Introduction: a lifetime is very short, with people you love and love you, with people you hang on to and hang on to you, don't wait until it's too late to remember.
Fifty years old, what kind of life should have?
Not to the age of retirement, busy in the daytime work routine, return home from work, home lights, meals fragrant, and face piled up with a smile on the loved ones. After the meal, hand in hand with your lover, roadside walk, dance a square dance.
Holidays, children return home, the family is happy. The family is happy to visit the food market, make soup, make fun, have a stern look, but also have a doting gaze. There is the nagging of the lover, but also the laughter of the child. There is the helplessness of life and the colorfulness of days.
Some people, fifty years old, should have been robust, both with the children to talk and laugh, but also with the love of the jokes and mutual damage, not necessarily will be able to get down to the kitchen to do a handful of good food, but certainly can bear the responsibility of the family and the burden.
But some people, at the age of fifty, die young.
On the morning of October 29, Harvin said on Weibo, "In the United States, after 17 months of cancer treatment, October 25, 2018 at 5:20 am, forever lost my love ......"
This moment, how many people Like me, almost can't believe the content of Harvin's tweet. How is it possible? Mr. Li Yong is only 50 years old!
1, life can go on no matter what, but life is out of one's control.
There is a very hot quote, "Life is easy, living is easy, life is not easy."
But the truth is, whether you work hard or do nothing, life is not easy, but it will go on, just that everyone lives in a different way. However, human life is extraordinarily fragile, there will be diseases, there will be sudden accidents, and no one knows their tomorrow.
There was a time when I was sick and I asked my husband, "What if one day I suddenly leave you?"
The question was pretentious, but the moment I asked it, I couldn't contain my tears.
I am sad that I can't accompany my loved ones to grow old and go to their old age; I am sad that if I am not there, what should my loved ones do; I am sad that I have to face the helplessness and pain of parting with my favorite people.
How many couples in the world who love each other think they can grow old hand in hand and walk together for the rest of their lives? But how many couples in the world, so in love, so hard to live, but still can not beat fate.
In the early morning of October 25th, when the morning sun was coming, Mr. Li Wing could no longer see the first ray of sunshine that morning. And we can't imagine how dark and sorrowful Harvin's world was at that moment.
The sun will rise as usual, the sun will still shine, and people will walk across the street corners and intersections in a hurry, as they did yesterday and the day before, to run, to live, to love those around them, and to worry about yesterday's unfinished business. We will mourn Mr. Li Yong, we will miss the joy that Mr. Li Yong brought to our growth in the past, and we will weep at the moment when nostalgia and mourning come together at the same time.
But we will eventually forget this day.
But Harvin's world, on this day, changed forever.
2. Love well when you're alive, and at least don't have too many regrets when you leave.
Society is restless, and many people are restless. How many young men and women after entering into marriage, before the seven-year itch, they went their separate ways; and how many couples, after more than ten years of marriage, can still maintain a deep love for each other's heart?
Have seen such a paragraph, "better marriage to love into affection, bad marriage and feelings by trivialities wear out, and will even turn the marriage into a tomb, so that many couples end up in the end of the song."
The relationship between Mr. Li Yong and Ms. Ha Wen, however, has become a unique landscape in the showbiz industry, which is more fickle than society.
As a famous CCTV host, Mr. Li Yong is also a good husband who is romantic, considerate and y in love with his wife.
Hawen was once Mr. Li Yong's college classmate and first love, and later a CCTV colleague. From the campus to the workplace, from youth to youth, from love at first sight to never leave, from life's most confused to life's most certain. He loved, never only Harvin.
Love to the extreme, overflowing.
Mr. Li Wing, in addition to doting on and cherishing Ha Wen in his daily life, is often in the media to openly express his love and gratitude to his wife. In addition, he is more love into the self-explanatory articles, with words to commemorate love and marriage in all the heart and ties.
The love at first sight when he was nineteen years old, he drew pictures with a pen every day in class for the girl he was in love with; after he got married, even though he was already an old married couple, he would still be anxious and depressed because of the separation at work.
Most touching to me, nothing more than the two married for many years, Mr. Li Yong heart but there is always a regret, because the conditions of marriage is limited, he and Harvin only received a marriage certificate, and even the wedding photos have not been taken. Later, he said to Ha Wen: "The first time I married me when we have nothing, really aggrieved you, now I want you to marry me again." So Mr. Li Yong took his wife to take wedding photos and buy a ring.
