It is also common for people to send me a private letter, first about a certain detail of something, and then ask me, what does this mean? Does this man really love me?
99.9% of the people who ask this kind of question are women, younger or psychologically immature older women.
Think about it, you and he spent time together you can not feel that he loves you, I am a stranger just based on a detail, and how can I judge whether he loves you?
Although sometimes I am lazy or write similar articles for the sake of traffic. But I'd also like to say that "whether he loves you or not" is not something worth dwelling on.
If a man shows that he loves you, he may have a purpose, such as he just wants to get your body, or see your money;
If a man's love shows that you doubt, it is likely that he does not love you, or do not love you as much as you think.
People of a certain age will find the cruel truth of the world of feelings:
He loves you today, does not mean that he will love you tomorrow, and does not mean that he will love you for the rest of his life. And, when he loves you, it doesn't affect his ability to love others.
Love and not love, in fact, there is no particularly obvious boundary. Love and not love, more than one or two small things can be asserted.
So, adults really do not need to ask: Does he love me? I'm not sure if I've ever been in the same situation before. Did he ever love me? I say love or not love, you believe it? That's just too hasty! So these similar questions, which I categorize as boring to ask, I don't even want to waste my time answering.
So, let's not get hung up on love or not, a toad especially love you, every day in your ass after you, you will be proud? You will accept his love? So, what's the point of saying love or not? The first thing you need to do is to get the best of the best of the best of the best of the best.
I think that the emotional appeal of adults should focus more on the following points.
First, do not get entangled in his love or not love me, but focus on their own fast or not happy
A lot of people in the marriage and love in the entanglement and pain, because of the wrong choice of spouse.
There are a small number of men, destined to be scum, no matter who is with him, it is difficult to be happy;
The same is also a small number of men, is a good man, no matter who is with him, the day is easy to be happy;
And the vast majority of men, and some women with him is a good man, and some other women with him and become scum.
In the final analysis, we have to figure out each other's true, original appearance, recognize themselves, recognize others. Because some men and women, they are not bad people, but these two good people together is not suitable, that barely together is suffering.
Everyone's character is not the same, the way to express love is not the same.
Some generous men, think that to spend money on women is to love her; some stingy men, think that accompanied by life is down-to-earth love; some people can be with the sweet but can not **** bitter, a bitter up on the jump up and down; some people can **** bitter but can not be with the sweet, the days of the feelings of a good on the end of the day; some people convergence of the slow hot, some people enthusiastic exuberance ...
Some of the people who have a good relationship with their parents are not the same as those who have a bad relationship with them, but they have a good relationship with their parents. ...
So, before entering into an intimate relationship, please think: What kind of person do you want?
So think before you enter into an intimate relationship: what kind of person do you want?
When that person, in his most comfortable and original state, gets along with you to solve the problems you encounter, can you accept it openly and comfortably? If you can't accept it, is there a possibility that you can improve it? If there is a possibility of improvement, in the process of grinding, you can accept the degree of pain and where the bottom line?
Why do I say we need to "get to know each other's true, original colors"? Because everyone is a thousand faces. He may talk about people, he may talk about ghosts, and these thousand faces, projected on different objects, will show different results.
A person has a certain aspect of "strengths", then he must have a corresponding "weaknesses". For example, a man is generous, like to give you money, you think he is particularly righteous, generous, do not care, these are advantages, right? But after the marriage, this advantage may become a disadvantage.
Because generous people are generous to everyone, he is not only generous to you, to other relatives and friends are also generous, outside to grab the bill, to give you a particularly expensive gift, no capital planning awareness, always owe money. After marriage, the pre-marriage advantages are no longer advantages, but will become the reason for your quarrel.
So, when choosing an intimate partner, while we ask ourselves what we need, we also need to consider certain qualities of the other person, what kind of person is he, is he what you want?
