And the smart people, most of them know not to be angry, not to complain, not to care.
The world is changing, life is like a dream, not entangled in the past grudges, not confused about the future of the impermanence, in order to live a clear and transparent. The first thing you need to do is to get rid of all the problems you've been having, and then you'll be able to get rid of them.
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Not angry, is a kind of wisdom
Not angry, is a kind of wisdom. This wisdom is - "Let him be angry, I am as easy as ever".
Philosopher Kant said, "To be angry is to punish oneself with the mistakes of others."
It is true that anger is to fulfill others, punishing their own stupid behavior, encountering trouble immediately angry hair, was not happy immediately on the fire of the people must be angry and angry to cover up the inner fear of the coward.
Anger is not useful except to make things worse and to make oneself more unhappy.
Yan Jingming, a university scholar in the East Chamber of the Qing Dynasty, once wrote a song titled "No Anger Song":
"I'm not angry at him for being angry at me, and I don't have any intention of being angry at him. If I get angry and fall into his trap, no one will take care of me when I get sick. I'm not sure if I'm a good person, but I'm a good person, and I'm a good person, and I'm a good person. The evils of qi are to be feared, lest one's life be wasted because of the disease. I have tasted the flavor of gas, and I am not angry."
This song tells us a very important truth: all diseases are born in the gas, not angry, is responsible for their own bodies.
There is a story in Lu Shi Chun Qiu (The Spring and Autumn Annals of Lu Shi):
In the time of Duke Zhuang of Qi, there was a samurai named Bin Bei Ju.
One night, Bin Beiju dreamed that a big man was shouting at him and spitting in his face. In anger, Bin Pei Ju woke up and never slept again, sitting alone until dawn, extremely unhappy.
The next day he said to his friends, "I was very brave when I was a child, and I have never been humiliated until I was sixty years old, but now I am being bullied in my dreams. I must find this fellow, and if I find him, so be it; if I don't find him I don't want to live."
After saying these words, he stood on the street with his friends, looking for the person who bullied him in his dream.
When he did not find them for three days in a row, Bin Pei Ju, unable to overcome his anger, returned home, drew his sword and cut his own throat.
Because he was too small in temperament, Bin Pei Ju ended up taking his own life, which is really sad and ridiculous!
However, this also tells us a fact: anger hurts, the more angry and furious, the worse the development.
Ken Lindner, a gold-medal counselor in the United States, wrote in his book, "It's Good to Hold It Back Then,"
"Most of the choices made in anger are contrary to the original intent; most of the words spoken in anger hurt others, possibly even our closest relatives."
So, for the rest of your life, please learn not to be alarmed by the chaos, learn to be happy in the chaos, learn to calm your anger in the redundancy, not to be annoyed by the annoyance, not to complain about the grievances, not to worry about the sorrows, and to resist the anger with calmness, and manipulate the emotions with rationality, and to face the unhappy things in life with the wisdom of not being angry. In this way, we can find a clean place in the world.
"Let him be furious, I am leisurely as before", not angry, is a wisdom in the world.
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Not complaining is a kind of cultivation
Not complaining is a kind of cultivation. This cultivation is - "Let him complain, I am at peace with myself."
"Xunzi - honor and disgrace" said: "Self-knowledge does not complain about people, know the fate of people do not complain about the sky. Those who blame others are poor, and those who blame Heaven have no will."
The meaning of this sentence is: people with self-knowledge don't complain about others, people who know their fate don't complain about God; people who complain about others will not be able to get out of their predicament, and people who complain about God will not be able to make progress.
Complaining is not beneficial, the boss does not need to complain all day long employees, children do not want to complain all day long parents, the other half do not have to complain all day long lover ...... complaining, to bring people around in addition to the pain is annoyed.
So, not complaining is the best positive energy.
There was a story in the book:
A large company is laying off employees, Jelly and Lucy are unfortunately on the list of dismissal, was notified to leave after a month.
Jelly went home and didn't sleep the whole night, and the next day she was very angry, and she spat out her grievances: "I've been with the company for so many years, and I'm usually very conscientious, and I don't have any merit, but I do have a lot of hard work, so why should I be fired?"
In the beginning, other colleagues sympathized with her and comforted her. But Jelly was always full of complaints, so people got annoyed. She also insinuated that she was being framed for her dismissal, and that she was looking at no one in a good light, so that everyone was afraid to run into her, and avoided her or walked around her when she came.
