01
Love to learn
Love to learn the woman never give up their own, the courage to pursue their own love. Love of new things, and will not be inferior to not, always keep an open mind to learn, to enrich themselves.
They may choose to read, may choose to travel.
Reading or traveling, the body and soul always have to be on the road.
The love of learning makes them broaden their horizons, increase their knowledge, and change their inherent way of thinking, open themselves up and see different wonderful things!
Because of the love of learning, their own ability is getting stronger and stronger.
Because of the love of learning, their own ability is getting stronger and stronger.
02
Believe in yourself
Confident girls can absolutely believe in themselves, believe in what they do.
Maybe the thing isn't as good as the public thinks it is, maybe it's flawed, it's not good enough, but so what! In your mind it is the best.
When you feel difficult to do something, you have to tell yourself in your mind, I will be able to do it, I will be able to do it. This kind of psychological implication will make you really believe in yourself, rely on yourself, and thus because of the inner burst of power will help you really do this thing.
When you want to do something you tell everyone, but everyone keeps questioning and doubting you, thinking that what you want to do has too many flaws and can't possibly succeed!
Don't be afraid, you just have to be firm, immensely firm in your thoughts, do it seriously, and don't pay any attention to anything, and I'm sure the result will be something you'll be happy with.
03
Have an incomparably strong heart
Everyone will encounter setbacks in their lives, and different attitudes to face setbacks will produce different results. Optimistic people, her ideas are positive, and pessimistic people ideas are not work is not right, deny themselves.
So the optimistic person will get a good result because of the upward thinking that drives his behavior in a good direction. The pessimist denies himself from the beginning, and when he acts, he has no more passion and surrenders directly!
I have always loved the saying, "What doesn't kill you will make you strong. A confident person is one who believes in himself/herself in his/her heart and can't bring himself/herself down no matter what!
Napoleon said there are only two kinds of weapons in the world, the most powerful one is the sword and the gun, one is the thought, and in the long run, the thought is always going to win over the sword and the gun.
And this idea refers to a strong heart!
Only to be defeated, but never defeated!
04
Soft-spoken and elegant
It is said that the truly capable people are never modest and polite, because they are calm inside.
Confident women, the whole body is permeated with a charm that people can not remove their eyes! Talking with them is like a breeze, watching them act as if they were looking at a beautiful landscape, such a woman, so that they are comfortable, but also comfortable for others!
And Zhao Yazhi is such a woman, in the "New White Lady Legend" by her role in the White Lady beautiful and gentle, treating people kindly, and talking to people is also pleasant, not angry.
Such a woman can not be separated from their own strict requirements for themselves, but also because they are good and beautiful, have a good heart!
Confident woman is a treasure, you can dig from the inside to a steady stream of treasures, she can give you a surprise, let you excited, let you marvel!
A confident woman exudes confidence and is welcomed everywhere and loved by all. May we all be a confident woman, beautiful, generous and intelligent.
The most confident woman I've ever met is my second sister-in-law, who is almost sixty this year, shorter and uglier than when she was young, but every time I see her, I feel that my bones are all strong, and my days are especially promising!
When my parents went away, leaving me and my two brothers, my elder brother joined the army and demobilized into a machinery factory work, married his workmates, almost rarely go home, the second brother originally went to high school, learning quite good, but in order to take care of me, he had to drop out of school to go home, and take up the heavy burden of life.
My second wife is my second brother's classmate, she should like my second brother when he was in school, I think, after my second brother dropped out of school, she also dropped out of school, but also trust people to my home to propose marriage.
My second brother of course did not agree, one because of my family at that time that situation, is not the time to talk about marriage, two is my second sister-in-law is really too ugly, and my second brother stood together, the top of the head is only up to the position of his shoulders, and a four-sided face full of freckles, the eyes squinted into a slit, you can not see whether she is open or closed eyes! You can't tell if her eyes are open or closed!
At that time, there were no elders in my family, and the matchmakers came directly to my second brother to talk about this matter, and my second brother was rarely shy and red, and he continued to work while shaking his head like a wave drum!
Shake the matchmaker are anxious, said your family is now this way, your sister a pair of shoes are no one to do, you a person how to manage it? I'm not sure if you're going to be able to do this, but I'm sure you're going to be able to do it!
Then the matchmaker got angry and left, but not long after, my sister-in-law came to my door and asked me why I didn't agree. My second brother was working with his head down, and I don't know if it was because he was embarrassed or what, but he didn't even look at my second sister-in-law, and he just said, "Chen Hongjuan, stop it, I'm still busy!
