When my husband and I got married, my in-laws were old. Husband's family condition is not good, there are three brothers and sisters, one brother and one sister. Uncle and brother are primary school teachers. Sister-in-law graduated from junior high school without studying and got married early.
My mother takes care of my baby, and my mother takes care of my baby. I have my own job and earn more than my husband.
I like my husband because he is very kind to me.
When I was young, I watched a TV series, and the hostess said that the man I was looking for was either domineering enough to do anything and asked me to hide behind him and be a woman behind him. Or gentle as water, willing to help me pour foot washing water when I get home from work.
My husband belongs to the latter. He doesn't earn much and has no opinion, but he can do housework.
My father-in-law is an honest man and usually doesn't talk much. I love two things most in my life, smoking and drinking.
My mother-in-law is a talkative person and basically has no emotional intelligence. Since we got married, my uncle's family has ignored my in-laws, but my in-laws like to turn my uncle's house upside down: there is delicious food, I remember my uncle's house, and I give him the money for renting land. Even the rural elderly can get 100 yuan a month.
At the age of 75, my father-in-law was diagnosed with advanced lung cancer. In the choice of conservative treatment and surgery, my uncle's family doesn't talk or pay for treatment, so he becomes invisible.
My husband said that I always make decisions about our family, and he didn't know.
My mother-in-law said that I am old and have no money. It's up to you.
My sister-in-law said that she was a married daughter and had nothing to do with the spilled water.
All the problems are on me.
We can only ask the doctor. The doctor said that my father-in-law is so old that surgery will only aggravate his pain and the possibility of cure is very small. It is better to treat him conservatively and live a good life in the last half of his life.
So, I told my husband's family what the doctor said, and they didn't say a word.
I took my in-laws to the city. Besides going to work and helping my children with their homework, I have an additional responsibility to take care of my in-laws.
I will take my in-laws to the park after dinner every day, take a walk and watch others dance square dance; Will accompany my father-in-law to watch old movies, although I don't like it; Will accompany my father-in-law to the township market to find some old things; I will also take my father-in-law to the big shopping mall to see the prosperity of the city now; I will suppress my temper every day, I will not yell at my children, and I will not quarrel with my husband.
When I'm in trouble, I solve it myself. I will go to the hospital on time every week and ask the doctor for advice.
My uncle and sister-in-law never showed up.
Half a year has passed and my father-in-law is in good health and can walk by himself.
Until the tenth month, my father-in-law was ill in bed. The old man is obsessed with it, afraid of dying in the hospital, and has been clamoring to go home.
Helpless, I had to send it back to my in-laws. I asked my sister-in-law to take care of her and gave her 3000 yuan a month, but she didn't agree. Uncle and his wife are on summer vacation and don't want to take care of their in-laws.
Husband resigned and went back to his hometown to take care of his parents. I can understand, after all, it's my father.
My father-in-law died a year after he was diagnosed with advanced lung cancer, and lived half a year longer than the doctor expected. I remember my father-in-law took my hand a few days before he left and said that it was a good thing that he could live so decently because of me, and my mother-in-law was there.
My uncle and sister-in-law never go home to see their parents, as if there were no in-laws.
My father-in-law had already left, and I called three times before my uncle and sister-in-law went back to their hometown.
At the funeral, my uncle and sister-in-law talked and laughed, but they didn't see any sadness.
My mother-in-law suddenly said loudly, "If you had an operation at that time, don't treat it conservatively. Are you still alive? "
Uncle, brother and sister-in-law also meet: "Yes, yes."
My mother-in-law told me again: "You were afraid of the operation and asked for money, so you gave your father conservative treatment. Look at the old man next door, who had an operation and lived for three years. "
The mother-in-law is talking about a brother in the family. He was only 35 years old and had rectal cancer, which was diagnosed at an early stage.
I didn't expect my uncle and sister-in-law to attack me: "At that time, I should have an operation. What conservative treatment is afraid of spending money. "
"The distant daughter-in-law just can't have. No matter how good she is, she won't treat her husband's family as family. "
"She is retaliating that you and my dad didn't take care of the month and didn't help her with the children."
"With your own housekeeper, you don't care about the life and death of the elderly."
The whole family began to crusade against me.
My husband didn't complain and didn't say anything.
@ Xiao Xie talks about emotions
Xiaoxie will really be killed by your husband's family. She doesn't do personnel, she doesn't talk to people.
Your mother-in-law's emotional intelligence is not low. Xiao Xie thinks it's bad. She can't see your efforts and loves to gossip. She won't stop until she makes her house restless.
I wonder who will support her when she is old.
You have a clear conscience in dealing with your father-in-law, and all slander is unfair to you.
You should have your own edge, don't be patient, people think you are weak.
I am @ Xiao Xie. I look forward to meeting you in the world of words.