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Recently, I stumbled upon a video interview with Huang Bo on Shake Shack, which caught fire.
He said, "In the past, I always met all kinds of people, all kinds of careful ah, all kinds of whatever. After going there, you can't settle the bill, who cares about you? But now (famous), surrounded by good people, every one of them is full of smiling faces.
Mr. Huang Mr. Huang, are you tired, rest a while. Mr. Huang, what do you want to eat, what do you want to drink, I will get you something? Mr. Huang, you are too hard.
In the past, hard work is this line, who let you come, who told you to come?"
It turns out that when it's weak, the bad guys are really the most.
Huang Bo this cloudy a few words, out of a simple truth:
When you are strong, the whole world will be on your face;
And when you are the weakest, the bullies are the most, and it is easy to be aggrieved.
When you are strong, the world is gentle and kind to you.
When you are weak, you meet the most bad people and are most likely to be aggrieved and go around.
This sounds very utilitarian and realistic, but it is a law that has always been followed by this society.
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Why did Huang Bo say such a bitter, yet ****ing thing?
Because that's what he did before he became famous.
He sang 7 years of song hall, during which he also worked as a dance teacher, opened a factory, toy store, has a wealth of experience in the bottom.
In the concert halls, there are emergencies every day, a lot of triad society and idle people mixed in, drunkenness, fighting, and all sorts of things.
Once, Huang Bo just sang a song, those below the big brothers began to coax "go down, go down, quickly roll ......".
In the face of this situation, the average person would have collapsed, feeling that they have been greatly insulted, and fled.
Huang Bo is also very embarrassed, life is forced, he can not really go down ah, go down can not get money.
Then what did he do?
First took the initiative to go down a step, and then said, "Okay, then I really came down Oh, next I bring you a song "like me are good luck"!"
We always say Huang Bo high emotional intelligence, in fact, there is no high emotional intelligence, are in front of those hooligans, punks, perennial learned.
He once laughed and teased, "East and West, South and North China, four places of hooligans how to bully people I can learn. Because art comes from life, I have experienced too many things like this."
Often after singing, people suddenly do not give money, forcing you to drink there all the time, always say good words to beg him.
Because you are weak, bullying you at no cost.
Such a situation, until Huang Bo 27 years old enrolled in film school, still did not end.
Because the external conditions are not good, a classmate said to him directly, "Even Huang Bo can take the film school, admission requirements must be how low?"
When acting, he played the role of a robber in Taste of Love.
On his first day on the set, the assistant director asked, "Robbers, have the robbers arrived?" Huang Bo immediately went over, "Yes, I am."
As a result, the assistant director looked around and was directly angry, "Who told you to come, this is not nonsense? How can you go on camera with this look, when you are an actor, you are also worthy of it?"
At that moment, he felt a great insult.
From the bar, to the university, and then into the acting circle, Huang Bo met too many bad people.
It wasn't until later that Huang Bo won the Golden Horse Awards in Taiwan and the Shanghai International Film Festival for Bullfight and Under the Ice, and starred in Journey to the West. Subduing the Devil", "101 Proposals", "Cooks, Players and Gangsters", "No Man's Land" and "Heart of the Flower", and won the title of 5 billion box office movie star.
As a result, those who called Huang Bo "ugly" changed their minds and praised him for his recognizable face, which is a guarantee of box office, and even said that he is a generation of "harmonic star" after Ge You.
Nowadays, Huang Bo meets good people, people who praise him, respect him, and admire him.
This makes people sigh with emotion, often, it is not the society is too bad, but you are too weak, anyone can step on you, anyone can order you.
And when you become strong, others can truly respect you.
Know that it's not the world itself that's bad, it's where you are that has the most bad people.
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Hong Kong's "Poor Rich Battle" is a program that we all know, in short, the rich go to experience the life of the poor, and change some of their previous views.
Eric is a rich man in Hong Kong, before joining the program, he had friends to play golf with him, and beautiful women to party with him on the yacht.
His world is very beautiful, people around him are either rich or rich, very educated, and everyone is very nice to him.
Later, after joining the show, he took 15 dollars a day to experience the life of a hobo, and he saw the blank stares of others.
In order to survive, he went around looking for a job, but the bosses rejected him.
After asking a few, someone was finally willing to give him a job as a delivery boy, earning $25 an hour. Eric worked very hard to deliver the food and did a great job, but just after 5 hours, he was fired, without any reason.
He had never been treated like this before, and Eric couldn't help but shed bitter tears in the face of such a blow.
The next day, he got a job helping people carry newspapers and finally made 10 dollars.
After a hard day's work, he is so tired that he just wants to sleep, but when he is ready to go back to his home to rest, he realizes that his "home" by the side of the road has been torn down, and the cardboard he sleeps on has been picked up.
He was devastated.
At this point, he finally realized that his life was so good before, because of his status, his family's economic strength, but when he became a weak bum, the world was different for him.
Bullied when he was weak, he finally realized how cruel the world of the poor really is.
