Most Chinese fathers do their duty to make their children feel the warmth of the family.
When my daughter was born, I looked forward to her growing up.
When she could sit diagonally on the north windowsill of the second floor with a spoon in her hand and look down, her chubby little face watching every car and every person on the move downstairs with nervous little eyes.
When she saw her daddy's figure appear, she would dance with joy, tapping the glass of the window with the spoon in her hand.
As happy as I was, I would sternly ask her to memorize some old poems and teach her sentence by sentence.
When she was asked to memorize the poem, she would pout and say one sentence, forgetting one sentence at that time ......
In the evening, she would ask me to grasp her little hand, and then stomped on my stomach with her little feet to go up, and when she reached my chest she flipped herself backward, with her body very flexible; my mother was often worried about spraining her fragile little arm.
But I also took after Pastor Choi Kwon at church; he used to work on his two young daughters' balance and that was it. He later went to pastor a church in Shanghai, and he loved his two little girls like babies, but not spoiled, like Eli.
I think it makes a lot of sense, at least give her a healthy and flexible body, so that she will be strong and hold on to whatever she does, and not get tired down easily.
When she was older, I took her around on my bike, in the vegetable patch, in the park.
The new 21st Century Plaza in Hunnan was very large, with many tall sculptures, and the cars on the road were not as crowded as they are now.
Each sculpture is four or five meters high, is the world's scientists, writers.
I will tell her to listen to, I do not know if she seems to remember now, when she was more than three years old ......
Daughter is a little older, to the age of elementary school, and we left our hometown of Shenyang City, to work in Changchun, she will also take her to go to school in Changchun.
Every time I have time to drag her out for a run; I remember a nursery-like park in Changchun Bailibao, I often took her to go trekking, Ma En from the university to my place of residence, to see us when we went to play with.
The park is connected to the highway with a bridge, the roadbed is built with masonry, the slope is 45 degrees, about 30 meters high, I trained her to climb up, the beginning of the dare not climb, I was behind her to protect her, and let her only up to see, after a few times, they are much steeper than the rocky slopes also dare to climb.
At that time, seven or eight years old daughter, I trained the heart of the bold, although the skin is tanned by the sun, the body is very healthy, very strong and sunshine.
Combing the short hair of the ear, and her aunt's childhood like very much, wearing a very simple, from the age across, let people marvel, it is difficult to argue who is who.
The daughter grew up day by day, long high, high school is about to graduate. From the school to learn more knowledge, also began to think independently of their own problems, but I sometimes miss the past, those happy days in the trivial small things.
A few days ago, a night, my wife and I chatting days she said:
unit comrades of a brother said: forced by his wife, had an affair, and now the two have been together for more than a year. I said: young people now treat the sacred marriage, family how can be so rash and easy betrayal!
The wife said: I did not say that the young people Oh, people are almost fifty years old ah! I'm not going to say it's a young man, but I'm going to say it is! I marveled, how could it be like this ah! Where this kind of thing must be a male change of heart to abandon their wives and children, really hate ah, this kind of man do not forgive him yo; I curry favor with looking at his wife said.
The wife glanced at me and said: not necessarily all the responsibility of the man; this thing for a long time already, so I know more or less some ground. I look forward to looking at her ......
She said: this colleague's brother married, the two often quarrel over small things, the noise of the parents of many old. But it is just endless. Her brother's work tired, often on the body oil flavor, smoke and alcohol taste heavy, do not like to take a bath, often dirty home, eat and drink after going to bed that is to sleep, do not listen to not ask any domestic affairs at home.
I looked at my wife, waiting for her to say a convincing reason for the male betrayal.
The wife continued to say: In fact, now their family conditions have been very good, there is a small two-story building, parents and his sister to help take advantage of the purchase, and to help them in the old hospital to build two houses, the woman also has a job, their daughters graduated from the university also work to earn money.
I looked at my wife and muttered: so it is to abandon his wife and daughter ah!
The wife looked at me with dissatisfaction and said: is her wife because of a quarrel, it has been a long time and he did not speak, a word? I asked tentatively. Yes not a word has been said, this woman narrow-minded to the extreme. I asked: it has been a long time without a word, how long is it, how long?
Wife decisive momentum back to me said: two years.
I wondered me, in the end, what kind of quarrel it is, more than twenty years of conjugal love is so fast gone, broken ......
Wife leisurely said to me: because that man is sentimental and righteousness, often yell at her wife, said: in his heart so-and-so friend is first! Father and mother sister wife is second, is sober, did not drink a drop of wine when said, the wife and heavily added the last sentence ......
Wife looked at me, small eyes blinking. I also so looked at my wife, I did not ask what? I wonder what this thieving bitch is thinking? Silence is golden, hey Ran ......
Three weeks later, I drove to my wife's unit to pick her up to go out to dinner. She was talking and laughing with some people in the unit. After chatting for a few moments, I realized that one of the girls had come to see her aunt and complained to her.
Listening to her, she said: her father really decided not to let her and her mother go, and he had to have another child with his woman, and her grandmother also supported her father.
It is said that curiosity kills the cat, I am still curious to ask the girl's aunt: fifty-year-old man, the woman can still have a baby?
There is not IVF! Her aunt answered me.
Now cultivate a child, to hundreds of thousands of dollars, millions of it! The girl was not a child, but a child of the family.
The girl's aunt sighed and said: they do not have any money, the brother net out of the family ah! The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty!
I was shocked ......
I looked at the girl and asked: do you love your father? No, he didn't even love me, I hated him! The girl said with wet red eyes.
I tried to persuade the girl! I tried to persuade the girl to say: think about the benefits of your father ah! For example, when you were a child, he took you to the park to play, teach you to memorize Tang poems, tell you stories of famous people ......
The girl looked at me and said: you said these, he did not once, and now he has to have a child with another woman illegally! My milk still support him ......
hey! I sighed y, secretly: habitual son as killing son, no responsibility, no culture is really terrible ah!
I was once very casual to the ten million dollar value of the morning brother said: brother, you are in such good condition, the ability to be so strong, the daughter is so smart and clever and well-behaved, and then another two children regardless of the sex, life is beyond perfect, the child grows up is not lonely, and sister-in-law has a lot of free time ......
Who knows that the morning brother but said: or let your I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get the best out of this, but I'm sure you'll be able to get the best out of this, and I'm sure you'll be able to get the best out of this.
But the truth is the truth, and the truth is the truth, and he's not Mongolian, he's not Korean, he's not Manchu, he's not ......
He's a descendant of the Chinese Han. A Chinese Han man who does not know what his father should do.
Father's love is like a mountain, like a mountain of father's love in the father to have a father's responsibility, have the responsibility of the father is a loving father.