My friend Wang often sends out some of the messages to let you like, at first I will politely reply to it, after I will no longer pay attention to it.
Her circle of friends are accumulating 50 likes, free manicure once, so-and-so florist for free, immediately collect, or regret for a lifetime and so on some of these messages, regardless of whether it is true or not, but a little bit of profit can be made will be forwarded.
Wang is my school in the clothing store part-time acquaintance, 94 years, but has been the mother of two children, the eldest are five years old.
Looking at this slightly youthful and overworked girl in front of me, it's hard to imagine that at 18 years old she was already married to a woman, and while I was torn between being called auntie or sister by the kids, she was already a mother and running around trying to make ends meet.
Small Wang and each of the store's partners have quarreled, and even hit people, usually talk to her, but also pretend to pretend to hit you posture, straight-talking, overbearing brutality, the exit will hurt, never take a loss, always for the garbage, sorting out the clothes of such small things and the people quarrel, teeth and claws look very much like the food market ahmamma.
No twenty-something girls should have or shy shy or quirky or quiet, when we discuss a particular place in the scenery is particularly good, about if there is time to travel together, she is talking about how they fight mother-in-law fight husband, when we gossip about a certain star, she asked us so-and-so is the name of that TV series?
It was obvious that she wanted to get into us, but the gap between people is there, how close you can get, the gulf will always be there, not even together.
When the boss asked us if we were after 90 actually like to listen to Zheng Yuan Chen Eason's song, she was listening to the "woman under the mountain is a tiger" this kind of square dance song, mocked me wearing casual jeans is "man" pants, with a baseball cap is a television fugitive with a hat.
Over time, her attitude towards us from friendly to rude, many times we are chatting, she will pretend to pass by, swearing that we are laughing at her, from the beginning of the fight to the later complaint, many times we are laughing and crying.
Perhaps it is too early to get married, creating her character, and the identity of the post-1990s is a bit out of place, the popular "greasy" two words, used in the body of Wang is particularly apt, the same as the post-1990s, as if she had entered the ranks of the middle-aged women in advance.
People with low self-esteem tend to value what other people think, and are sensitive and wary, wrapping themselves in thorns and attacking them as soon as they are approached by someone to cover up their low self-esteem, and they want to fit in, but are afraid that others will hurt them.
My cousin Wen Jing, a year older than me, 95 years, but because too early to drop out of school, outside has been working for many years, when I was a sister in the relationship between the two of us, is considered to be a child to play to the eldest, but now meet but nothing to talk about.
Last year when we met at New Year's Eve, my cousin said that she is now on the class for many years, I am still in school to spend money, graduated from the workplace, it would be better to go with her to work in the hot pot restaurant, maybe encounter a rich man married it, I embarrassed smile.
Looking at my cousin's scruffy, unkempt appearance, her clothes are always in flowery colors, her family always has guests during the New Year's days, and her hair doesn't get washed for a week, and her head is full of grease, so I'm afraid she's the queen of the greaseballs, and she's still hanging on to marrying a handsome man all day long.
These days with her, I was really exposed to a greasy woman.
With her to KTV singing, after a while called a bunch of friends, boys and girls piled up together to play cards, shaking the sieve blowing beer, foul language, sitting cross-legged, laughing, full of smoke and alcohol, bottles of melon skin thrown to the ground, there are some girls dressed in a revealing, while playing the side of the beeping beat jitterbugs, video of the sweet-looking look and they are like a different person.
I looked out of place among them, especially different and extremely uncomfortable.
I thought that the friends gathering is to go shopping and eat and watch a movie, but it turns out that things are like that, people are like that, the circle is different, outside the circle is more than what you do not know.
I remember when I first went to college and took the train to school, and my cousin went to an uncle's house on the way, and he said, "A girl who learns well is not as good as one who marries well, and there is a relative, who did not go to college, who was introduced to me, and now I am living in a place where it is not bad.
Yang Lan said: "Doing well is the foundation, marrying well is inevitable", I have always felt that the better the girl, the more you can encounter quality men. When you have enough learning, ability, cultivation, only to have more charm to attract and you as good as the boys.
The fact that it is said to be greasy is nothing more than an aversion we have to people who are not self-aware and self-disciplined.
So the most important thing you can do to get rid of the greasy label is to be self-disciplined and learn.
If you don't have self-discipline, you'll ruin half your life. If you want to live a refined life and be simple and refreshing, you have to put in the time and effort.
Fangfang sister is also I know in that store, and Wang, on the contrary, Fangfang sister is a particularly absorbing heart sister, the first time I met her impression is generous and sensible, makeup and dress is also very consistent with her temperament.
Later familiar with, only to know that she 91 years, unmarried, seems to be a lot of suitors, now an insurance company staff, feel bored in the office, to sell clothes in the clothing store, last year, she told me that she has always wanted to have their own clothing, the first half of this year, she opened up a clothing store of their own.
Time is long, only to find that Fangfang is really "big sister", not only good performance, personality is also too good to play, like to play, have been to a lot of places, have seen a lot of scenery, on behalf of the province to participate in the "Boys and Girls Forward" and won the crown, or a member of the Love Society. The company is also a member of the Love Society, which wakes up at six o'clock every day, goes to the insurance company to punch the clock, and then comes back to work half an hour earlier every day.
Confident, cheerful and hardworking.
After getting acquainted, I realized that Fangfang is really a big sister with a story. She went to Inner Mongolia to work alone at the age of 15, and from her appearance, she really couldn't tell that her education level was only in junior high school, and she got married and had a child at the age of 19, and then got divorced at the age of 21 because of her husband's domestic violence, and she was still being pestered by her ex-husband for three years, and she sometimes suffered insomnia because of missing her child too much at night.
She said these things lightly, as if she was telling someone else's story, I admire her attitude towards life can be so optimistic, every day smiling to customers, and she is always very happy together.
After working, I found that nothing is easy in the world of adults. Romero said: there is only one kind of heroism in the world, that is, after recognizing the truth of life, still love life.
Life is not easy, just live has been very tired, do not give yourself too much baggage, light load, perhaps you will live more comfortable.
Wherever you are, please keep the love of life, and a hard upward heart, you have to believe that you have stayed through the bitter, laugh at the blessing, will fulfill your thin twilight dawn, you want the years will give you.
Independence, bravery, strength, warmth, hard work, love
This is what a girl should be
Twenty-something, it is your best years, and I hope you still have not stopped moving forward, and I hope that the day of your departure will be a sunny day
I wish you strength, and I wish you loveliness
I wish you to move forward in your life, and don't look back.