Why is it that when people are weak, they are more likely to meet bad people?
There's a theory in criminology called the Broken Window Effect.
Philip, a Stanford psychologist, conducted an experiment in which he got two identical cars and parked one in a middle-class California neighborhood and the other in the cluttered Bronx, New York.
The one parked in the Bronx had its license plate removed and its top opened, only to be stolen the same day. The one in California was safe and sound for a week.
Then Phillip cracked the window of that car with a hammer, only to have it disappear just a few hours later.
A broken hole in a car window attracts bad people.
How is this not true of people?
When you're weak, like a broken window, the bad guy catches wind of it and throws rocks at you randomly and without apology.
He smells your weakness from thousands of miles away, you're defenseless, and the cost of hurting you is minimal, so they flock to you.
Marina, the Italian performance artist, once did a famous game of human nature testing on the streets.
She took to the streets, anesthetized herself, and then handed herself over to a group of unidentified people to do with as they pleased, signing an instrument absolving the participants of all legal responsibility.
In other words, he can do whatever he wants to her without liability.
At first, those in the audience were just embarrassed at first, just looking.
But after the first guy fiddled with Marina and she didn't react, the people who joined in slowly grew, smearing her face with lipstick and pouring water on her ......
Then, later on, someone cut her dress open, fondled her breasts and molested her, and someone took a knife and cut her skin. blood flowed out, and someone took nude pictures of her and shoved them back into her hands.
Even more outrageous, however, was a man who pointed a loaded gun at Marina, and who would have succeeded if someone hadn't stopped him.
After being stopped, the assailant was still saying: she signed a legal document, she did it voluntarily.
You see, human nature can be so evil.
If you are so weak that even the law can't protect you, and you don't have to pay for your life if you kill you, then you are in extreme danger, and everyone you meet is a bad person.
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On top of that, the environment and the people you meet when you're weak and when you're strong, are completely different.
I remember a few years ago, I just graduated from college, not much money, in Changsha, near Wuyi Square, when I rented a room, that time to rent a cheapest low-cost housing are 500 yuan.
At that time, I lived in the village, is a mixed place, very dilapidated, drug addicts have, vendors have, all kinds of people.
I parked my electric car outside, and when I went to look at it the next morning, the charging plug was still there, but the car was stolen.
Because of the inconvenience of not having a car, I bought a second-hand one, but it was still stolen, and I had 4 stolen in a row that year, and it was useless to call the police because there was no surveillance at all in the neighborhood.
When I go to bed at night, my house is patronized by thieves because there is no access control downstairs and anyone can come in.
So every night, I block the table and cabinet at the entry door, and double-check before I go to bed.
According to an older woman downstairs, the person who used to come out here and steal things was a perennial drug addict.
Do you know what it's like to live in such an environment?
It's completely insecure, in the sense that your life is already bad, and you have to be on guard against different people bullying you, and you're surrounded by bad people.
Later, I bought a car and a house on my own and changed to a new environment.
In my neighborhood, there is surveillance everywhere, and the security work is not bad, I really never lost anything.
And the people around me changed. My next-door neighbors were a painter and a teacher, and I would ask them for advice on any problems they had.
During the daytime in and out, we greeted each other with smiles and enthusiasm on our faces, and at night, we were in the neighborhood owners' group, chatting together.
At that moment I y understood that it was not this society that had changed, but that I had become strong.
I am not here to disparage the low-cost housing, where there are good people and bad people, but I want to say that there is monitoring, security neighborhoods than no monitoring, mixed neighborhoods, the probability of encountering bad people is not the same.
There is a good passage that says, take your girlfriend to a roadside stand to eat, encounter hooligans to whistle to your girlfriend do not fight against hooligans.
You should work hard to earn money and take her to eat in a more upscale restaurant where there are no hooligans like him.
In this society, where the weak are strong and the strong are strong, some bad guys will always be there, and the damage they bring to you actually has a range.
As you get stronger and stronger and out of range, there's no way they can hurt you.
So you have to keep working hard and keep going to leave the bad guys far behind, and they won't be able to hurt you anymore.
A good circle, a good group is really there, inside a look at all the educated and educated people, depending on whether you deserve.
Or that is, when you are strong, the whole world will be happy with you; and when you are weak, the bad guys are the most.
You have to run all the time, as long as you are fast enough, you will find that the people around you will change:
When you stay in shape and love to work out, those who take your body to talk about it will shut up, and you are surrounded by a group of highly self-disciplined people.
When you go further in the workplace and learn more skills, those who often squeeze you will immediately be polite to you, and your circle of friends and WeChat group has a lot more workplace professionals.
When you earn more money, rely on their own efforts to buy a car to buy a house, those who look down on your relatives will look at you in a different way, more and more people are good to you, everything is smooth.
Life is so cruel, you every step up, your life inside the bad guys will be less so some, good people will be more so some.
When you get to a high enough height, you will find yourself surrounded by good people.
From the table's view of life