This is the fact, but how to do it? When you become a person, you are bound by others. Man is our shrinking life and the arrangement of the creator. How can we escape? Some people fantasize that they are trees, others fantasize that they are butterflies, so there is the story of Zhuang Zhou's dream butterfly; If you are not a fish, you will know the happiness of fish. But I think it is still painful to be a conscious tree, and it is still very tiring to be a conscious fish. Why? Fatigue and pain come from feeling and longing; If you are an ordinary tree, it will blossom in spring and bear fruit in Qiu Lai. You will follow the season, follow the wind and rain, neither seeking praise nor complaining about loneliness, and naturally you will be tired and bitter. However, a thoughtful tree is in jeopardy. Birds flying over it will make it follow, and white clouds floating over it will make it daydream. Rooting land is the foundation of survival, but will you get tired of standing still and producing painting land for work? The same is true for a thinking fish. ...
The creator's principle is that you are limited by who you become, otherwise you will not be born. Everyone has his own limitations. First, the limitations of birth, such as your parents, your motherland and your times, make you unable to choose. If you obey your fate, you will be more harmonious and less painful. Secondly, it is the limitation of ontology; People, like animals, are flesh and blood, and meat is made up of cells, which are extremely fragile, and it is one of human suffering. The difference between man and animals is that man has a spiritual world outside his body; However, the spirit is also limited. If we don't understand its limitations, it will be more difficult to avoid pain.
The limitation of the spirit is that it can't be seen or touched, has no body and can't be controlled; Whoever wants to control his mind is equal to the creator, but there are still lunatics in reality. For example, some evil people brainwash people, make them become their chess pieces and shells, and hand over their property and lives, but they are not controlled by others, but their spirit has been lost and replaced by desire, and people can be controlled by desire, and desire or fantasy can be controlled by others. Therefore, the ancient sages of China said that no desire is just; Therefore, Buddhism and Taoism tell us that nothing is comfortable without doing anything.
We are like a person with a heavy burden. Too many desires and fantasies are constantly increasing the burden. We already have a burden, why not add it? Naturally tired, too tired! Do addition and subtraction well in life, such as wisdom, knowledge and kindness, the more the better, because it increases internal force; Life should be more subtraction, subtraction of endless greed for wealth, subtraction of bottomless worship of power, subtraction of instinctive contempt for the weak, subtraction of all-round compassion for oneself, subtraction of dependence on one's own strength ... So fatigue will naturally weaken and disappear.
What do people live for? Isn't it just for the continuation of life and the inheritance of fire incense? What is a child? Children are the crystallization of love, the correspondent of feelings, the driving force of life and the support of life. Don't people work hard day and night for their children? Looking after children is a kind of spiritual enjoyment, can it be said that it is tiring?
Being a man is very tired. Tired life is too short and too much experience. Tired of looking back and not regretting mediocrity. How many people are happy and how many people are sad to build a coffin. Tired of worrying about survival.
Sometimes it is ok to sigh when you are in a bad mood. Everyone says life is easy. It is not easy to live.
Looking after children is very tiring, not only mentally, but also physically. When you were a child, you had to hold a dozen or twenty pounds. At the end of the day, your back hurts badly. Get older and learn to walk. It's tiring to bend over and hold hands all day. However, in this tiring process, I saw my child smiling at me for the first time, teething for the first time, toddlering for the first time, and calling my mother for the first time. I'm tired, but I'm happy, which nothing can give. He gave me hope and gave me the direction to move forward. Make life more energetic.
Working in the fields is really tiring. I have also lived in the countryside for more than 20 years. I went to harvest wheat in the field in May and got sunburned. In autumn, under the ravages of the autumn tiger, mowing grass in a closed corn field will cause heatstroke at any time. These are nothing. Think about their parents, in the era without mechanization, they still worked hard and consumed a lot of physical strength, leading to premature aging. But they, at the age of enjoying happiness, are still inseparable from the hot land over there and are still working hard. I asked them, are you tired? Of course I'm tired. However, they feel that it is also a kind of happiness to be able to protect the land and watch the crops grow. Especially during the harvest season. Land provides food, and families will not go hungry. The extra money can be exchanged for children to study and become talents. Satisfied.
In fact, there is nothing in this world that is not tiring. The key is to see how we see the problem. We sometimes envy other people's children having nannies instead of bringing them ourselves. However, many mothers still envy our own children to take care of themselves. Sometimes we envy many big bosses who earn hundreds of millions of dollars a year, but sometimes we envy us sleeping until we wake up naturally.
When we envy others, others envy us. So, have a good life. Although tired, I found happiness in it.
Are you tired? Many people give a positive answer. Tired is right. People come into this world with pain. Why?
