However, people who are single can always find various angles to explain why they are single.
A few days ago, the stubborn single made it to the microblogging hot search.
The so-called stubbornly single, is that some people shouting to find objects, but never take the initiative to hook up, no special favorite, but also too lazy to accept the pursuit of other people, not to say that I would rather lack than not abused, but also not willing to compromise will be, the heart strangled in the cradle, chatting stops at the good sense. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and you'll be able to do that.
This is what the netizens call: a self-defeating single.
There is a topic on microblogging: there is no favorite person, but especially want to fall in love, what is a kind of psychology?
The netizens contributed these answers:
Well, the netizens' answers are summarized in one sentence: stubborn single people are single by their own ability, "make" very much.
How stubborn is stubborn?
It's like April Fool's Day, and there's no one to say they like you.
The one who likes does not appear, the one who appears does not like.
When it comes to why you are single, there is always a reason that there are a lot of good-looking people and too few interesting souls.
Although this is a look at the face of the times, but you have more and more understand that the face can not represent everything, can be together or to see the soul fit, you firmly believe that this point.
You once imagined a perfect love, but the reality is that you can't even reach the passing line.
I don't think I'm asking too much, but the people around me have problems here and there, so I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to get through to them.
The worst thing is that you have a good relationship with a person of the opposite sex, and you feel good about it, but when you try to find out, you realize that the person is only treating you as a brother.
Countless times I wondered if I didn't have the opposite sex, if I didn't have enough charisma, and why it seemed like all the sweet and sweet things about love had nothing to do with me.
There is no capital at first sight, and there is a lack of conditions for a long-lasting relationship.
The opportunity to meet the new opposite sex is very rare, every day at home, the company two points a line, no extra social activities, do not use dating social software, the most often go to the public place is downstairs spicy hot pot stalls and 24-hour convenience stores.
But the convenience store can not meet love, only to meet in pajamas to buy milk square dance mom.
It has always been extraordinarily follow their own rules of love, not willing to settle for, but in the heart of the hidden doubt that this is a kind of their own obsession, emotional articles read thousands of, found that the plot of the story never fall on their own body.
The acquaintance is not good to start, the stranger dare not open.
Your favorite person has not yet come, you have a good feeling of people you can not see, that person do not say riding a white horse stepping on the clouds to marry you, even sitting on the subway to see you can not do.
Sometimes I feel that my luck is not good, my looks are correct and my outlook is normal, but I can never meet a person I like, sometimes I complain that other people are blind, and sometimes I suspect that I am not good enough.
In the end, I found that the people who abided by the true love were left, and on the contrary, it was the group of people who got married and had children, and seemed to have a happy life.
You lament, what's the matter?
You lamented, "What's wrong with this?
Intermittent desire to fall in love, persistent desire to ignore people.
You talk about independence every day, with slogans like "Let me do it," "I can fix appliances," "I can carry drinking water," and "I'm going to be a young man in a new era.
Then you realize that it doesn't really matter if you're in a relationship or not. Because you don't need another person to share your life, or mood.
There's even a hidden psychology that you don't want to share and bear someone else's life either.
You'll be self-congratulatory... Cell phones not fun? Twitter did not brush enough? The game is the first in the whole service? The cat is not good to suck? The dog is not cute? The movie is finished? Finished reading novels? Did you get married? You went to graduate school? Finished making money? So many things to do, nothing to find an object to give themselves more trouble?
But once in a while when you are vulnerable, you will be frustrated to think, if you are sad to have a person with you, even if you do not have to say anything, as long as a shoulder that can be snuggled, it is very happy.
But most of the time, you are practicing vajra, and you firmly believe that getting rid of poverty is more important than getting rid of singles.
Gradually you realize that you are too lazy to accept other people's good intentions, and human interaction becomes a dispensable thing for you.
Even if there is a person who expresses a good feeling for you, you will immediately put on a "stranger do not approach" posture, not willing to understand and contact, but from the inside feel that the matter of love is a bit of a problem.
You have a good life, why do you have to find someone to intervene and disrupt the life that has been on track?
Perhaps you are afraid of being let down by your deep feelings, and also afraid of being sorry for others.
So, while thinking of a lover is quite good, and at the same time killed all the seedlings that could have been in love, so that the heart stops at the appropriate level of appreciation.
After counting, you feel that you are still not ready to fall in love.
Not ready means that you don't know what the consequences will be if you give true love, you can control your life, but not the end of the relationship.
Since the consequences are unpredictable, you'd rather not start at this moment.
