Surrounded by friends, many have a second child, each said a bunch of reasons for birth, but also encouraged me to hurry to have another one. Said after the old, how, how? I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do this, but I'm sure I'm going to be able to do it," he said.
1Netizen He Luobei said:
I'm an only child, my parents only had me one, I'm now married to a 5-minute drive away from home, my husband is also an only child, my husband and I only had a daughter, and do not intend to have a second child.
We live alone now, not with either parent, and neither of our parents feel alone, they have their own lives while helping us. I think that's pretty good.
My mother-in-law had to work for the first two years, and my mom helped bring up my daughter, who is about to start kindergarten, and her grandma retired and started to switch to her for drop-offs and pick-ups, so that my mom can take a break too.
How can I say this,first of all, the only child loneliness of this piece, most of the people around me are only child, I grew up did not feel lonely, have friends, as long as the money to play things are also more, the birth of a child in turn want to look forward to a bit of their own space and time.
Then the parents' pension, parents have a pension, temporarily need me to take the money of the opportunity is not much, now the only time I feel the burden of heavy is when they are really old and not good health, but as an only child, in the enjoyment of all the love and resources of the parents at the same time, but also have to bear the responsibility.
Again, when my parents are that time my daughter has grown up and I have the time and energy to take care of my parents and do my due diligence.
Again, my daughter, no surprise, she is also an only child, my husband and I will try to give her good educational resources, and try to raise her into a positive outlook on the three positive, positive, independent, healthy and upward girl, and we need to solve their own retirement problems, to help my daughter to reduce the burden of the parents' old age.
So that when our daughter grows up and becomes an adult, my husband and I will still be in our middle age, and the world is so big, we can still go and see it, why not?
2Netizen Grabbing Mom said:
Parents of only children
Our generation of only children's parents are at least in their 60s, and some are even 70 years old. So it should fit the persona of your question.
The kind of old people who don't have health insurance, don't have pensions, and need to be supported by their children are not included in this, and most of them have had more than one child as well, and we're talking about parents of only children here. Look at this group of parents in fact they are considered the happiest group of people in China at present. Because of the following points;
1. Most of these people who had only one child in the 80s when they caught up with the family planning system are working in the system or in state-owned enterprises. This group of people are now retired have a good pension, old age do not have to worry about. The unit gave enough medical insurance, do not have to worry about the sick.
2. Although this group of people went to the countryside when they were young and went through some difficult times as youths, but later since they could enter the system or large state-owned enterprises, they must have a good family, and many of them were the backbone of the units or even the leaders before they retired.
Enjoyed the first batch of reform dividends, bought a house early, invested money, and have a pension and insurance, so life after retirement is carefree.
3. Nowadays, young people work hard, instead of being miserable. This group of elderly people retirement life is particularly rich. It is now the largest wave of overseas travel moncler outlet online, their footprints set foot in the world.
My parents have traveled to more than 20 countries after retirement under my arrangement. They dance, sing, play the piano, and perform all over the place, and they have a colorful retirement life.
4. This group of people have some resources of their own, usually their children's education is not slack, and their children's work is generally better. So they don't have to worry too much about their children's jobs.
Only a group of older unmarried people are also in our generation, so some parents may be a bit anxious. But overall life is not much of a worry.
What to do if your only child is not with you
If you have only one child and they are not with you, there are many examples. I have a lot of friends and classmates who are only children but live and work overseas. Some of them bring their parents overseas for a period of time every year. Of course, some parents don't adapt to the life outside.
In the long run, this is indeed a problem. There is some truth in the old saying that parents don't travel far. As I see my mom and dad getting older every day, I chose to go back home, even though I enjoyed living overseas and was actually more comfortable out there. But everyone's choices are different, and parents can't limit their children's development because of themselves.
So whether you have just one or two children, you can't avoid the problem of high population mobility nowadays. No matter how many you have, it's hard to guarantee that your children will stay with you when they grow up, and they may stay elsewhere because of a better job or because they met the love of their life in a different country.
One-child and two-child families
With the full liberalization of the second child in 16 years, many people have started to give birth to a second child one after another, and there is no lack of some of the 70 after the beginning of the 80's "old man" is also in the dare to take this trip to give birth to a second child.
While on the surface it is said to give the child a playmate, lest the child is too lonely, but in fact deep down the main hope that their old age, more than one child, more than a companion.
