Full-time mother with children, according to the scientific concepts of the child is good but their own tired half dead, and the mother-in-law, her husband can not look at you, feel that you ate the idle rice, did not earn money back straight, and can only do more home, the attitude is humble, hands up thirsty for a little bit of money, usually have to endure other people's depression, but the mother-in-law, the husband can not see you.
The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty, and then you have to go back to the house to get your hands dirty, and then you have to go back to the house to get your hands dirty, and then you have to go back to the house to get your hands dirty.
My downstairs neighbor, who has two sons, was happy when she showed her first child to her eldest son, but when she showed her youngest son, she often complained that she was tired and unhappy. The first thing I'd like to say is that I don't know what to say.
Now which children do not see, the old man every day to accompany the outside world to play, people much better.
Personally, I think there are probably the following reasons:
Mother-in-law with children have no worries, simply put, most of the mother-in-law with children is to bring so many years, do not have to worry about the child grows up after the thing, they themselves are into old age, as long as the situation of their own family is still good, the children read their own, with the baby a few years later can still want to do what you do what you want to do, do not have to worry about the future of the The problem of livelihood is not a matter of concern.
But it's not the case for mothers, who have to consider the development of their children's character, whether they will have the opportunity to return to the workplace later, and the study of their children's work and family and so on, which is equivalent to the mother-in-law's last job, while mothers are just starting a job, and there are still more difficult hurdles waiting to be stepped on.
Mother with child depression, many times is their own sense of value and the husband and wife relationship is not coordinated, after all, the state of the mother of the postpartum state is really not particularly good, easy to depression, but the mother-in-law does not have this concern, as long as the child to bring up the line, the other does not worry about.
The mother of the child depression, there may be another point is that the mothers contact the network of such means of communication more, easier to be known by the public, but the mother-in-law does not understand these, and with the social contact with the mother does not know more, so the online disclosure of the case is also the cause of the fewer, right?
Personally, I think it's better to have children with their parents, to give the elders a little more of their own lives, and to put more thought into their own children is the most appropriate.
This is a good question! I am white peach is sweet! A nine-five baby mom! Today I will answer this question in detail! The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty!
Baby moms with children are depressed because of the loss of normal socialization and work! Grandma with children, can be better integrated into the circle of the elderly! Most of the baby moms with children stay at home to watch TV and study, boring and tedious! Grandmothers with children mostly dancing in the park, interesting and lively and fulfilling! What's so depressing about that? There's nothing to stop grandma from taking her baby to the square dance!
Secondly, the baby moms lack of experience in bringing up children, do not know how to deal with such and such fragmented things! Often busy busy, baby crying mom crying, home made a mess! The grandmother has a lot of experience in taking care of children! Grandma with children do not delay washing dishes, cooking and cleaning housework, the baby is free to play with toys are not bound! All in all! The baby plays more happily!
Furthermore, the baby's mom is serious about bringing up the baby, and requires the child to learn this and that! The baby learning is not serious, but also easy to be beaten and scolded! In this way, the atmosphere is tense, the mother is easy to depression! Grandma is more relaxed and lively! As long as the baby is happy, she can have as much fun as she wants! The child is as lively as a reined-in pony! The child is happy, the grandmother is depressed what?
The mom is serious with the baby, careful, careful, grandmother with the baby simple, relaxed, fun! In short, each has its own strengths, each has its own shortcomings! If you have the conditions, it's not always possible for a mom and a grandma to take care of the kids together! That's it for this installment. I hope you enjoy it and support it!
It's simple. Granny with children everyone will praise, children will also appreciate. The mother with a child to bring good is this is also subject to criticism not to earn money, but also to face the disjointed social relations, on the old and the young of course, mental pressure ah. The full-time mother of those around the good conditions, did not see any depression, every day with the child to play around, live a good not dashing.
I think there are 3 reasons:
1. My mother-in-law has retired, less worries from work.
And although full-time mothers do not work, but from the workplace out of the majority of baby moms have no bottom in their hearts, afraid of being eliminated by society, forgotten by friends, abandoned by their husbands!
The mother-in-law is already an old woman, living through, without similar worries!
2. There is a fundamental difference between the concepts of mothers-in-law and mothers-in-law in bringing up children, and the requirements for children are not the same!
The mother-in-law with children, only think of the children can eat, wear warm play happy on the line, rarely will be super heart their learning, or worry about their future! Much less join the current group of chicken children!
The mother is not the same, in addition to food, clothing, housing and transportation, the heart every day thinking about the child's learning, planning for the child's future, was surrounded by coworkers and friends of the chicken child chicken piece of body scales, may be the whole family, including the child is opposed to her, feel that she is worrying about the sky!
The child is too strict, the child does not understand, the family does not support, and they can not let go, over time, the mother of the probability of depression because of this matter!
3. Elderly accusation of late generation is reasonable, late generation still have to be respectful, a little resistance, will be moral abduction!
