1. 5,000 words a day at least, which is my basic requirement, no matter how this day must complete this workload
2. 8 kilometers a day walking at least, no matter windy or rainy must be carried out, over
3. Read a book every day, whether it is
My eldest child is fine and can fully cooperate with my habits, but my youngest child is still young and always likes to interrupt, he also likes to constantly challenge my bottom line to deliberately provoke me to anger me, to prove how much his mother can tolerate him and love him, I understand that this contains the psychology of the journey, but I choose to ignore it more often, because I found that I can not waste more time, whether it is based on life I had to force myself to get on track as soon as possible, based on life and self-development, and I had to set a time frame or some material or monetary feedback for myself, because I had to support myself, which is a basic need for survival
For this reason, I made an agreement with my oldest son not to be disturbed until 12:00 am every day, which is my personal working time, and I made an agreement with both of them to create a I made an agreement with my two children to set up a table of items that should be completed each day, and the rest was much simpler, they had a goal of what they wanted to accomplish each day, and it was up to them how to accomplish it, it was always 8:30am - 12:00pm each day, I had a whole full period of time to work on the project
I had to complete 5000 words in the morning, and if I didn't finish it in time, I would have to extend the work time. If I don't finish it in time, I have to work longer hours to finish it, for example, if I finish at 12:00, I'll finish it at 1:00 p.m., and then my lunch will be delayed, and I don't have to take a nap during this time, so I'll still have plenty of time to work every day. Lunch usually takes an hour and a half, although I have used many simple ways to save time, but with the meal time still need so long, the most important thing is that I don't want to eat too casually or not nutritious, because no matter how important and complex the work is, I don't want to simply deal with the absence of a meal, I have always felt that only enough sleep and nutritious meals can combat my huge daily I've always felt that only adequate sleep and nutritious meals can combat the tremendous amount of stress and exercise and workload I have every day. I don't want to have to improvise on the matter of food, it must be nutritious and easy to prepare, in other words, even if it takes a little bit more time to prepare the food I am also acceptable
Once a person has a goal, he or she will try to execute it by all means to accomplish it, after determining these three goals, in addition to the basic needs of the life of the cooking, the chores of cleaning and washing clothes have been left behind me. I ignored these small things because if I kept using my time to do these small things I would find that my writing and reading time would be compressed into a very short period of time and I would have to be as strict with my time management as I was with my sitting time. All chunks of time are used to do the most effective and important and meaningful things, chores become the same as the old work, is off work to take time to do things, and I am only responsible for doing my most important three things a day and cooking, which is my most important thing, everything else must be temporarily shelved and put down
So after 2 days of implementation of this method I found that this method is very good, the efficiency is also very good, and there is no word of words. The efficiency is also very high, there is no code no particular difficulty, nor do I feel particularly tired, the morning is basically code and read other people's articles, the first day because of a long time to write the sake of feeling a little bit helpless, write 2 days after the feeling is not bad. Overall very comfortable, every day on time to work on time to eat, everything is very positive energy I feel very happy
The goal of reading a book a day is also completed very well, because of the early fear that they find it too difficult to put the expectations of some of the lower, the early from not so difficult to start the book to read some simple and smooth books to train their own reading speed, the effect of the first two days is very good, generally The first two days are very good, usually after lunch in the afternoon to start reading, because the morning are writing, I also found that my attention and energy in the morning is the most abundant, sometimes even can sit for a few hours without moving, although I know that every hour it is best to get up and move the shins, but I don't want to do that, because if you do it is easy to be attracted by other things, and then the attention is taken away from the side, then you will waste a lot of time to do meaningless things. When you pick up the phone the moment you forget what you actually want to do, I found the best way is to need to write or need to read away from the phone
Whether it is writing or reading if you can finish in one breath the whole feeling is very complete, you can follow the author or the protagonist to go through the whole process, the kind of one breath to do a thing of feeling is very enjoyable, but to do it in one breath is not a good idea, but it is a good idea to do it in one breath. The feeling of finishing something in one breath is very enjoyable, but in the afternoon, perhaps because of the reason for not napping, if you eat too much at noon, you will be prone to sleepiness, so lunch is also a good suggestion, 8 minutes full is the best just right, you can eat enough to eat well and not to be very supportive, and meet the nutritional needs of the afternoon without being hungry
Afternoon reading is also very enjoyable, the most important thing is to take off the phone. The most important thing is the need to take off the phone, the phone is not on the side of the best way to write without a cell phone will not think of always going to see the phone, in the reading of books without a cell phone next to the words will not think of nothing to go to brush a brush, this period of time since I feel every day is very full and busy so there is not a lot of boredom of the time need to pass the time every day are busy with the most important things of their own will not have time to think too much about the time of the day. I don't have time to think too much about the past and the future, what's important is the best moment right now
But the only drawback is that if you waste some time looking at your phone too much in the afternoon, you'll end up playing with your phone a lot of the time until 4 o'clock when the kids are in class and give your phone to the kids before you can start to continue to work, and if you add in the fact that my husband is coming back at 5:00 o'clock or more, then my whole schedule and routine will be completely interrupted.
