Chinese eyes, the elderly should be sensible, right and wrong, moral integrity
In the memories of many Chinese people, talking about the elderly generally represent the rules of conduct, treating people politely, and take character very seriously. Elderly people do not spit, do not litter, do not raise their voices, they justifiably stop children throwing stones, smashing glass, hit the street lamps, more forbidden to fight and scolding; they sit with sitting phase, stand with standing phase, eat with eating phase, drink with drinking phase, and therefore also to set an example by saying that eating should not be lying on the side of the crooked, eating can not be out of voice, clip the food more do not such as a chicken head to peck the rice, stand up when the chest is lifted up, sit down when the body board is upright.
In the countryside is also the case, many by the traditional social environment of the old man, regardless of the "composition" how, regardless of literacy, reading, culture, from the eyes of a stream of admiration. "A goose leaves its voice, a man leaves his name", "Make things easy for others, make things easy for yourself", "No good deed goes unpunished, no evil deed goes unpunished", "Good words keep you warm in three winters, bad words keep you cold in six months", all of these are true. The first is that the first time a person is in the countryside, the second is that the first time a person is in the countryside.
But now, more and more elderly people are unreasonable
However, in the last two or three years, the situation is very different. Spitting, quarrelling, cursing, bare shoulders, do not line up, loud noise, climbing flowers and trees, do not walk on the crosswalk, the number of elders is increasing; will save a person falsely hit a person, but also a handful of years old; in the city at the entrance to the district, always see someone white hair, but hands grab the trunk of the tree to sway back and forth, claiming to exercise. In the bus met often will be a scene, a row of four seats, there is an old couple accounted for 2 ?, asked them to move a little, not expected to be scolded by the old lady for 15 minutes.
Many Chinese people traveling in the United States and Europe, many times to see fellow children in the constant reminder of grandparents, crossing the street to walk in the crosswalk ah, do not speak so loud ah, eat buffet do not waste ah! These, in turn, should have been reminded to make sense.
So many people blame social development for the elderly becoming "bad"
So many people are nostalgic for the past, for how educated and reasonable the elderly used to be, and for how "calm and quiet" society used to be. "It is not as "naked" as it is now. And the reason why the elderly are unreasonable and "bad" is also blamed on the development of society, that it is because society has become more and more open, complex and even impetuous, which has caused the old people who used to be so pure and simple to become so unreasonable now.
But China's traditional moral education is not bad, and the plight of the present can't be blamed on the ancestors; nor can it be blamed on the introduction of Western culture, nor can it be said that the reform and opening up has made everyone learn from the past. With more and more people going abroad, we all know that the moral standard of western society is not low. But what is it about the elderly that makes them "bad"?
Where do these flaws in the elderly come from?
The elderly become "bad", depends largely on their lives and experiences during their formative years and the education they have received, and it is obviously unfair to put the blame on the social openness of their adulthood.
Many of the elderly grew up with several political movements that brought out the worst in them.
Growing up: material and spiritual, filled with only "scarcity"
It is well known that most of the "new seniors" who have appeared in recent years were born before and after 1949, and one of the distinctive features of their growing up period is "scarcity". In their formative years, a distinctive feature is "scarcity". When they were growing up, they encountered the "Three Years' Difficulties", and the shortage of food and the feeling of hunger largely affected the formation of their material concepts. Even in times of abundance, the memory of the "panic of scarcity" will make them try to take more and more material resources, and for the sake of material things, even to fight or even desperate.
The opposite of material things is spiritual things, but the lack of material does not mean that the spiritual level of abundance, on the contrary, the spiritual level of "scarcity" is even more. In the context of long-term material scarcity, the only purpose of human activity is almost exclusively to survive, and in order to achieve this purpose, and along with the successive political movements, the traditional moral concepts of Chinese society have been broken, and new moral concepts do not exist, so that in order to survive they can do anything. It's as if a literary author once described life during the hard times. "Whoever doesn't celebrate occasions won't survive".
Basic education: wolf's milk feeds jungle-style values
In an environment of both material and spiritual deprivation, people in this period also did not receive good family, school and social education. They were drinking wolf's milk to complete their enlightenment and basic education, and what they got was a jungle value of competing to see whose fist is bigger. And most importantly, there are no taboos nor boundaries. Think about it, where is the bottom line of morality? Respect for the elderly, respect for teachers, filial piety, these are the bottom line. Unfortunately, the elderly grew up in an era when evil had no bottom line.