First answer from the aspects of age and occupation.
(1) School age, mainly academic.
In the year when I was pregnant with chrysanthemum, I had already started my studies in kindergarten. As the saying goes, "there are roads in the mountains that are difficult to learn, but there are boundaries in the sea." How can a successful person not be tired of studying hard, not letting family education and extra-curricular classes, not letting teachers assign homework, not letting parents arrange various extra-curricular classes, and so on?
(2) After graduation, work is the main task.
After the average family comes out of school with a diploma, they have to earn money on their own. After entering the workplace, it is very important to invest time and energy. When a person's economic income is so low that he has to spend money on food, clothing, housing and transportation at home, mental stress comes. It is likely that colleagues are intrigued or the workload is heavy, and he always works overtime. Can his mind and body be tortured like this?
(3) Being married and putting family first.
Before you get married, you must have your own material foundation, which is not obtained through hard work. When getting married, the cost of falling in love, the money for bride price and the money for holding a wedding are not small expenses for ordinary people. In a few years, you will have to raise children and support your elderly parents. If you are an only child, you have to support the other parents, and your feelings are harmonious and everything goes well. If the other person is having an affair or the old man is unwell, you have to have your own.
(3) Retire at home and provide for the children.
When you retire at home when you are old or unwell, you must take care of your children for the younger generation. The child has a bad temper. You should worry about your children in everything. It's okay to have a pension. Without a pension, you have to put pressure on your children. If you are healthy, you can still exercise for a few years. But when you retire, the old problems will come. How can you not be tired?
Therefore, people's lives are spent in suffering, and comfort is for the dead.
From the questioner's point of view, I think modern people have a lot of fatigue.
(1) At work, I may be engaged in manual labor, getting more for more work, and being busy all day for my life; Maybe I don't like the boring work, but I can't find the direction, I'm confused about the future and I don't know how to go in the future. Perhaps it is the intrigue in the workplace or the pressure from the boss, too much workload and so on.
(2) Interpersonal communication, there is no bosom friend in the circle, and I can't get the voice of * * *, which may be because I am introverted and don't make many friends, or I am an otaku and a woman who doesn't make friends online to kill time, or I am outspoken and easy to offend people, which makes people stay at a respectful distance.
Emotionally, the bachelor crisis, there are many leftover men and women, perhaps because of the general family conditions and economic conditions, and there is still nothing at the age of marriage; Maybe married, the other party has an affair, emotional crisis or disagreement with the other party, and it is not as easy to be together as being single.
(4) In the family, since marriage, there are small responsibilities from top to bottom. Children need to be taken care of and old people need to be supported. Family expenses are also large, and children are disobedient or the elderly are unwell.
⑤ Economically, the family background is average, the economic income is not so good, the work income is low, the family expenses are large, and a series of things such as raising children and supporting families need money, and the economic income is low, which makes people worry.
I think it's because I pursue a lot of unnecessary things and consume my mind. I don't know what the meaning of living is. I live for others, not for myself. I recommend the article "superfluous and fatal" for your reference.
Redundant, fatal. -Article 62 of the Apocalypse
Xuefeng
Life without, death without, a punch, and put it down. The reason is clear. Why are you obsessed?
Zhu Xing has an article called "Gerbil's Anxiety", saying that there is a kind of gerbil in the Sahara desert, which is extremely diligent. Whenever the dry season comes, a large number of grass roots will be hoarded. The problem is that even if there are enough grass roots to get them through the dry season, gerbils still have to work hard. They still have to keep looking for grass roots, and they must bite them off and transport them back to their caves.
According to the research, a gerbil only needs two kilograms of grass roots in the whole dry season, but they have to reserve ten kilograms of grass roots, and the extra grass roots will eventually rot, and the gerbils have to clean up the rotten grass roots.
Some people have done experiments to keep gerbils in cages. Even if they are given enough food every day, gerbils will eventually die of anxiety because they can't catch grass roots and store enough food in their hearts.
From the human point of view, we know that these gerbils are stupid. Four fifths of their work is not only redundant, but also harmful. They bite off all the grass roots in the desert, making the desert more desert and less chance of survival. In order to survive, they destroy a lot of grass roots, which is called digging their own graves.
Gerbils are stupid, so what about us humans?
In recent years, I have dealt with businessmen the most. There are several businessmen around me, all millionaires. Their wealth is enough for their families to spend the rest of their lives, but they don't seem satisfied at all. They are still very diligent every day. Watching them work hard day after day and year after year, I said to myself, "Why bother!" "
There is a deputy director of the provincial finance department, who is only 36 years old this year, but because he is not satisfied, he has been insatiable. In the end, he was arrested and imprisoned. It is the heyday and the era of great achievements. For the sake of extra things, "why bother!"