My second wife was not awkward at all, grabbing the shovel in my brother's hand, and neatly patting the piles of chicken manure in front of her, loading the baskets, while loading them, she said to my second brother:
"I know you think I'm ugly, and that you're educated, and that I'm not, but what can I do with being pretty? I don't know what to do, but I don't know what to do. The life is not based on culture, based on strength, you are not as strong as me!"
I remember this scene very clearly, because I was sitting in the light under the eaves, climbing on an old chair to write homework, then small, the scene in front of me could not help but giggle, my second sister-in-law turned back to clean me up and said: "What's so funny? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
Anyway, that day, no matter what my sister-in-law said, my brother just did not nod, my brother did not nod, my sister-in-law will not go, my brother later some of the annoyance, ignore her, she does not mind, full of yard looking for work to do, after the drying and also nimble feet into the house for my brother and I did a pot of soup noodle sheet, although only a few fried garlic cloves and a small piece of white radish, but it is really quite fragrant.
After dinner, it was almost dark, and my sister-in-law didn't want to leave, so she packed up the dishes and followed my brother inside and out, and had to force him to say something, which he didn't say, and then she got upset, and his father pawed at my house, and my sister-in-law ran away.
The next day, he ran to my house again, and this time, no matter what she said, my brother did not say a word, just focusing on the work, and then simply pick the wicker basket to go to the field, My sister-in-law did not care, he was at home with him in the work, and he went down to the field, my sister-in-law to watch me write homework, cooking for me to eat.
This is the first time I've ever seen a woman with a child's face in a house, and I've never seen one.
She came to my house every once in a while and didn't care whether my brother cared about her or not, she just worked and cooked and washed clothes, and when she felt that her father was coming after her, she ran away.
I was a little bit in love with my second wife, but my second brother has not been talking to her.
My second brother's eyes lit up when he heard about this much money, but when he looked at me, the light in his eyes dimmed again. I told the introducer that I couldn't go, and that my sister had no one to take care of her.
As a result, I don't know how this was known by my sister-in-law, she came home every other day, and directly told my second brother that Liu Yongqiang, you go to the city to make a living, your sister I manage.
My second brother did not say anything, boring head chopping wood, but this time his hand movement is much slower, should be in the search for feasibility, my second sister-in-law stared straight at him.
Then my second brother stopped, wiped the sweat on his forehead, and said, "My family is so poor, can your father agree to you and me not?"
The second sister-in-law immediately smiled when she heard this, and her eyes curved like two threads, saying: "I have the final say in my matter, the worst thing is that he will beat me to death, and it's worth it to me for you, so remember to burn me a couple of sheets of paper when you get there."
Originally, my second brother was still taut and serious, but once he heard this, he even laughed.
Then my second brother and my second wife's business really came to pass, they will be less than the age, can not get a marriage license, just in the home is very simple to set up two tables even if the marriage, it is said to set up the money or my second wife to find her brother and sister borrowed, but also until later I know, my second wife lied to her family that she is pregnant with my second brother's child, and then I'm not getting married, and I'm throwing people out of the house when my belly gets big.
Her mom and dad are good at face-saving, plus later by people and, although my family is poor, but my brother is a talented man, but also some culture, looks tall and big, so my sister-in-law's father agreed to, and then said the bride price, my sister-in-law and her father said the bride price, you don't want to think about it, and his family surely can't take it, I'm going to make money later to pay you back, but can't afford to pay you back one year a quintal of grain.
The second sister-in-law her father said that the dowry is not, the second sister-in-law said, and then came to the day only with her usual clothes and her own bed quilt, although embarrassing, but the second sister-in-law hobby, or to find someone to borrow the money, bought a piece of red cloth to the old clothes wrapped in the inside, quilt, but also pulled the cloth to make a new quilt cover, the outside looked exactly the same as the new one.
But after all, the situation is special, two brothers and two sisters-in-law can not speak like the side of the show, hill country wedding was simple, and they are also simple to the point that can not be simple again, it is our family with the money borrowed by the second sister-in-law set up a few tables of banquets, the second sister-in-law side of the few cousins and sister-in-law to send over the package is the second sister-in-law to mention the quilt is her nephew holding the.
This is the first time I've ever seen a woman in the world who has been in the same boat as me, and I've never seen her in the same boat.
So the second sister-in-law married over, the second brother can rest assured that the city of work, in order not to delay the opportunity, the third day after their marriage, my brother hit the baggage into the city, leaving the second sister-in-law in the home to do farm work, do housework, look after me to go to school.
My sister-in-law was 18 years old at the time, and I was 7 years old.