Another serious consequence of the wolf's milk education is the defect of reason and knowledge. The old people are not accustomed to the situation of multiple voices, do not know how to debate rationally, they are used to one person's one-word speech. Appealing to reason and tolerating dissent, such rational and moral qualities happen to be what cave indoctrination cannot create. Intellectually, the old people were almost blank in the recitation of Chinese and Western classics during their formative years, without any inculcation of poetry, books, etiquette and music, which led to their boorish ignorance.
These are the bad consequences of what was planted in the first place, and now it's time to "harvest" the season. So, they do not feel that square dancing may cause trouble to others, do not feel that giving up a seat is a kind of care and not deserved, and can even reverse the right and wrong, falsely accused of others, growing up in the absence of basic public **** education, so that they believe that everything is deserved, and even can be unscrupulous self-interest. Of course, in addition to education, but also closely related to another their personal experience.
Political campaigns: stirring up the most evil part of human nature
Unfortunately, the old people grew up in a time when evil had no bottom line. Successive political struggles have galvanized the most evil elements of human nature. A person, if even their parents and teachers can be criticized, even with the bed **** pillow of the husband and wife can expose each other, there is what can be trusted? What other bad things can't be done?
No matter what else they have experienced since then, what they have experienced in the value formation period has been enough to affect many of them. People, who grow up watching the backs of their fathers. The education of character, to a large extent, relies on the family and surrounding elders to teach by word and example, relying on the ear to learn. It is precisely this generation, there are many blanks during the growth period, there are many blind spots, the most should receive moral nurturing, sentiment guide, draw civilization, either havoc, is the opposite, as a result, wait until when the parents or grandparents, to lead by example, there is no way to talk about it, and for the old man is not respectable, it has become a scene.
The old "bad guys" are breaking through the bottom line
It goes without saying that in every era there are old people who do not respect the elderly, but this era is particularly bad. That's not to say that these elders are worse, but rather that the stigma of their upbringing prevents them from escaping some of their limitations. Though they have since gone through a painful awakening of disillusionment and renewed knowledge, the traces of having grown up drinking wolf's milk are y rooted, a heavy stigma that is not something they can remove.
So we should be able to see that it is not really the change in social diversity and atmosphere that makes the original simple, kind-hearted old people turn bad, but precisely the generation with serious flaws in their growth stage that steps into the ranks of the elderly. Coupled with the increasingly developed media, the "old man gone bad" appears more and more frequently in front of the public.
The behavior of the elderly is not entirely without consequences for the future of society. As mentioned earlier, these old people are mostly jungle-like values and lack of basic public **** awareness and debate rules and knowledge, which leads to the bottom line of society will be downwardly flattened in dispute resolution. For example, middle school students in Tangshan protested against the harassment of normal teaching order by square dancing by standing quietly, in exchange for the verbal humiliation of the elderly; and a few months ago, a man in Changping, Beijing, drove away square dancing by firing guns and releasing Tibetan mastiffs, which had a significant effect, and of course, the man was punished by the law. If the way to solve problems is not to debate and negotiate, but to fight violence with violence, then it is undoubtedly very dangerous for the operation of the whole society.
For behavior that breaks through the bottom line, society should also have the courage to correct
In the Analects of Confucius - Xianqian, there is such a place: "the original soil Yiqi. Zi said: 'young and not Sun Di, long and no description, old and not dead is a thief! Knock on his shins with a staff." Translated, this means: Yuan Yang sat with his legs crossed and waited for Confucius. Confucius scolded him, saying, "When you were young, you did not talk about filial piety and fraternal duty, and when you grew up you had nothing to say about your accomplishments, and when you are old and do not die, you are really a pest." Saying so, he struck him on the calf with his cane. It can be seen that the traditional Chinese respect for the elderly and filial piety, there are conditions, that is, the old man to look like an old man, otherwise not only do not get respect, but also to scold the "old but not dead".
So, today's Chinese society, the problems of the elderly, the corrections should be corrected, not because of the "respect for the elderly" under the nearly unconditional obedience. Of course, many times people's values and ways of doing things are difficult to change, not to mention the 60 or 70-year-old, so some problems can only be left to time to solve.
It's not the old people who are bad, it's the "bad people" who are old. (From the Internet)