This makes it impossible for me to get into a quiet reading moment again, and there's a lot of interaction between the kids and Mr. I came up with some great ideas yesterday, which is to call the kids out to play when Mr. comes home, and if Mr. doesn't have anything else to do, Mr. can go play with them, and then Mr. can go play with them.
In the village security is still relatively very safe, so the children go out to play by themselves I am also very relieved, the eldest son is older can be very good care of the little treasure, the child is older also need to face the world on their own, can not always need parents at all times accompanied.
If the kids are out and the house is quiet again, I can continue to read or create, but of course I can also choose to listen to the book while doing chores, washing dishes or preparing dinner, don't look down on these moments of housework, I found that the time to do housework is also very long, no matter whether it's to wash the dishes or cook and wash the dishes, the time can be utilized at the same time, to utilize the The biggest use of listening to books is not to learn how many skills, the most important thing is that I know a lot of books, because not all the books have to buy home to read, you can listen to the first think which books are good and then go to borrow or buy
The biggest advantage of listening to books is that I know a lot of new books, a lot of psychology words and a lot of social phenomena, a lot of things when we experience When we experience a lot of things, we do not have more ideas or some overwhelmed, but when you listen to the book when you hear these will feel, oh, so ah
Life is also a good teacher, do not be afraid to face the world, to experience these things, when you experience more slowly become the protagonist of the story of their own will have more knowledge of the world, but also allows us to more The more you experience, the more you slowly become the protagonist in the story, the more you will know about the world, and the more you will be able to let us face a lot of people and things calmly, so that we are more relaxed and calm to face all kinds of bad things in life
There are times when the reading task in the afternoon because of the chores or cooking and interruptions of the time I would be in the evening after the campaign to come back to the matter done, after the campaign to come back to the reading, after the return to the home can continue to wash up the first time to go to the first time to go to the wash up, if the wash up need to queue up after the first book If you are in time to wash up, then wash up first, and then put on the mask while reading, don't look at these subtle actions and fragments, because the hand at any time by the book, I will not pay too much attention to the children how to how
More attention to their own children instead of consciously go to do a good job of their own, because there is no tightly staring at the children to complete everything, the children will not feel the whole day by the mother rushed or feel pushed by the mother. The first thing I want to do is to go back to sleep, but I have to get up, and then I will delay the whole day's arrangement. Although I get up at 7:00, I find that I still have plenty of time to prepare a nutritious and tasty breakfast, and then I put everything else on the side, and then I will start the most important work first, and then I will take care of the other matters. After dinner, I go to the river to walk, I found that when I set the most important thing I am not willing to spend time on other time, of course, I hate others to bother me to do my most important thing, walk like to listen to some music to relax yourself, nothing to think, nothing to think, just simply walk, keep moving forward, keep walking, nothing to think nothing to care, just keep moving forward, walking is really a good way to get to know the world. Just keep moving forward, walking is really a good way to exercise, will not be too tired will not feel much burden, but as long as every day to insist on exercise, will really make a person refreshed will not be tired, this is not just my own feelings, this time back home, to see the relatives of the family, especially at home more than 50 years of age, change for the better is really big, 10 years ago looks fat and fragile people. After insisting on 10 years of square dancing and climbing the mountain even feel now look younger than 10 years ago, the key is that the whole person looks particularly spiritual health and vitality,
Aunt previously very bad health, perennial need to play the injection, the air conditioning can not be blown, and at the beginning of the time, even the electric fan are not blown, but then she began to exercise, perennial four seasons in addition to wind and rain every day is 5:00 am! Get up to climb the mountain, even can adhere to 10 years, it is really very admirable thing, because not everyone can adhere to, but the movement has a benefit is the beginning of the time you will feel that it is a kind of torture, but when you adhere to the end of a period of time will find that it is a kind of enjoyment a kind of pleasure a kind of happy source, a kind of thing is that you are willing to give up the other things on the time used to do! This thing is very important to you, it will make people feel very happy and comfortable
