I think the topic of aesthetic conflict with parents has been amplified by social media. After all, aesthetic conflict is not only between parents and children, but also between men and women, designers and clients, first-tier cities and third-tier cities, and Chinese and foreigners.
Aesthetics is influenced by the living environment, educational background, life experience, personality, beliefs, culture, society and other factors.
The conflict of aesthetics is as common as I love noodles and you only love rice; however, because our daily life is often inseparable from our parents' daily life, their aesthetics will interfere with our aesthetics and life, which is why they have been brought out to spit on us. ......
↑ The differences in aesthetics between people from different countries are in stark contrast in the PS results have a sharp contrast
Suggestions:
① Please understand: It's very normal that you like different styles, and this difference is not because your parents are out-of-date, haven't seen the world, earthy, village, or vulgar ...... only because your personal experiences are very different. Your favorite Jay Chou, Xue Zhiqian, Colonel Deer, will one day become Jiang Dawei, GuoLanYing, FeiYuQing such as the representative of the times, in a few years there will be children with a face of disdain to you say: "how to still listen to such a dirt song ah, can not stand it", I think you will be able to appreciate your parents' feelings then.
② Respect for each other's private space: when you were a child *** play your pop songs when your parents do not talk too much, not necessarily because they also like, it is likely that they feel that this is the child's freedom, even if you do not like to listen to can also be tolerated. You'd better not listen to your parents in the theater, listen to red songs, listen to the square dance song when more mouth say really hard to hear, can not stand can ask them to listen to a little smaller sound, really can not tolerate each other can wear headphones. You listen to you, parents listen to parents, this is the private entertainment time of both sides.
Likewise, you just like Europe and the United States model, mom wants you to wear lace lace cap, or red flowers with green leaves "festive" clothes, that ...... you wear to her to try, and then quietly put it away! ......
3 Try to influence your parents' aesthetics: You can let them have more exposure to the beauty you recognize by buying them things that match your aesthetics and don't tilt their perceptions too much, and with the increased exposure, they'll be slowly influenced. Like a lot of girls like Barbie and princess dresses when they were young, growing up they can not stand princess dresses, at least they refused to wear it, it is not that they think that princess dresses are childish, but the aesthetic has changed, they may like to simple and generous style, may like to Korean or Mori style, and these new aesthetics, are in the process of growing up and constantly in contact with another culture and aesthetics and These new aesthetics are formed slowly through exposure to another culture and aesthetics during the process of growing up. It's no use relying on your parents to give up the aesthetics they once had, but to make the beauty you're talking about appear in their lives and be common. You bought them new clothes, they changed into them, to praise too suitable for you, look very foreign / temperament / generous / very young, etc. Everyone is more likely to accept compliments, and difficult to accept criticism.
④ Don't engage in dichotomy: men are masculine, women are feminine, mom and dad are earthy, children are fashionable, the West is advanced, China is rustic ...... Once you think of dividing up this kind of two levels and labeling various attributes to the two sides The first thing you need to do is to put on tinted glasses, and then the differences between the two sides in terms of aesthetics and concepts will be deliberately deepened by yourself. The media constantly reports on Chinese xxx, grandma's children, mom and dad's aesthetics, big mom's hobbies, all of these are similar negative labeling behavior, although it is convenient for people to understand, but it is really not conducive to people to reach each other's understanding and integration.
Like all conflict management methods, the best solution to aesthetic conflicts, which are not right or wrong, is to seek common ground and accommodate differences, and to understand each other. The Chinese are best at bridging differences, a specialty that is applied in dealing with clients, with enemies, and with foreign countries, but often forgotten to be used between loved ones. We always ask too much of our loved ones, as if they are a family, they should understand each other well enough to match each other, but in fact, each of us is an individual, whether it is personality or hobby, or aesthetics, they are all different.