Not only that, Jelly also took out her complaints on her work: "Anyway, I'm only here for a month, and it's the same if I do a good job or a bad job, so I might as well do a bad job, so that the person who set me up and the boss will suffer losses."
As a result, she did a pretty bad job.
And Lucy was sad for a night after seeing her name on the firing list, but she had a very different idea from Jelly:
"Since I only have a month left, I might as well make a good impression."
She hadn't complained to anyone about her dismissal, and when people occasionally brought it up, she just said that she was incompetent and should be eliminated.
She also said goodbye to everyone: "In a few days, I'll be leaving and won't be able to **** things up with you guys anymore, so please take care."
Everyone saw how sentimental she was, and instead got closer to her, which made her feel much better. At work, Lucy believes that "a day on the job should be responsible for a day, to leave some good memories for the company, bosses and colleagues, even if I go, there will be people who will praise me and miss me."
A month soon came and went, and while Jelly left on schedule, Lucy was kept on by her boss.
The boss said, "A non-complaining, positive employee like Lucy is exactly what we need, how can we let her go?"
Complaining is an absolute weapon to hurt people and themselves, it makes people shallow, superficial and narrow-minded, makes people obsessed with their own interests and perfunctory in their work, hastily, makes people fall into self-loathing and let the boss of the slander of the heart, makes people and the company's philosophy of incompatible with their own path of development is narrower and narrower.
And not complaining is the beginning of success.
Survival is quite difficult, life is very bitter. Everyone has his or her own helplessness, troubles, regrets, pains, and sorrows, and most of us are staggering and stumbling along the muddy road of life. When you stagger, do not complain, complaining does not bring you happiness and success; when you stumble, learn to understand more, less complaining, and learn to use the attitude of not complaining to face all kinds of injustice and unpleasantness on the road of life.
"Let him complain, I am at peace with myself", do not complain, is a cultivation for people.
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Not caring, is a kind of maturity
Not caring, is a kind of maturity. This kind of maturity is - "Let him argue about the length and breadth of my own heart like the sea".
Bai Yansong in the book "white said" wrote:
"Many people's sense of failure, not from their own feelings, but other people's eyes and the current secular standards. Then the square is messed up, and then you really feel like a failure. If you don't live for other people's vision and standards, the feeling of failure will disappear for the most part in our lives. Establish and believe in your own standards, and you are already halfway there."
It is true that living in other people's eyes and counting on worldly standards is the source of life's troubles and the reason why many people do not feel happy:
Because of counting, the mouth is dissatisfied; because of counting, the heart is unhappy; because of counting, life is not happy.
And happiness does not lie in having more, but in counting less.
There is a story in the ancient Greek mythology:
There is a hero called Hercules who has great strength.
One day, Hercules was walking on a mountain road when he found a bag-like thing in the middle of the road blocking the way, so he kicked it. Instead of being kicked away, it swelled up.
Hercules was a little angry, so he stomped on it to break it, but instead of breaking it, it swelled up again.
Hercules was so angry that he picked up a thick stick and smashed it, but it doubled in size and blocked the road.
A saint passed by and hastened to say to Hercules, "My friend, leave it alone, ignore it, disregard it, and go far away from it! It is called the Bag of Hate; if you disregard it, it will be as small as it was at the beginning; if you keep it in your mind, and violate it, it will swell up, and block your way, and be hostile to you to the end!"
Don't care about it, in order to go wider and farther on the road of life.
The Zeng Guang Xian Wen has a saying, "Mindfulness is generally wrong, step back and think about everything wide."
This is indeed the case, life in the world, can not always be catty, otherwise there will be constant mistakes, difficulties.
When things are always arguing about the short and long, catty people, certainly live a very tired. Because they have to count on too much: counting on gains and losses, counting on fame and fortune, counting on pay and gain, counting on the vision of others and the world's standards ...... counting on too many people, really live too tired.
And things do not care, to tolerance, put down, understanding, contented attitude to face life on the road to gain and loss of fame and fortune, sadness and happiness, in order to harvest life on the road to the good and happy.
"Let him argue long and short, my heart wide like the sea," not to care, is to act a kind of maturity.
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Three treasures of a happy life
Three treasures of a happy life: not angry in the world, not complaining about people, and acting without caring. Because:
Not angry, is a kind of wisdom - let him angry, I since leisurely as before;
Not complaining, is a kind of cultivation - let him complain about the world, I since the peace of mind;
Not to calculate, is a kind of maturity - let him argue long and short, my heart wide like the sea.