Just think of him, and you're still sick to your stomach.
You may not be a maternal solo, but your last relationship ended badly.
When I was in love, the guy said, "I won't leave you unless you leave me".
You believed it, and finally realized that all the words were coaxing ghosts, and that person still left without looking back.
But you did not do anything wrong, you have been paying, you are a super sweet person, every day interesting things are willing to share with him, what words are willing to say with him, no secrets, no personality, and finally even humble to no self.
It took you a long time to come out of this, physically and mentally exhausted, you feel exhausted from the inside to the body, there is no way to plunge into a new relationship.
The thought of falling in love again means meeting new people, getting to know someone all over again, and giving again, and it makes you feel so tired.
You've had enough of waiting, and would rather be alone and bored brushing microblogging than holding your cell phone and waiting for another person's reply message.
You have had enough of being cheated on, and would rather be alone to watch idol dramas of love stories, than to listen to a person's right and left of the mouth is not true.
You have had enough of the taste of parting, would rather live alone flirting to note, but also not willing to bear again from love to not love the ups and downs.
It's true that you're no longer clinging to the loss you once had, but you still get a pang of revulsion whenever you think of that person, which causes you to simply not be able to start a new relationship mode right now.
The body is very honest, and that person you don't like, even if you force yourself to try to contact, your whole body will send out signals of resistance.
Even a shoulder ride will make you feel as sick as if you ate a fly.
You think that you might not fall in love with anyone else, and that you didn't realize that the recoil from your last relationship was so strong.
But you know in your heart that you were in love with a wolf, or a lion.
How can someone who has been protected by a wolf fall in love with a dog?
The first thing you need to know is that you have to be able to see the truth of the situation.
There was a question on Knowledge: Why do young people increasingly do not want to fall in love and get married?
There are a few high praise answer is like this:
Before the microblogging there is a hot search: the late marriage is not married to become popular. 400 million read, 70,000 discussion.
According to statistics, the national marriage rate in 2018 was only 7.2 per thousand, the lowest in 2013, and people were asking, what's wrong with this generation of young people?
There are many young people said in interviews that single is more free, single is better to find a job, material conditions are not yet allowed, do not need to find a significant other can live well on their own and so on.
The data show that the economically developed regions are not high marriage rate, Shanghai Zhejiang marriage rate is the lowest, Tibet Qinghai marriage rate is the highest, the report pointed out that the higher the cultural program, the higher the cost of living, the higher the pressure of work, the marriage rate will be low.
Several professors and experts pointed out that this is a modernist thinking, economic and personality independence is now young people are not willing to enter into marriage too early.
This corresponds to another microblogging hit last week: the surge of women buying houses in big cities. 400 million read, 80,000 discussed.
An analysis of real estate transactions on the platform found that 47.9% of buyers were women, and 74.2% of women did not receive financial support from a partner when they bought a home. 45.2% of these women received financial support from their parents, and 29% were able to buy a home entirely on their own. Single women who buy a home say they are able to feel more secure.
Now, more and more people are realizing that it's not just about being in a relationship and getting married that makes you feel secure, it's also about being independent.
What are the benefits of being independent?
I think independence can have a huge impact on a person's outlook on love.
One of the most direct effects of independence on the concept of love is that you can eat a lot, but you don't want to starve.
The most direct impact of independence on the concept of love is that you can eat more than you want, but you don't want to eat more than you want.
Some people always say it's cool to be single and free.
Some people believe that the coolest and freest time for a person is when they are living their own life without any distractions.
I don't think so.
One's freedom is when you're y aware of what you're doing and you're willing to work for it, no matter what process you're going through, no matter what stage of life you're in.
Whether you're in love or single, it's not as simple as being cool or free, it's "love, love to come or not", a bit arrogant, but it's also an attitude.
The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
This is also my attitude towards love, if you want to explain this sentence, it is eight words: come or not.
Come on, come on seriously treat it well, give true love and true intention, two people's life is always more twisted than a person, to have enough preparation.
Did not come on did not come, did not come on live their own lives, eyes waiting for love, not as much as to earn some money, only independent, will not have the luxury to make up for the lack of love from the love.
Only if you don't think about getting something else through love (such as a sense of security, a stable life, the second half of life planning, etc.), you can get closer to the essence of love.
If you have to say who is freer than who? Only this:
Not minding being single is freer than settling.
It's cool that no one can influence your life.
It's free to love like you've never been hurt before.
Love can come later, as long as it's real.