On our side, most men are extremely important to face, and will even regard face as more important than feelings, so in the conflict with his wife, because of the face, never whisper to his wife to admit their faults, even if they know their own faults, they will not admit.
While Mr. Li Yong has talked about his love for Ha Wen in the program, more than two decades of conflict does not overnight, but also said: "men to the beloved woman to admit fault is a virtue."
Because "I love you", so willing to have you with the greatest effort.
Because "I love you", all the efforts and treasures are to accompany you without regret.
3, people long sleep, and then more regrets can only be regret.
Harvin "lost my love forever" microblogging, touching the hearts of countless lovers and couples, many people are lamenting: Mr. Li Wing gone, Harvin how to do?
Life goes on, and Harvin will accompany her daughter after enduring great pain, and live again in a world without Mr. Li Yong.
Well, from the nineteen-year-old love at first sight, to get married. 1992 marriage, and then to the last moment of life, Mr. Li Wing all the love poured into Ha Wen, pouring heart and soul together, with their best efforts to guard the love of the people, is in order to one day leave, no regrets.
I have written in the article "If there is no afterlife, will you regret that you did not love each other properly in this life? article about a story about my great uncle's life with a young aunt.
It was mentioned in the story that my uncle was diagnosed with stomach cancer not long after he and his aunt got together.
Many people would have stayed away from him if they had no name and no prospects. But Auntie was at her uncle's bedside day after day, and not only did she get nothing after his death, but she even paid part of her own money out to subsidize him while he was hospitalized.
When the eldest uncle was still alive, the days that he spent the most time with that auntie were probably the companionship in the hospital. With a group of us latecomers not being able to keep watch day in and day out, the auntie peeled apples, brought water, fed, read newspapers and chatted day in and day out.
I will always remember that when I went to visit my eldest uncle, I heard him say to her, "You're still young, find someone to marry," as soon as I walked outside the hospital room.
Auntie said, "I'm happy to stay with you like this."
The uncle said, "I'm the one who held you back."
Auntie blew her nose and it was the same three words, "I'm happy to."
The uncle left quickly, but not suddenly. The stomach disease had been tormenting him for nearly two years, and during those two years, it was his aunt who had been with him from the beginning to the end. Never left, never gave up.
Many years after my uncle's death, my father had also brought gifts to visit my aunt, probably because he was grateful for the many years of unrelenting love and care for my uncle, but for so many years, my aunt had always been alone.
It would be a lie to say that there are no regrets.
If Uncle was still around, he would have taken care of Auntie, would he not? He would have taken Auntie to see the mountains and rivers, taken Auntie to eat street food, and taken Auntie to the most beautiful hills to see the sunrise and sunset.
But once a person is gone, any more regrets can only come with the cessation of life and can only ever be regretted.
People sleep for a long time, and more regrets can not make up for it.
4, life comes and goes, the coming day really is not long.
The biggest mistake in life is to think that you have a lot of time. Always think that the years are long, there is plenty of time to squander waiting. Always think that tomorrow a lot, a lot of things do not have to rush, a lot of people do not need to meet immediately.
But in fact, life comes and goes, there really is not so much to come. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that, but I'm going to be able to do it," he said.
Mo Yan once told this story: many years ago I talked to a classmate. His wife had just passed away, and he told me that when he was sorting out his wife's things, he found a silk scarf that he had bought in a brand-name store when they traveled to New York.
It was an elegant, beautiful designer scarf, with the exorbitant price roll tag still hanging on it, and his wife had never been able to use it, she wanted to wait for a special day.
Speaking here, he stopped, and I didn't answer, and after a while he said, "Never again save something good for a special day, every day you live is a special day."
So take life well, and love the loved ones around you.
What are the misunderstandings, talk about it; what are the ideas, communication is good; what is wrong, change is good; what are the problems, together to solve it. Don't wait until it's too late to realize that everything is already too late.
Don't think that with three meals a day and a regular routine, life can be in our hands. I can only say that after excluding all accidents, eating well, sleeping well, exercising and focusing on health is the most harmonious way to **** with life.
As for when the accident will come, only leave it to fate.
Everyone's life is limited, in the limited time, love the most favorite people, do the best self.
Just like Mr. Li Yong said before his death, "A lifetime is very short, with the people you love and the people who love you, with the people you hang on to and the people who hang on to you, don't wait until it's too late to remember."