The mother-in-law can point out to her face that she is not happy with the way things are going, and that is reasonable!
The mother-in-law with children, the mother-in-law feel wrong, can not talk out loud, may also have to endure, and the husband complained, encountered mute husband, will also be accused of not knowing how to thank!
Different status, different generations, many things need to be handled with discretion, or a little attention will trigger a family war!
4. A family, only the wife is an outsider, the mother-in-law has a father-in-law and son to support, encountered conflicts, full-time mothers can only be pinned tail to do people!
So the mother-in-law and full-time mom with baby, the baby mother to bear more pressure, so of course the mother is easy to depression!
My mother-in-law is particularly dedicated to bringing up children, so her concentration is the child, and I let my mother-in-law go out to play and relax every six days of vacation. I work during the day Monday through Friday the kids sleep with me at night and Saturday and Sunday are with me all day. I think six days two days I'm going crazy [I want to be quiet] [I want to be quiet] [I want to be quiet] [I want to be quiet]
Because the daughter-in-law with a child, the outside world all sorts of questions, so young how not to go to work, the mother-in-law how to not with, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is not good it can't find a job, right? There is no money, was all kinds of dislike, eat white rice.
Wrong! It's just that they won't shout it on the internet, they just suffer in silence. In-laws also have a lot of depression, in order to the next generation, they suffer, money and effort is not good. I have met a pair of in-laws from the distant Heilongjiang Qiqihar, came to Anhui Hefei son's home to help, first of all, a lot of discomfort, recurrence of old illnesses, and finally collapsed into the hospital, they are more than 70 years old, to come here, unfamiliar with the place, they have to transport their grandchildren to school every day, responsible for the family three meals a day, the person hospitalized, but also do not rest assured that the family. Before retiring, my mother-in-law was a cadre in the organization, in the unit is also considered a strong woman, my father-in-law is an accountant, they put two sons to cultivate success, the eldest son in foreign countries as a Huawei executives. The youngest son and daughter-in-law they are in the public security system, they work early every morning and late at night busy, all the things by the old couple to take care of, to manage, the old man and I said: never felt so tired, son, daughter-in-law went home is to fall on the sofa, the bed to look at the phone, not a little help, and now she was hospitalized, the son of their family went out to buy food, the young people never cook. There is also a pair of elderly people, from hundreds of miles away from the rural areas of Huaibei, came to the provincial capital with grandchildren, more than 80 square meters of house, living in a family of three generations of five, the grandson is in elementary school, the old lady is also more than seventy years of age, last year, the heart just installed two stents, all day long back pain, leg pain, all the disease. In spite of this, but to go to the bathroom have to run to the neighborhood outside the public **** toilet, I asked them, why not at home convenient? They told me that the bathroom door to their son's bedroom, the young people are good to sleep, for fear of affecting their rest, are outside to solve the problem, every day before going to bed as little water as possible, in front of the son and daughter-in-law to accompany the careful. There is time to rummage in the neighborhood trash cans looking for scrap, sold for some pocket money to ease the son's financial burden. The old man told me, live in the old country spacious, there is a three-storey building, a dozen rooms, living here is too stifling, they used to live in the old country, open the pig farm, four children all cultivated on the junior colleges, universities, the old man secretly told me, their old couple saved up to have 300,000 to stay in the old age pension, do not need to children's burdens, the family also has the land, the annual collection of food can not be eaten, this is the oldest four of their family, to bring up the grandson on the Completed the task, the family sold all the pigs, came to this side with the grandchildren, after a period of time, the old lady can adapt, the old man quit, determined to go home, after the New Year, the old lady alone back, the old man himself said what is not willing to come. There is also an old lady, his hometown in Jiangsu Pizhou, his partner left in his thirties, she pulled up three children alone, now Hefei to see the grandchildren, the old man's health is not good, suffering from a variety of illnesses, the son to drive a cab, the daughter-in-law in the part-time job, the income is not high, and monthly mortgage payments, the old lady was sick, to the hospital to see a doctor recommended hospitalization for surgery, but in this side of the no medical insurance, to pay the full amount of money, the son heard, persuade the old lady! Or go back home to see it, over there spend less money, so delayed again and again. After the New Year, the old man found a cleaning job next to him and said that when he earned enough money, he would go back to his hometown to see a doctor. I just want to cry when I hear this. For these old people, where is the life they want? Where is the dignity they want? Raising children to prevent old age is not an empty word, the son must have money to do ah, no money they even feed themselves are difficult, you can expect them to your old age? It is not that they do not have filial piety, but they do not have money. There is no data to show how many old people gave up their familiar life, familiar hometown, came to a strange place, every day for the children and grandchildren to work, how many old people suffering from illnesses are still silently insisting on, silently bear, if the statistics, it is estimated that the depression of the treasure milk, treasure master may be more than the depression of the treasure mother to go.
The mother-in-law is also for her own children, but the mother-in-law was depressed when she was young, and she can't be depressed for the rest of her life!