The second sister-in-law is a cheerful person, at that time the family was so poor that my brother often looked at the dilapidated courtyard and house with a sad face, but the second sister-in-law is not, she sings and goes out and comes in every day, although the family is poor, but she cleaned the house, and even the floor of the toilet is swept to the bright and shiny!
Daily only a little food, my sister-in-law can find ways to change the pattern to do me, but also comb me a variety of hairstyles, to the change of the season when there is no clothes to wear, my sister-in-law to her clothes to me to change the sewing let me wear, at that time also happy happy.
My brother stayed in the city, about two or three months before he came back, it was winter, the construction site is closed, he said that the boss is very black, everywhere deductions, the rice is sold expensive, only saved two hundred all to the second sister-in-law.
The first time I saw this, I was in the middle of a long journey, and it was a long time ago that I was in the middle of a long journey, and it was a long time ago that I was in the middle of a long journey, and it was a long time ago that I was in the middle of a long journey, and it was a long time ago that I was in the middle of a long journey, and it was a long time ago that I was in the middle of a long journey.
My brother, who has a long history of sewing, said, "I don't know what to do, but I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do it. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and then you can get your hands on some of the most popular ones! My second wife just put away the needle, glanced at my brother, said pay it back, why are you sighing? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
My brother said not to worry about what to do? I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on a new product, but I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good deal on a new product! I'm not sure how much I'm going to be able to get out of this one, but I'm sure I'm going to be able to get out of this one. Then she only my side of the debt owed some pay back, her brother and sister-in-law's side of a point did not pay back, but also use the money to pull cloth to me and my brother to do a new clothes, and buy meat and vegetables in the New Year.
My brother knew some angry, said not to pay the money to go to the New Year's Eve more shameful? My second sister-in-law said this year did not pay does not mean that the next year does not pay, borrowing them, and not steal them, what good shame?
Then the second year of the year or with me and my brother back to her home, the village to recognize the people all the way to some of the finger pointing, my second sister-in-law all the way to yell, said sister-in-law sister's, behind the tree to say what, out of the say, let us also listen to the happy!
Some people pointed to her stomach and said she was still pregnant. I'm not going to be able to do that," he said!
All in all, after my parents left, my sister-in-law's arrival made our home feel like a home again, but it's hard to change the situation of poverty, and my brother would worry all day long, but my sister-in-law took me to eat and drink, and she was happy every day. My second brother asked her, "Don't you know how to worry? I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that, but I'm sure I'll be able to do it," he said!
Later, almost New Year's Eve, my brother went to the construction site, my sister-in-law began to busy spring sowing, as well as winter wheat fertilization work, in fact, she had not specifically done these, at home, are her father open, they follow the back of the miscellaneous, this time to my home, my brother and not, everything will have to my sister-in-law personally.
Some of the things she doesn't know, I asked my sister-in-law how to do it. I'm not sure what I'm talking about, but I'm not sure what I'm talking about. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do that!
I said you can learn not? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do that! So then my sister-in-law helped me to help the family, while helping me to learn from the masters, and then I barely finished planting my family's land, and she was so tired that she crawled on the kang.
In those years, my brother and sister-in-law really suffered a lot. My brother was moving bricks and cement on a construction site in the city, and my sister-in-law was busy with her farm work at home. My brother was not in very good shape, and always felt very desperate, but my sister-in-law was very confident, and she most often told us that there are people, as long as you are willing to work, everything can be!
My brother and sister-in-law suffered four or five years, the days a little better, my little nephew was born. The first time I saw this, I had to go to school, and I had a lot of work to do at home, so it wasn't as convenient as it used to be for my brother to go to the city, but my sister-in-law said it was fine, and that it was fine for her to bring up the kids while she was doing the work, so it was absolutely fine!
My brother said that the baby is so small, how can I bring it to work? I'm not sure how much I'm going to be able to do, but I'm sure I'll be able to find a way to make it work for me. The first thing I did was to get my hands on an old bed sheet and sew it on, and when I went to school and she went to the field, she wrapped my little nephew in a bed sheet and put it in a backpack on her back.
That has been very bitter, so I always go home as soon as possible after school to help my sister-in-law, but the farm season could have rested, but she did not, see the village women will sewing machine, to the outside embroidery factory to receive embroidery work, a 50 cents, to embroider a watermelon big a pattern, the second sister-in-law also want to embroider.
I said we don't even have a sewing machine at home, and you don't know how to embroider! The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new one.
They're not the only ones who can't get a good deal on a sewing machine, but they're the only ones who can get a good deal on a sewing machine," he said.
