"You are a good girl." When Lin received this sentence, she just looked at the mobile phone screen in a daze. Although I tried to smile, my eyes were full of tears and I accidentally cried on the screen of my mobile phone.
Lin fell in love with a boy when she was still in love. Lin didn't tell the boys, just chatted with them every day. Boys, on the other hand, always end the topic on the grounds of work fatigue.
Lin talked with him and liked her daily lessons, but it's a pity that she finally graduated. There is no beginning, no end, just a sentence from a boy: you are a good girl. Simple words pierced Lin's heart like a sword and sent her a good friend card.
I met Lin in a club when I was a sophomore. At first glance, I thought she was a clean and gentle girl, and most people around her thought she was an obedient and sensible girl.
Being dealt good cards is Lin's daily life. Because she is a good girl in others' eyes, Lin always receives "Shu Shu, help me get my book back", "help me bring rice" and "help me fetch a pot of water". Lin is a nice guy in the eyes of almost everyone, so no matter what the relationship is with her, everyone will always think of Lin first. She always plays the role of a good girl and never refuses.
02
After graduation, she took the initiative to help buy water, pick up the courier and take out the garbage in the office. Once again, she was labeled as a good person. Colleagues in the office go on a date after work, and Lin will help them finish the unfinished work in time. I said to her: You can refuse. She directly said: colleagues should help each other. She has a date after work. I'm single, and no one is dating. There is no reason not to help. Hearing what she said, I was both angry and distressed. You are a good girl, but "not knowing how to refuse others" is not part of a good girl.
Lin sometimes wants to refuse and refute. It's just that I've been used to listening to my parents since I was a child and become obedient and clever; I don't know how to refuse. Just don't know how to refuse, not only won't make people appreciate or cherish, but will make people feel even worse.
My friend's short story, only crying children can have milk to eat. Xiaoxiao said that when she first entered the editorial department, some people's desks were in the corridor. It is particularly cold in winter, and the central air conditioner turned on in winter doesn't work at all. Some people rely on wearing more clothes, some rely on drinking more hot water, and some rely on shivering.
Xiaoxiao said that one day a girl from another department came to get their boss's electric heater. Later, when the boss came back from a business trip, everyone was complaining about why he asked other departments to take electric heating air. The boss came: who told you not to say anything, who knows if you are cold or not. Only crying children have milk to eat. Everyone said with one voice; Cold. After that, the boss immediately contacted the engineering department to deal with the air conditioning incident. People no longer need to drink more hot water to keep warm.
Only children who can really cry can have milk to eat. The so-called good girl is usually sad, and no one comforts her, because everyone will think that a good girl has a big heart and will recover automatically in a short time.
If two girls go shopping together and stumble over something at the same time, one girl will say "Ouch", and then someone will definitely ask: Are you okay, are you hurt ... all kinds of greetings and concerns. But for the silent girl, no one cares, as if the girl is made of iron, and it doesn't hurt if she falls. If two girls quarrel and have conflicts, most people will comfort the crying person. In short, the weak will certainly get everyone's attention, and no one will see how wronged you are and how strong you are. It seems that if you don't cry or make trouble, you don't deserve the care and love of others
03
Sometimes I feel that children who are too obedient seem to come to no good end. When we were internship, most people were in the dining room. Waiter is a tired position in the restaurant, and some people are lucky to be assigned to the bar to lead the way. Most people think that excellent people will be assigned to cashier and bar, so do I. But then the next batch of interns came, and I realized that the positions of the bar and cashier were given to people who were not particularly obedient and naughty, while the bitter and tired waiters were left to those obedient and earnest children.
Sometimes I am very obedient, but there is no sugar to eat. In a word, you are a good girl, but a good girl should be wronged and not loved. In that case, no one will want this good friend card.
I sometimes often wonder why a good girl is unloved.
Some people say it's because most boys don't like girls who are too sensible. Some people say that a good girl is an object that can only be seen from a distance and cannot be played with. Later, I gradually realized that a good girl is unloved because she loves others first, not herself.
A good girl is not always considerate of others to be liked by everyone, but must learn to love herself first. Only by learning to love yourself can others learn to love you. Starting today, girls learn to be better to themselves.