The most important thing is that y through years of exercise has a healthy body, good physique, and before the face is really not good, because the face of the perennial body is not good is actually very ugly, not the kind of white is some kind of green. But through years of exercise after the whole person exudes vitality and once upon a time is completely different
Many people will say that every day work has been so tired, which have time to go to the movement it is simply a little bit of strength is not good, I feel the law is about not exercise will be the more you feel that the movement is very strenuous, the second thing is that you can't stay up too late, stay up too late to bring harm to people is really too big, after staying up too late, the whole person will feel that the movement is very strenuous. Too big, after staying up late the whole person's rhythm and state is completely no longer state
If both stay up late and do not exercise then the whole person's state is the kind of fat undoubtedly, fat even if, the key is the resistance is particularly bad, not move on the cold, for the former perennial cold for me, it is simply a feeling worse than death ah every time you do not move to catch a cold, a cold to be a few days to be good, every day is very tired. The first thing I'd like to say is that I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do this, but I'm sure that I'm going to be able to do this, and I'm sure that I'm going to be able to do this, and I'm sure that I'm going to be able to do this. But now I am in a superb state, daily exercise does not make me feel tired, but I found endless peace and joy in the process of walking, daily exercise is not only not tired, but is the source of my energy, because the movement is to make my whole body become more healthy and energetic, so that I will always be full of energy and confidence
Physical and mental health are complementary to each other, the health of the body to make people feel comfortable and happy, so that they will not have to worry about their own health. Let a person feel comfortable and happy mood, happy mood people can feel more comfortable and decent body, if the state of mind of the whole person's physical state will be better and better, if the body is healthy and good mood will gradually become better and better with the body, this is an integrated process.
If you are happy every day, then we bring the family to bring the children's feelings are different, when you feel happy every day when you feel good, the children will have more patience and tenderness, there are times when the mood is not good when I am expressionless, the little treasure will sometimes ask me, mom, why are you not happy? Are you angry? I said no ah, the child said you did not even smile, you look very angry look, it turns out that the child is actually very know how to look at the parents face to act people, they are very know how to read the words and colors, but lately the children have been doing very well
The main thing is that when I put more attention on myself, I feel that everything is beautiful, there is less need to complain and nagging things so The children will also feel that their mother is very happy every day, because they will not be scolded and nagging the children themselves will be very happy, so that down every day in a good and pleasant atmosphere to spend
The children need more encouragement and friendliness, rather than accusations and discipline, and the most important thing is to let the children understand that their parents love them, care about them, and care about them, but parents also have a lot of their own things to do, so that they will be happy and happy. There are a lot of things they need to do, and everyone in this world has their own meaning of existence, we need to do it alone or need to cooperate with others to complete, but more we need to complete their own autonomy and self-awareness
Can't be anything that requires an adult to guide or a teacher to urge, after all, in this life to determine the direction of our lives and dominate the direction of our lives are We ourselves, so they need to autonomy and consciously to complete a lot of things, and parents are only to assist and accompany, only to give appropriate help and appropriate advice, the most important thing is still to need the children to complete independently
When the children understand this, we no longer have a lot of differences between us, and no longer hostile to each other in a state of communication between the formation of a good relationship, no longer need to scold and shouting at each other. We formed a good communication relationship between us, no longer need to scold and loud reprimand to make the noisy children stop, they know what is meaningful things, know what is interesting and fun things
Know what life should be filled with interesting things, this state is a very perfect state, I'm very happy with the happy children and I'm very happy with the status quo
Life is a continuous process of exploration. The process of discovery. We're all in this together.