How many confidants of the opposite sex can you have in your life?

Eileen Chang once said a very wonderful words: every man's heart has two roses: a red rose, a white rose. I think for men: he should have three female confidants. One is the White Lotus. That is the boy's first love, pure ice, beautiful as a dream. Can only be seen from afar and can not be blasphemous play. For many men, that is a youthful dream in the youth of the unattainable white lotus swaying again and again.

A red rose. That is the man's passionate love. The red hot, vibration like electricity. Not only can you embrace, but you can also kiss to your heart's content. Boys through the red rose wash, become a man. Red roses are the wine of love for mature men. One is a carnation. That's a man's wife. Warm and elegant, warm and affectionate. She is the driving force of the man's struggle, is the man's mind *, is the return of the man's harbor. She is a man's second mother. Men's nature are children. And carnation will smile and condone his naughty and patiently waiting for him to play when tired to go home. So, a man's life growth, he will be secretly in love with a white lotus, he will be passionately in love with a red rose, but he will choose a branch of carnation to **** degree of life. White lotus is not suitable for *** with the life, because she is so extraordinary, not eat earthly fire. Red roses can stimulate a man's desire to conquer and secretion of testosterone, but to live with a real passion for red roses, many men do not have such confidence, because he will be worried that either lead to fire, or the fish pond. What many men need is a wife who is as warm and forgiving as a carnation. However, if you are a lucky enough man, you have the opportunity to meet the white lotus of your dreams, and then let her turn into a red rose, and finally evolved into a carnation. For a woman, you should meet three male confidants in your life. One who watches you from afar. It should be a man who is secretly in love with you, who always pays attention to you from afar, who always cares about your trivial things, and when he meets you five or ten years later, he can actually tell you about that year, that summer, the dress you wore with the blue flowers, and the smile on your young face in the sunshine, as if nothing had happened. Think about what you have been feeling every day is so bland as water, but there is a person will be about your point by point silent collection, quietly brewing, until the bland water into a wine, and years later you just inadvertently open the cap to smell the richness of the fragrance. A woman's life, if you have not tasted this kind of silent crush by people, that is how regrettable. One is used to be bullied by you. But the object of your bullying was originally also proud. But you in the name of love but easily captured him, so he became your brave guards and loyal servants, so he sent you home in the dark, in the heat of the day to buy ice cream for you, at the ball he was eyeing afraid of even as a servant, afraid of losing this humble occupation. Your smile is the most important thing to him, your sigh can cut his heart to pieces. Your eyes are his compass, and your heart is the treasure he seeks. How tasty it would be if you didn't have such a dominating moment in your life. There's another one who's come to take you back. Before the first, you were a god; before the second, a queen; and before this third, a humble servant girl. At first you resisted, you struggled, you did not want to be conquered and captured and recovered, and you were never willing to surrender and submit, but gradually, just as the little prince tamed the proud fox, you were tamed, you were willingly occupied by him in your heart, and you were dead set on him as king.