What kind of love you want is what kind of "being treated" you want. So, you don't really need to ask if you love, you just need to look at the way he treats you, can you make you happy on the line. It is not so important whether he loves or not, it is more important whether you are happy or not.
Second, clear what kind of person I am, I deserve what kind of person
Women in the choice of spouse, there are always a lot of fantasies, I hope that the other side grows tall and handsome, qi big live good and money, so that the man has to be very much in love with you, will be coaxed you, can detect your small emotions.
When your needs far exceed your own value, there is no self-awareness.
For example, you yourself are ugly, not good body, not high education, but also lazy and work, poor temper, but you want God to give you a lifetime only love you rich and handsome, this may be?
So, we have to change our thinking first. What you want in a partner, someone else wants, and the person who can attract you, can also attract others.
So what makes you the winner? What is it about you that is so sparkling that you can displace it with the other person? What is it about you that competes with the same sex?
Is there something about you that makes up for what the other person lacks, or is it a rare quality?
Of course, assuming that we are exceptionally well endowed and good enough in our own right, there is no need to be presumptuous. We are highly equipped, then we deserve to be good.
Here's a counter-example too: Tony Lim's wife.
Tony Lin's wife, is a rich white woman, right, the choice of spouse is much broader than ordinary people. But what kind of man did she choose?
Tony Lin, he service industry + looks average + primary education + rural families. This configuration is out, the discerning eye can see it, really not good, but the white rich beauty is no refusal and he married.
If a man behaves like he loves you, then he may have a purpose, especially if it's a lot worse than your love for men.
Well, it's hot-headed when you're in love, but what about when you're married?The way Tony Lim trapped the rich white woman was to make her have 3 kids, give up her career, and be a stay-at-home mom. He used his wife's mother's family's money to start a company, put his own family in important positions in the company, and share the equity.
Perhaps when young, Tony Lin with "good for her" replaced the rich white beauty "I have money", the rich white beauty is very lack of love, but with the passage of time, Tony Lin does not lack of money, do not care about the rich white beauty of the money, do you think the man will not have other ideas? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do it.
All aspects and flag equal or far more than your man, but also willing to work on you on your good, than all aspects are not as good as your man on your good to be strong.
Third, do not take the need for security, as the umbrella of the nonsense
Many girls, because of the lack of security, so demanding. Often suspected that men do not love themselves, constantly make and make trouble, as a way to test each other's bottom line, to win each other's care and attention.
Around the "you have to give me security", all the excessive behavior rationalization, delete opposite sex friends, in charge of the economy, all kinds of nonsense, questioning, accusing ......
You do what you want, your security is there, but the other side! I'm not sure if you're going to be able to do that.
This in return, not security and care, will only be abandoned.
Because the way you ask for security, hurt each other. He is in love with you, not your slave.
Fourth, learn to enjoy, let yourself cool the most important
Article written here, there must be people will ask: I want him to love me, but I always feel that he is pretending to love me, then he in the end love or not? I'm not sure what I'm going to do.
Well, a woman, even a man to you whether sincere, whether really love you are not clear, you in addition to stupid, or stupid.
A man's sincerity, will definitely show in the details of life. He will care about your feelings, willing to let you, he is very good to you, but he will never say "I in order to how how". He loves you, he will naturally pay, he pays is happy, not calculating, you gave him the opportunity to accept his good, he is grateful not even too late.
Conditions and you almost even better than your man, pretending to love you, he is willing to go to great lengths to pretend for you, and you happen to like, it is better to enjoy, other than to time.
You don't have to worry about the "time consuming" "second marriage no one wants" and so on. These are the women who have nothing to worry about.
A woman who can earn her own living has the ability to leave. Now the divorce rate is so high, there are many people who are doing well after divorce. You are worried that no one wants you when you get old, you can go and see the old lady dancing in the square, fifty or sixty years old, as usual, there are still old men hooking up.
The definition of love is too fuzzy, more or less all have their own purposes. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty. So we don't have to worry about a little thing, everyone is unique, others can't give you the answer.