What I remember most about those two years is the sound of the sewing machine at home, and my sister-in-law's singing along with it, as well as the sound of my little nephew babbling.
I remember that the power supply was unstable, and there were often blackouts, so my sister-in-law had to work with a kerosene lamp at night while the children slept, which was not a problem for those who were smart enough to do it, but for my sister-in-law, who was usually better at farm work, it was really quite difficult!
But the second sister-in-law eventually persevered, with 50 cents and 50 cents of income not only to pay off the hundred dollars of the sewing machine money, and then has been using the money to subsidize the family, to buy me some books and stationery and so on, the money, although not much, but for the family, but it is a trickle of nourishment for those poor days and months!
Just brother and sister-in-law, although they have been working hard, the family's days are much better than before, but it is not very generous, because the village should be refurbished house are built, we also bit the bullet and built a new house, in addition to the little nephew long up to go to school, I went to college spending is also quite a lot.
I remember that will often think of my brother and sister-in-law's hard work, I will be very self-conscious, but the second sister-in-law wrote me a letter is always saying that they are very good, so that I go to school, money matters do not want me to worry about!
And I do not know is that the beginning of the sophomore year I just went to school to report, my brother was injured in the construction site leg fracture, and then hit the steel plate, the doctor said to rest for a year.
Then we will build a house accounts are not finished, my monthly living expenses to brother and sister-in-law are a big expense, but sister-in-law did not tell me these, but she secretly with the teacher to learn the art of learning the art of pasta.
Because of the distance from my home about two kilometers away from a town, the town sells breakfast business is good, the second sister-in-law and then can not find a way to make money, so go to the county town to give people free work, learn some pasta craft, come back to push the cart every day to go to the town to sell some oil cakes, doughnuts, and water fried buns these.
But these things are also the first half of the day's trading, that will be the little nephew in the village school, has been very provincial, my second sister-in-law do not want to be idle after half a day, and then with her family door in an uncle to learn shoe repair repair bicycle.
This work was not originally a woman to do, her uncle did not teach her, she was soft to run to the others stalls, and then my sister-in-law her father knew, the old man would be old, training my sister-in-law said that at that time you do not allow you to marry, you want to marry, and now you know the bitter? I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that!
My sister-in-law laughed and said she didn't feel bitter at all, and felt quite sweet! The first thing I'd like to say is that I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do this, but I'm sure I'm going to be able to do it," he said.
To be honest, I now feel that my sister-in-law life really quite two, nothing can scare her, and nothing can be difficult to hold her, when my brother was sick and rested for a year, she sold breakfast in the morning, closing the stalls to gnaw on a couple of dry buns, and then continue to repair shoes and repair the car's stall.
My brother sometimes limped and jumped to her to send a bowl of hot soup, she was a long way from the scolding, scolding the side of the soup with a smile and took the soup, and then stomped on her old unlike the second-hand tricycle and then sent my brother back.
My brother was forced to take a break for a year or two, and my sister-in-law, like a man, held up the home, never goaded, never afraid, and never gave in! The most important thing to remember is the fact that you have a lot of money to spend on your own, and you can't afford to spend it all on your own!
Now our days are much, much better, I graduated that year after the allocation of work, stayed in the city to become a family, my little nephew last year also got into the graduate school, the second brother early to do the site of the camp life, and the second sister-in-law in the town opened a waste of store, the second sister-in-law pain in the second brother earlier outside the next bitter, so the usual business are two sister-in-law to open up.
Every time I go back, wearing a pair of overalls, my sister-in-law is a gray face or even the appearance of the hair, I will tease her, said don't touch me, it's too ugly! My second wife's eyes smiled into two lines, said don't look at me like this, a moment after dinner and changed clothes, I also go to the small square to lead the dance!
Speaking of the second sister-in-law to lead the dance, really a very inspirational joke, it was a better day after I worked outside, my little nephew is also outside the high school, the second sister-in-law every day after the busy nothing to do, to see around the surrounding villages have their own group of square dance team, and there are some of the town, like the second sister-in-law of the same women, after dinner, idle, and would like to dance, and no one to lead the dance, organization, and the second sister-in-law to lead the dance. The company is not organized.
My second wife volunteered to learn how to lead the dance! I bet you five hundred dollars!
My sister-in-law said, "I'm sure you can do it. The second brother said hmmm!
Then my sister-in-law really learned, although the drums like into the backyard to drive chickens, but at least the arms and legs can move to the point!