After reading some websites and forums, industrious people, from science to religion, from political parties to news, are busy commenting and writing every day, obsessed and don't know what to do. "Why bother!"
Gerbils can only feel at ease if they store more grass roots than they need. Otherwise, they will be restless and even die of extreme anxiety. Even if they are "well-fed", they will be anxious, because they don't have many grass roots and there is no real threat to their survival.
Overpossession will consume resources and life. With the increase of world population and the decrease of relative resources, people increasingly want to have "redundant grassroots". This kind of psychology is aggravated and falls into a vicious circle. Even if mankind can maintain sustained and peaceful development, if the "gerbil's anxiety" psychology is not eliminated, the "grass roots" will inevitably dry up, and so will the "grass roots". What should gerbils do?
I remember that in the early 1980 s, there was a nationwide rush to buy. I'm afraid that if I don't have it today, I can't buy anything. At least I'm afraid of skyrocketing prices. This is also a kind of "gerbil psychology". Will this happen again?
It's easy to know the Tao, but it's difficult to practice it, and it's even more difficult to keep it, which is redundant and fatal. Life is limited. If we focus on possession, then we will lose many good times, and worst of all, we will lose the opportunity to sublimate our lives.
A junior, at the age of 23, began to worry about the future tuition of a one-year-old child. She wrote to me complaining that if she didn't work hard to make more money, her children's college tuition would not be solved in the future. I heard "I flew into a rage" and I said, "Why don't you live your daily life first and care about what will happen in a few years?" ? Do you know what will happen tomorrow? Will there be any changes tomorrow? Why should we put the troubles of the future on our backs in advance? Tomorrow hasn't come yet, so why die for tomorrow?
God knows the needs of human beings as a whole and individuals, and tells us through Jesus, "Don't worry about tomorrow." "First of all, you should constantly seek the kingdom of God and justice, and all these other things will be added to you." "Even if people earn the whole world, but lose their own lives, what's the good? What else can a person give in exchange for life? "
The Buddha also taught us to live in the present, to be content with the status quo and let nature take its course.
Extra, deadly, don't be a gerbil!
Why are people so tired? Because you have to work hard to survive.
Endless busyness/
Makes me feel tired/
A life of going out early and returning late/
Let me lose my freedom/
If I don't work hard/
Who fought for me/
Fall and get up again/
Tell yourself to be strong when you are hurt/
Life always makes me vicissitudes/
Reality always makes me helpless/
If I'm not brave/
Who will be strong for me?
Yes! Being a man is really tiring, but we have no choice!
Let's talk about children first. In my opinion, accompanying children to grow up is the happiest. We don't remember our childhood, but by taking care of the children, it seems that we have gone back to childhood. Do you feel very happy? And children are the crystallization of love, and love is sweeter with him. My baby is nine months old. Although she is sometimes very tired, when she hears the baby calling her mother, she instantly feels that all the tiredness is worth it. In fact, as long as you keep an optimistic and positive attitude, it will be very happy to take care of your children.
Secondly, hard work is inevitable for everyone! Everyone has different social roles and different jobs. Some people are glamorous white-collar workers. Some people are company executives; Some people are teachers of the people; Some people are out-and-out farmers ... of course, everyone will be very tired after a busy day. However, life has to go on, so just accept this kind of tiredness. Anyway, it's a happy day and an unhappy day. Why not live happily?
In short, life has abused me thousands of times, and I regard life as my first love. If you live in a different way, you will get different results.
People have a responsibility.
Thank you for inviting me! The reason why people are tired is mainly survival, responsibility and pursuit. Generally speaking, it is for the happiness and perfection of life. As long as you are tired, your life will be full because you are tired. Because you are tired, you will have hope and an enterprising life. If you are tired, you must re-examine your choice. Only by adapting one's choice to one's ability can one relax. The fatigue of life is the result of one's own choice. Respect the choice, pursue wholeheartedly, work hard, and life will be enriched and fulfilled because of fatigue.
Plan your life, plan your future, and realize your dreams. You must know how to work hard, talk about the future without action, and without fatigue, life will only degenerate. Tired is to realize the ideal, to break through the reality and realize the ideal. Tired is also committed to improving yourself. When a person is very tired, it shows that he is a person with a sense of responsibility and mission. Such fatigue will make people feel happy and happy. Don't let fatigue be an excuse to stop, let fatigue be the driving force to move forward, and at the same time learn from fatigue and experience the wisdom of life, so as to improve your ability, because life will explode and gather energy because of the extrusion of fatigue. You know, only when you are tired can you enjoy life, because the result of fatigue shows the value of life and the obligations and responsibilities in society, so let fatigue be the test of success and achievement in life. Thank you.