If one child is far away, the other may still be around. We can't say that it's selfish to be a parent, but Chinese parents want their children to be around them, and they like the feeling of having their children and grandchildren around them.
If you want to know what happens to parents who only have one daughter, just look at the parents of the post-80s and post-90s generations.
Myself is the 80s only daughter, I grew up in the city, from childhood to adulthood to make no less than hundreds of classmates and friends, in addition to 1-2 people due to special reasons have siblings, the vast majority of them are only child. So there are a lot of only children in this generation, including myself.
So when we become parents in this generation, we have to consider this issue from the heart. Regardless of how many children are born, the fact is that the child only needs to be happy and joyful on his or her own. Everything should not be forced.
If you are old in the future and your children are not around, you should learn to hold on to your own. We all grew up as only children anyway, and have gotten used to not having siblings, and not feeling lonely, and getting used to making friends and getting along with them, and it's the same when we get old. So many parents whose children aren't around just stay together a lot. Children are not your own possessions, they can't develop absolutely the way you want them to, just figure it out.
3Hui Er said:
I am a first-generation only child with a well-off family.
First, I don't feel lonely, my parents, my lover is quite good.
Secondly, I didn't feel that my parents were lonely, and I had a high quality of life. My parents were already enjoying their lives while others were still working on getting married and giving birth to their children.
Thirdly, I have a daughter, and I don't want to have any more.There's too big of a difference between my two children, and they're not companions. I'm not a companion, purely for the oldest to find trouble, selfish, I think people live a life, quite hard, do not come to the world suffer~
We live a good moment, save enough money for retirement, do not give the child trouble, so that she also lighten the burden, do not turn back in addition to suffer with us, but also have to take care of a small one!
Of course, things are not fixed, to be the oldest two also have their happiness ~ how do you want to live on how to live it ~
4Netizen four seasons said:
I am an only child, very satisfied with their own is an only child life, did not feel lonely, there are a lot of friends and classmates. Growing up living close to my parents, but living independently, the most comfortable state, my parents need to find me at any time, but also can enjoy their own space.
Parents have their own retirement paycheck, do not need me to worry too much, usually help them online shopping some things, from time to time to go over to rub a meal on the line. They have their own hobbies, dancing today, playing cards tomorrow, walking birds, life is very reckless.
I have a daughter of my own, and I have no intention of having another, so I'll concentrate on her, and I don't want to give any extra love to another child, but I'm not sure if I'll be able to give her any more love than I've given her. I'd like to see her and her mom eat and play everywhere when she grows up.
I have a daughter of my own, and I'm still torn about whether or not to have another one.1:Having a child is a trip to the ghost gate, the birth of millet, suffered a lot of crime, to be honest, a little afraid.
2:Raising a child is super laborious, now the child is not the previous years, before it is also a raise two is also raised, raise a piglet as raised.
Nowadays, the children of all kinds of remedial classes, learn more things, the child will be the greater the vanity will be stronger, and will be compared with classmates, you have to find ways to meet her, not to say that everything to meet, more or less, you look at her that look forward to the eyes, will want to satisfy her, so Life is very stressful.
3: It is now too much to have a second child, some 40 years old still desperately taking drugs to get pregnant and have a child.
So, usually when your own child plays with other children, you will find that everyone else has siblings and your child is left alone,If the children do not get along with each other, the other children are not afraid to have their own siblings to play with them anyway, while your child is left alone, and will feel bored and lonely. Unlike the post-80s and post-90s, most of them were only children, so they basically had company to play with.
4, I think it's purely a parental opinion to say that two children will have a companion in the future. Two children will have a playmate when they are young, but not when they grow up.
Sisters with good feelings are a companion, brothers with good feelings may also be a companion, the worst is a man and a woman, men and women can talk to each other is not much, this is one aspect. Growing up and getting married is not a single sibling, brother and sister so simple, it is a matter of two families. Most of them don't really talk to each other.
And then again, isn't that what they say on the internet these days? Previously, relatives were relatives, but now most relatives are just people who are related. Instead, you can talk to strangers to death, and you can't say a few words to your own loved ones.
5,You said it's too hard for a child to take care of their parents when they are old, especially when they are sick. A daughter is too hard to take care of, but if you have two children, a daughter or a son, you can take turns to take care of them a little easier, both mentally and physically, and this is true.