Psychological "support"
Elderly people in their old age are looking for a companion who can give them spiritual support and care, which cannot be replaced by other relatives. When one party due to physiological changes or the occurrence of certain accidents and produce trouble and bitterness, the other party's psychological "support" and life care, will make the other party from the spirit of comfort.
When the other party is sick, not only to use caring language to inquire about the condition, inspire the other party to overcome the confidence of the disease, try to reduce the other party's psychological pressure, but also to bring their medical treatment in a timely manner. If the other party encountered such as lost money, lost hands damaged goods and other unpleasant things, do not hard to blame, but should try to appease, in order to reduce its psychological burden.
The elderly encountered troubles, always want to find someone to talk about it, a vomit, this catharsis object is of course the most ideal of their partners. Therefore, any party should not blame the other narrow-minded or nagging annoyance, but should take the initiative to accept the other side of the catharsis, and persuasion, counseling, relieve the pain of their hearts.
Psychological "freshness"
Elderly couples in their daily lives year after year tend to be overly realistic and lack of romance, to meet the status quo and keep the bland, as the saying goes, "the old love is more than the lesser time fade". Therefore, the two sides should continue to create charm to continue to attract each other.
More praise in daily life, more appreciation of each other, such as "you wear this dress is really beautiful", "your color today is particularly good" and so on, so that the other side feel you pay attention to him, and for you to maintain their own charm of the opposite sex. In mutual concern, mutual support, to maintain a warm emotional life.
The late centenarian Zhang Xueliang it is with Ms. Zhao Yidi love nectar, so that the tree of life evergreen. Zhang Xueliang once composed a poem: "Since ancient times, heroes are more colorful, may not be colorful all heroes; I am not a hero, but colorful like a hero." It is clear that he and Ms. Zhao Yidi love deep, perhaps this is also his long years in adversity and create a miracle of longevity of one of the miraculous power.
Psychological "integration"
Couple's personality, hobbies and habits are not exactly the same, only in mutual respect under the premise of continuous "integration", in order to adapt to each other. Should respect and allow each other to have their own unique interests and hobbies, try to meet each other's psychological needs, the conditions should be involved in each other's activities, **** enjoy the fun. Mr. and Mrs. Xia are together to write poems and have the same interest and language.
At the same time, should fully understand and respect each other's habits, love their same, respect their differences. An old couple, one is Zhejiang, one is Heilongjiang; one likes to eat rice, one likes to eat pasta. They have been through a long period of "bonding", constantly changing their habits, eating a combination of southern and northern flavors of the meal, and spent most of their lives in harmony. The old couple should pay attention to emotional exchanges, so that the process of "integration" has become a process of emotional interaction and deepening.