This is the first time I've seen a woman's voice in my life, and I've seen it in my life, and I've seen it in my life, and I've seen it in my life, and I've seen it in my life, and I've seen it in my life, and I've seen it in my life, and I've seen it in my life!
The second sister-in-law is very ordinary, and very common, and even really short and ugly, her life with other people's eyes, and did not become a big thing, but in my eyes, she is like a lighthouse, like a torch, but also like a mother!
I later married into the city, but it is also an ordinary family, the pressure of life, the contradiction between husband and wife can not hide away, every time the mood is not good, aggrieved or feel haggard, I want to go home.
Even if I go back every time and pretend that there is nothing wrong, but the second sister-in-law can see it, she always smiled and said to me, there is food and drink worry what?
Don't worry, there are people, everything can be!
It is also such an unheard of sister-in-law, sweet and bitter taste, but always look up a confident face, what difficulties can not defeat her, smile on the black face reveals white teeth, so that you no matter how depressed, see her that glance, all the confusion can be disappeared, the life of the hot and spicy soup, but also can always come to the face, so you feel that all the bones are strength, life is very exciting! The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do that!
A few days ago, I went home again, the second sister-in-law's birthday, I bought a necklace to her, with a necklace when I said how I love you? She looked disdainful and said eek eek eek eek, disgusting!
But I know, she said so on the mouth, the heart is also like I love her, fervently love us that home, everyone!
One of the most confident women I've ever met, she really blew me away!
One day at noon, my friend and I were eating at a restaurant down the street. When we were eating, we saw 5 or 6 young men in their early 30s walk in with a big grin, sit down around a table, and then ask the boss to serve them. According to the dress, they should be mixed social, but from their staggering talk, it seems to be not long out of the road.
The waitress came over with a pen and a small book and asked them what they wanted to eat. One of them waved his hand and said: "What's the point? What's good to eat, just bring it up." The words show the unbeatable appearance.
The waitress was at a loss for words, so she went to the inner room. A moment out of a 40-year-old young woman, she stood at the front desk at the group looked, very calmly from the small book to tear off a piece of paper, pick up a pen and write something on it, and then handed over to the waitress, very sweetly said: "Just do it!" Said then sat down at the front desk.
will not be children, seven or eight dishes on the table, I looked over, found that there are green pepper shredded pork, braised carp, hot fat intestines, back to the meat, red oil ear piece, three fresh soup, etc., but also on the two bottles of white wine. One of them "bang" will open the bottle of wine, to the accomplices and their own one by one poured, I do not know who is the boss, only to hear them say in unison: "dry!" They picked up the cup and drank it all, that gesture always gives people a sense of banditry. My friends and I vaguely feel that I'm afraid that something is going to happen, but look at the lady boss is still sitting there calmly counting, just raise your eyes from time to time to look at the gang.
About 40 to 50 minutes, the group of people will be a table to eat clean, have to get up and intend to leave. At this time, the female boss walked over, smilingly said: "Eat still satisfied, right? A **** 350 yuan." That group of people should hear clearly, but one two pretend to droop, regardless of the door towards the outside.
"Stop!" Just heard the female boss roar, the group involuntarily turned around, one of them said in a conspiratorial manner: "is not just a meal money? What's the big deal? I'll pay for it in a couple of days."
The lady boss walked over to the man and said: "I am really sorry, the store is small, never on credit, so I have to trouble you to settle the bill now." Pi, her face became cold, two faces staring straight at each other.
"So, the boss is not going to give me this face?" That young man still continued to play tricks. Next to the accomplices also cursed and helped the cavity, there are two also borrowed money like crazy on the table porcelain bowl heavily slammed on the ground. The waitress froze in fear, my friend and I are sweating for the female boss.
But the female boss was not slow, soft with a hard to say: "I hope that brothers more sympathetic to my difficulties, do not force me again. Otherwise, the whole thing out of something, everyone face is not good."
The young man continued to say: "I do not pay the bill today, you put me what to do?" He said that he also stretched out his hand to juggle the earrings of the female boss.
"Snap!" Just heard a crisp sound, the boy then solidly received her slap. Then the lady boss from the back of a brightly shining kitchen knife, "thud" sound inserted on the table, said: "To tell you the truth, I dare to earn money in the jianghu, naturally have my bottom. You guys have to go through with me today, fine! You go, I will never stop. But in the future, if you have a long or short, you have to bear the wear."
The group froze for a few minutes, and then you look at me, I look at you, and finally someone took out 350 yuan and slammed it on the table, and then three or two slipped out.
The lady boss put away the money and went to work on her business, as if nothing had ever happened.