she wants to be treated.
In order to help Ning Xin sell her house, she even advances money herself.
But never expected that in the house is about to sell, Ning Xin suddenly jumped single.
Fang Xianjin lost 50,000 dollars at once and planted a big head.
Zhou Guoping said:
In this world, there is no one who owes anyone, and there is no one who has to help anyone, but only those who don't know how to cherish anyone.
Relationships between people, if you rely on your sacrifice to pay to maintain.
The result is, not only can't cover the other person's heart, but also make yourself scarred.
A relationship, first do yourself, but will go farther.
In the movie "Mindhunter", there is a line that touches people.
The hero, Will, is a gifted young man, but he spends his days working on construction sites with his friend Chuck.
One day, Chuck says to him,
Perhaps that's the best thing that can happen between people.
Don't give without a bottom, don't need to sacrifice unnecessarily, self first, then us.
So get along with people, don't suppress yourself and sacrifice yourself.
Otherwise, that ego you sacrifice will only be like a mask, winning yourself a lot of sympathy, support, but only not happiness.
Many people spend their lives living in the eyes of others.
But forget that a lifetime is not long, and you should live a wonderful and beautiful life.
A person, only to live out their own, can live out the meaning of life.
People, living in this world, the most important thing is still: to be yourself.
Sanmao had an experience of studying abroad.
Before going abroad, her family urged her to be a humble person, and to be blessed with her own losses outside.
She adhered to her parents' advice, and was humble, tolerant and selfless with her classmates.
I didn't realize that she had become a weakling in the eyes of her roommates, and was often called upon to do so.
Not only did they ask her to take over the cleaning of the dormitory, but they also asked her to turn on the lights for their own convenience.
Later, she began to become "egotistical" and refused all unreasonable requests to defend her interests.
Since then, she has lived her life and earned the respect of foreigners.
Don't chase a horse, you use the time you spend chasing a horse to plant grass, and when the spring flowers bloom, you can attract a group of steeds for you to choose.
When you stop catering to others, you will realize that you will not only gain a true self, but also a beautiful world.
In the bestselling book Live Again, Embrace Life Tenderly, Indian author Anita Mujani recounts a fantastical experience of her own.
In 2002, Anita was diagnosed with lymphoma.
She then quit her job to focus on her treatment.
However, her condition continued to deteriorate.
In 2006, Anita fell into a coma due to organ failure, and doctors declared her incurable.
Miraculously, while she was dying, Anita felt like she had gone to the other side of the world, and when she came back to earth, the cancer that had been afflicting her for four years was miraculously cured.
Back from the dead, she began to reflect on her life. She concludes, "Love yourself, it's very important!"
In the past, she always thought that she had to love others more than herself, so she kept giving.
At the same time, she was bent on pleasing others until she was exhausted.
She said:
A lot of people's lives, that's how it is.
A life lived for others.
They take it for granted and wind up their lives, doing everything themselves and taking care of others.
Be tolerant of others and hard on yourself.
But people don't live to please the world, they live to please themselves.
Life is only 30,000 days, and you can't start all over again, so why not live it to the fullest?
The people who like to please others are many, and the people who like to please themselves are the kings.
Instead of flattering the world, why not please yourself?
The rest of your life isn't long, so treat yourself well on the way to getting older.
On his 70th birthday, Chaplin wrote a poem to himself, "When I began to love myself":
How can someone who doesn't love himself love others?
The rest of your life is not long, do not condemn yourself, in order to be complete;
Do not belittle yourself, in order to reap the benefits of happiness;
Learn to love yourself first, in order to better love others.
When you are good enough for yourself, you can meet with the beauty of this world, and deserve to love and be loved.
Remember that there is only one you in this world.
When you start to love yourself, the world will start to love you.