I need to give classes to undergraduates, guide and revise thesis for graduates, give classes to junior and senior high school students in the training department, give a Chinese lesson to the children of foreign teachers at regular intervals, I am also temporarily caught up with interpreting for the school's foreign visitors, and sometimes there are second drafts of the college's contracts to be handed in, and I'm also the mother of a 4-year-old boy, and there are often some parenting activities in the kindergarten that I need to participate in. 。。。。。。
I myself am not the strongest of the Ultraman, I am the Suzie who is irritable and depressed when there is too much going on.
When I'm depressed, I tell the slightly more innocent cuties around me.
01
One time I was giving a Chinese lesson to foreign children, a couple of kids around 6 years old. I said: Today let's review the idioms that Ms. Nancy taught us. Listen to the question:
If a child, Jack, is depressed, that is, in a bad mood and unhappy, which idiom do we use to comfort him?
The kids froze, and I had to explain in English: a bit sad, blue, under the weather...
A boy came to his senses: I know, I know, I'm sorry for your loss.
I immediately burst out laughing, quickly corrected, this can not be used indiscriminately, only when condolences to the family of the deceased can be used, ask the other party to suppress grief, adapt to the change.
I told Nancy: the students we teach are not up to the level of accurate expression, if someone asks for comfort, depression is running away, shock is coming.
02
In class, I found the students depressed, and asked them what was wrong, A: soon to be exams, qualification exams, the end of the examination class, four or six grades, computers, contemporary college students how to be so bitter, is not to say that the most relaxed is the college students?
I asked: unhappy can not solve the problem? Unhappy is not also time-consuming, this is a typical internal conflict.
There is this moment of time to look at what they want to do, reasonable planning arrangements, some things do not need to be perfect, some things are not as urgent as you think.
We need to find the most efficient solution. It is to develop a problem-oriented thinking, find ways to solve problems, rather than depressed ......
Many students fall into thinking, I was pleasantly surprised to find that my own depression also unexpectedly solved.
Often, when we jump out of our own familiar circle and look at the problem from an outsider's perspective, there will be a new way of thinking.
I immediately planned my own work: the class needs to be on their own, on the good, this is the most important, but the courseware can be given to the small assistant to do.
The translation of the contract was outsourced to the students who did the translation, efficient and precise, and the reception of foreign guests was divided among several colleagues to do.
Touring the campus is a kind of business that English majors who are lively and cheerful can also undertake, and modifying the paper can give students an excellent paper template, so that they can change it by themselves first, and then it will be much easier for me to change it again.
As for kindergarten activities, Mr. can do it. Dad is also a very important role, and my Mr. is tall with a good image and can draw and design.
This arrangement, my depression instantly weakened, good, can drink a cup of milk tea refreshing. The most expensive one, boss, will be a cup.
03
Sometimes I ask my friends when I am depressed.
One of them received a phone call: something quickly say ah, I am washing clothes, son's homework is not finished, his hand fracture I need to pay attention to all the time, the student's homework and the paper has not been changed, there are still two students out of the situation has not been resolved to complete the home sanitation has not been cleaned, my family Mr. drink high ......
What are you calling about? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on the phone and get it over with! I answered: nothing, greetings to you. The other side of the phone immediately replied: goodbye goodbye.
Another good friend heard my depressed news exceptionally excited: depressed, out of it, and sister together with the dueling square dance, jumping mood will be good, how, come or not?
I tell you, the square dance benefits, and dance a lot of young people, really, and our age, younger than us, uncle aunt group accounted for not high, really the media blind report, the square dance is the territory of the young people, there are children, really, jump no trouble, the more jump the happier ......
Look at the state of the circle of friends, I know I do not have to contact other friends.
Either in the heat of the moment and boyfriend putty to watch a movie, or in the company of children writing homework, signing endless words, writing endless comments, endless homework.
Our teachers lamented: every day homework is like a mountain of pressure over, how can children love to learn?
Thinking about the poor children who write their homework late into the night, I feel that my life is very sunny and beautiful, and I don't feel depressed at all, really.
04
I never ask my mom what to do when she's depressed, and her answer is always the same: what do you want to eat?
My mom never asked me what to do if I was depressed, but her answer was always the same: what do you want to eat?
I asked Clooney: "What do you do when your mom is depressed? This 4-year-old boy happily replied: I have a cake, chocolate flavor, with candles on it, I'll give you to eat, OK? You don't have to say thank you.
I thought to myself: didn't I buy your beloved cake?